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This is a bit dated and obviously British culture. The question is, “What do you look for in a man?” You see, we all do have our preferences, likes/dislikes and those are individually personal while at the same time, reflective of our culture, circle of friends and the family we grew up in.
I’m answering this as in what I’d look for in a relationship
Attraction,
Emotional intelligence
Calm and level headed
Tactile and high sex drive
Good craic
Masculine
Catholic
Similar politics to meThose are all good things to look for. At least you didn’t say what all the women in the video said… TALL! It sux to be a Hobbit! LOL
I like a tall man but I’m 5″1 so my idea of tall is very different to most others.
That’s fair. The love of my life was 4’11”. We were often told we were such a cute couple. I’m 5’8″
I think im tall, but still its so quiet in here. Soon ill start to say that im only 6’2
I think that tall debends so much about womans hight. More than what we me think that is short..Being tall depends on the national avg and I believe men’s it’s 5,8, anything above 5,11-6 foot is considered tall but a women who’s 5 will see a man 5.7-5,9 as tall
5’1″ is adorable to me. I love when a woman fits in under the arm or has to look up, even on tippie toe to kiss. I remember seeing Shaq with his wife. WOW, talk about a height difference.
I’m not sure a black-and-white clip of a handful of British women from fifty something years ago is going to unlock the great mystery of what women want, but I admire the commitment to the research.
And yes, of course we all have physical preferences. I certainly do. But if you ask me what I actually look for in a man, his height, hair and eye color aren’t even particularly interesting answers.
Is he curious? Can he make me laugh? Does he have something interesting to say? Does he listen? Is he kind when there’s nothing in it for him? Is he comfortable with a woman who has opinions of her own? Is there chemistry? Can we talk for three hours and somehow it feels like twenty minutes?
I can appreciate a beautiful man as much as the next woman, but beautiful gets boring awfully fast if there’s nobody home. 😉
IMHO, those are normal, thinking person attributes that you’ve listed. But you missed one. Can you sit comfortably with one another in silence? Of course these things are more addressing ltr. When I consider ABF, though in my mind it involves a growing friendship, it ultimately will, more times than not, be short lived. The two such relationships I had died as soon as lactation was achieved in the two women in the 50’s who had never been pregnant (or married). I was a tool much like the breast pumps. I don’t regret either because it made them both supremely happy and feeling validated as women. THey were human beings and let me into their secret lives for a brief time. We hope for a novel but some times we’re just a chapter or even a sentence or two in someone else’s life story.
I’m going to push back on “you missed one.” 😂 You asked what I look for in a man. I answered. You don’t actually get to mark my answer incomplete because I didn’t include something that would be on yours.
And yes, being able to sit comfortably in silence with someone can be wonderful. Had you asked me to make an exhaustive list, perhaps it would have made the cut. But that wasn’t really my point.
In fact, I think you’ve accidentally illustrated it rather beautifully. We can both value perfectly lovely qualities in another person and still prioritize different things. Attraction and connection aren’t a standardized test. There’s no answer key.
Which was rather the point of your original question, wasn’t it?
You blocked me, for what I don’t know, but IMHO, I feel this is apropos in a very complimentary and understanding way. One of my bosses, H, was a woman, thrice PhD and head of the main dept of the world renown lab at the time. H was one of those who definitely didn’t suffer fools. She married her Oxford professor who also came across the pond to work at the lab. He never ascended to dept head level. He was a kind, sweet man. I became friends with H, came to see her from a different perspective of boss/slave. LOL. She shared books she was reading and we talked a sport we both participated in, only, unlike H, I never did it in Drake’s Passage. She took a sabbatical one summer and it was at that time that her assistant dept head decided to clean house. A political war of sorts had long been waged over different device manufactures of which I had won a major battle the year before at the assistants disgruntled. By the time H returned I was long gone but I never forgot her and grieved at her passing a few years later. If ever you had seen her sitting alone at the end of the bar, #1 you never would have approached her and #2 if you had, you would have quickly retreated. Her marriage was one of convenience. No children. Never a thought of having children. Her life was her work and she was one of maybe 100 people in the entire world who understood the science. Amazing woman but one who stood alone on her pedestal.
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