ABF/ANR Dating & Relationships
Christmas celebrations like decorating with holly, putting up Christmas trees, and kissing under the mistletoe are rooted in ancient fertility rituals. These are all symbolic acts to celebrate the fertility of the earth and the approach of the sowing season. Continue reading “Unwrapping the Origins of Christmas: From Pagan Pleasures to Modern Traditions”
There was a time when women were worshipped as goddesses, revered as life-givers, creators, and sensual beings. Their bodies were sacred temples, their sexuality a force of power and creation although they were also feared, as man fears that which he cannot understand. Continue reading “Reclaiming the Goddess: Empowering Women to Embrace Their Sexuality”
Healthy sexuality is an essential aspect of our overall well-being, yet it often remains shrouded in mystery, shame, and repression. This is especially true when it comes to the taboo subject of erotic lactation or ABF/ANR, which society views as a kink or fetish. Continue reading “Healthy Sexuality: Embracing Our Shadows and Unlocking Authentic Desire”
In a world as turbulent and fast-paced as ours, the need for love, healing, and gratitude feels more pressing than ever. Every human heart longs for connection—an experience of love that transcends loneliness, fear, and pain. After all this is the reason that has driven many of us here, that yearning for love and our elusive soulmate, like in the Bible’s most erotic love poem the “Song of Songs” where the bride (the divine feminine creation life force) seeks our bridegroom (the soul). But under the mask of “love” or searching for a partner, I’ve also noticed how all of us actually need deep healing from things we do not talk about. Continue reading “Ancient healing through gratitude and the divine feminine”
As the final days of October draw us into Halloween, we stand at a threshold, a powerful transition into the dark half of the year. This time, from Samhain to Beltaine, has long been honored as the season of shadows, mystery, and potent feminine energy. Continue reading “Embracing the Liminality of Feminine Darkness for Transformation and Rebirth”
The earliest known classic reference to breast milk comes from Homer, the ancient Greek poet, in his epic The Iliad. Written in the 8th century BCE, The Iliad contains scenes of maternal care and nurturing, which include mentions of breast milk. Continue reading “Reviving Ancient Practices: Resurrection & Personal Benefits of Induced Lactation”
Space and standing your ground when it comes to people respecting the healthy boundaries you set are crucial not just in love, but for all types of relationships. Continue reading “Why Giving SPACE Is Important For ALL Relationships”
An annular eclipse, sometimes known as a “ring of fire” eclipse, is taking place today on October 2. It will be visible from Argentina and Chile, while a partial eclipse will be seen in parts of the Pacific, other parts of South America and from Antarctica. Continue reading “Swallowing the sun: remembering the Celts and Norse in today’s eclipse”
I identify as a ‘black sheep’, the family problem child or scapegoat; an outcast within my family’s dynamic. Continue reading “Black sheep heroes: dysfunctional families in childhood trauma and adult romantic relationships”
The Epic of Gilgamesh, an ancient Mesopotamian text, dates back to circa 2100-1200 BCE and features themes of heroism, mortality, and the quest for eternal life. Continue reading “The beginning of all…Sumerian Symbolism”
Semen retention is an ancient practice embedded in spiritual traditions like Tantra, Lurianic Kabbalah, and Ayurveda. Continue reading “Semen Retention: A Sacred Practice of Spiritual and Physical Balance”
Esther Perel, the renowned psychotherapist and sexologist, often highlights how modern relationships are more challenging due to the erosion of community ties. Continue reading “Community: a necessary ingredient in finding & maintaining a healthy relationship”
Isis, the ancient goddess of Egypt, embodies the nurturing forces of nourishment, healing, and divine wisdom. Her sacred connection to breast milk weaves a seductive thread of symbolism across centuries and cultures. Continue reading “Milk of Salvation: Isis’ Divine Gift of Breast Milk for Healing, Wisdom, and Vitality”
Throughout history, independent, powerful and confident women have often been cast as witches and prostitutes, Continue reading “Men’s fear of women: the real taboo behind adult erotic lactation”
It’s almost 2 am here in the Emerald Isle… I was going to share a different blog post, Continue reading “Made for this: soul journeys & authenticity”
Following on from my last post where I mentioned the Bible’s most erotic love poem, the Song of Songs, attributed to King Solomon, I’d like to share this beautiful video and a brief explanation to wish you all a beautiful day. Continue reading “Bible’s Most Erotic Love Poem – Solomon’s Song of Songs”
A few nights ago, under the moonlight and surrounded by winds that threatened to unleash a powerful storm, I received a poem from a dear friend and mentor, someone who has become the father I wish I’d had, despite the distance between us—he lives all the way in Canada. Continue reading “Where the mind is without fear”
Why do we have sex? Take a moment now and actually think about the reasons you have sex, then write them Continue reading “Sex: the conversation we’re not having”
Sharing a poem by a friend and respected colleague, poet Tom Hirons on the wild god that lives in all men, and that really needs to be “let out”. Continue reading “Sometimes a Wild God”
Good morning, everyone!
I’ve been truly moved by the comments and private messages some of you have sent my way. Continue reading “I am Wildborn. Moonlight gratitude and reflections…”
The full moon has long been a symbol of mystery, power, and transformation in various cultures. Among the most captivating phenomena is the supermoon, which occurs when the moon is at its closest point to Earth, appearing larger and brighter than usual. Continue reading “Honouring the feminine and milk during tonight’s blue supermoon…”
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New ABF Heaven member Puppler12 recently surprised the live chat by posting this beautiful account in memory of his girlfriend Camilla. It definitely made some tears flow, and other site members reminisced about their personal breast nurturing relationships that echoed the intimacy of Puppler12 and Camilla. This account shows us the value of sharing our deeply felt experiences- it allows us to connect with others who have the same deep emotions, and opens pathways to creating more pleasure and beauty in the world. Continue reading “Sweet Memories of Camilla: True Life Story by Puppler12”
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When I first saw this post in the forum, I was struck by the beautiful writing and the mature, gentlemanly, almost courtly recounting of this special first-time nursing experience. Rob’s profile surprised me with his age- early 30s. The level of maturity and honor he expresses towards feminine energy is rarely found, especially in a younger man. Continue reading “My First Nursing: True Life Story by Rob”
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There can be a subtle hierarchy in Adult Nursing Relationships. Sometimes lactation can be a kink or a fetish, and people can spend lots of time looking for or being that ultimate milky partner. Sometimes, they are experienced with inducing and understand the commitment and physiological demands a lactating woman undergoes. Other times, though, people can be eager for lactation as Something To Do, like a check mark on a sexual bucket list. For anyone who is seeking a lactation ANR or has never previously experienced it, the following account is a good dose of truth and reality. Continue reading “How I Realized a Lactation ANR Is Not For Me: True Life Story by Steve”
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If you’ve ever had your life changed by a nursing experience, this post is for you. If you have ever been discouraged in your journey to find a long-term ANR relationship, this post is for you. Yes, it’s rather long but worth every moment spent reading it, I promise. Continue reading “Nursing, Desire, and Hope: True Life Story by Phil”
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It’s one thing to say you are a breast man or that you like boobs. I mean, what guy would say they don’t like breasts? It’s another thing to have a crystal clear, visceral memory forever seared into the brain on WHY you are a breast man. Continue reading “How I Became a Dedicated Breast Man: True Life Story by Mister Lusty”
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Finding a beautiful piece of writing is one of the most exciting experiences of my life. It’s like turning over a dusty rock in the forest and finding a glittering portal to an unknown world. When the writing is a well articulated true life story, rich with detail and nuance, and describing a relationship journey towards deep connection- honestly I feel like the luckiest person in the world to be granted access to that moment in time. The following story was a forum post on April 14, 2021. The tenderness and authenticity we are invited to witness is so precious. Continue reading “Memories of the First Time: True Life Story by James Donald”
I started my journey into what I know now as ANR in my late twenties. I’ve been lucky enough to have it in small doses in my few relationships. But nothing ever that was a true ANR. I think they did it for me. I really wanted mutual satisfaction, that feeling of bonding and being nurtured for both of us. I’ve talked to quite a few potential partners, met a few, had a few cancel last minute, and tried with a few. But I never felt a connection that stuck. Yes I got enjoyment, but I wanted that “connection”.
That’s when I met her. She messaged me first on this wonderful site. Lynn was a late 30’s, single female, never married, no kids. She’s a NICU nurse in a smaller town. We lived a few hours from each other. Exchanging a few messages, she asked to meet. (it only had been a couple days). At first I laughed, I thought she was joking. She wasn’t. I told her that I traveled for work and that I would be traveling to her town in a couple weeks. All this time I’m thinking, is she real? Am I going to be her next victim and be on an episode of Dateline titled “When ANR goes bad”.
We talked almost everyday for that 2 weeks. A few hours a night, we had A LOT in common. I REALLY liked her, even though we had never met. She was completely honest with me and let me know that she had seen another guy a few times for ANR. No sex. I didn’t know how to respond, I had never done just “ANR”. I told her I’d love to see where it goes. But I did mention I don’t share well.
Discovery
By Joan 
The urge to be suckled is difficult to articulate. Even now, as I stare at this blank computer screen trying to put “that feeling” into something coherent and meaningful that has led me to where I am today.
Even before I knew what “it” was; before I knew there was a name for it, I had always enjoyed being dry suckled and nursed by my husband. It became part of our pillow talk and role play, the quiet sexy talk whispered in a lover’s ear. I liked the sensation of his mouth on my breast hungry for something it no longer provided. I loved the sense of calm it seemed to give him…and to me. His whole body would relax, I could hear the internal sighs of comfort. I would wrap him up and provide that bit of comfort sometimes as a prelude to lovemaking or sometimes as a lull to sleep. His suckling felt different than typical breast foreplay I had experienced. It was deep and soulful, it had purpose and intent. Our sessions went in fits and starts depending on the voracity of life’s events but over time, the pillow talk evolved, and desires were shared. I wanted to nourish him. He wanted to be nourished, but I am what they call a “mature woman”, past the age of making babies. I felt I had an expiration date for such things and mine was way past.
This post is by Lillian.
I was 16 when I fell in love for the first time. Although, to be fair… “fell” doesn’t quite capture it. I took an olympian freestyle high dive into love with him and didn’t come up for air for the better part of 10 years. I lived on my own at the age of 17 – so he and I spent almost every night together. He remains the only man who has ever loved and accepted everything about my body; every taste, every scent, every curve, every mark…sometimes I would ask “But how do you like THAT??” He would say, “I love all of it. This is where you live.”
Even at 16 I was large breasted – which he loved. I was much smaller then and somewhat athletic, so he appreciated them more than I did. My biggest annoyance was that I couldn’t sleep comfortably on my tummy, so I had to get used to sleeping on my side. He would sleep on his side with his face nestled into my breasts and my arms and legs wrapped around him. One night, a couple of years into our dating, he fell asleep before I did. I gazed down at him as he slept and I noticed that his lips and tongue looked like they were softly sucking. I gently moved my nipple toward his mouth and rested it on his lips. At first his mouth stayed closed – but I could feel the slight movement of his lips and tongue. Even though my nipple wasn’t in his mouth, I felt relaxed and comforted by the slight movement and the possibility. I started to doze off – feeling even more close to him than before. I woke a short time later to the sensation of my nipple being sucked. He had awoken just enough to open his mouth and begin to softly suck. I moved as close as I could to him and held his head in my hand. He made a soft moaning sound and wrapped his arms around my back. We were both asleep within minutes.
This is a NEWS ITEM …(wonder if she’s heard of ABFheaven?)
Julie Dennis, 32, from Florida, started selling her own breast milk after she gave birth to a surrogate baby in August 2019.
The entrepreneurial mother came up with the idea when the baby she’d given birth to for another couple turned six months old and no longer needed her breast milk.
