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With ABF/ANR,there seems to be an inate sense of intimacy that is often lacking. With that said, does anyone feel that fewer and fewer people want real-time connection and intimacy? I am on a few other sites and the number of fake profiles and grifters out there now is appalling. I am at the point of burnout and losing any faith in humanity
Yes, I experience this. Many are highly transactional and sexual and have check lists and share about past encounters of people without their permission, critique and all. Our world has become transactional, short sighted and selfish. True intimacy is on a decline, but I’m not giving up, yet.
I’m not sure if it’s necessarily people wanting intimacy less. I think it’s more that people are much more guarded and cautious to meet people they’ve only talked to online. And that hesitation is from both men and women.
From the woman’s side, the issue is typically safety and never being sure what danger lies behind a man they’ve only met online and only know about him what he’s told her. From the man’s side, as you pointed out, there’s just so many bots and scammers out that you don’t know if who you’re talking to is legit or just another fake.
And sadly the oversaturation of what’s not real shadows those wanting a real, intimate connection.
I’m sorry to hear about your burnout, it’s definitely a common sentiment among many. And the bots are sadly only increasing with time. I hope things get better for you, buddy. Good luck.
@midwestnoob, thanks for the affirmation. I usually insist on talking over the phone early on. Plus I subscribe to “BeenVerified”. If I am suspicuous I check the number. Typically it is a man masquerading as a woman, sometimes in a far foreign country.
Your profile makes it sound like you want casual sex. If you want a serious relationship with someone, then you probably shouldn’t lead with that.
@infinitesuckles, it should have been implied that I wanted more than casual, as serious relationships take time to develop. However, I took your post under advisement and made some changes for clarity sake. Thanks!
Brye, I’m not convinced people want intimacy any less than they used to. I think plenty of us still crave genuine connection. Finding it, especially online, can just be downright exhausting.
I do wonder, though, if sometimes we get so caught up in finding someone who checks all our boxes that we overlook someone who might surprise us. Chemistry doesn’t follow a checklist, and the best connections often happen when we’re not trying to script every detail.
I also think it’s lovely that you took milkywhey’s feedback to heart. Being willing to listen and reconsider something says quite a bit about a person. 😉
Don’t give up on humanity just yet. There are still some wonderful people out there, and I suspect quite a few are just as tired of looking for each other as you are. 😉
@janet im sure you are quite lovely and the men around you simply don’t know beauty, value, an soul when they see it.
There will always be fakers and posers.
IRL I have met women who were very obsessive or immediate with me. Love bombing me and then they jump out.
What is for you will find its way to you.
Maybe it’s a culture thing? Some foreign women have very different values.
I will say meeting women on this site I find they have more character and kindness in their hearts. It must be their love of nurturing.
I have also noticed they are all highly intelligent. 🤔 big boobs=big brains= big heartsJust keep trying . She might be right under your nose just doesn’t know she likes abf, maybe she doesnt look like your type so you overlook her.
Give them the same energy they give you tho
I think the hook up culture and people who want to meet people just to show themselves up and satisfy their need for validation and vanity has made it all so shallow. Half of people who might want to entertain connection are doing so for sheer attention, so there is no real connection to anything else but their own ego validation, which can be as easily accomplsuekhd by a boot or whomever else who is hot. May be now is more acceptable to get an only fans than it was before so they can get the attention shot they want without having to care about someone truly. If you want to build something more meaningful, there will be someone wanting to be easy and giving immediate satisfaction without a greater connection that means risks, so why would they try for something that at the core, perhaps never wanted if easy option is there.
@ambrosia11 I am also on Fet (if it okay to say that here), and there are numerous profiles there that link to OnlyFans pages. I am done whenever I see that. For me, I only seek validation for being myself. I am coming to grips with the fact that I am now older and less appealing to many women. I guess that in my advancing age I am coming “full circle”, as it were, seeking the type of relationship(s) that turned me on when I was younger- they were never one night stands, but encompassed deeper human virtues. Thanks for your observation though, it is enlightening.
Brye, I feel that ‘people’ haven’t changed one bit, what has changed is the tools that the internet has provided us, they can be a blessing and a curse. Great for introductions to more people, particularly finding those with shared passions. However, we before the internet we used to find friends and partners in the ‘wild’, we met face to face, unannounced so got to see a much more authentic first impression than a sentence or two.
In general, people online will seek to share the best version of how perceived themselves, their interests, photos for example. Text chatting over time creates a mental image of the other person, when it’s time to meet that image can be very different to the real person, nobody is at fault here.
I’d definitely recommend being uncompromising when it comes to your compatibility requirements then also seek to meet on a video call and or face to face as soon as reasonably possible, this in itself can weed out the time wasters, works both ways.Brye, well I can tell you a lot of women feel only attracted to the money so age has less to do for men with dating success than it does with women who become dead as at a certain age for most men, even the men their age, or they are seen as less worthy on dating. People can find what they want more easily and sometimes that just means a shallow exchange of egos with superficial care, party girl meets wallet, or hunk meets a good time. Some people like becoming the stereotypes and some people cant be reduced because there was not that much there to begin with. People are falling on love with chatbots because they can look perfect, and some people just because they answer every single time.
My experience here & on other nursing sites has been pretty disappointing. The men I have met in person are only seeking fantasy fulfillment and not an actual relationship.
There’s male grifters too unfortunately. I’ve hit a brick wall in my search for an ANR. I think I might have better success introducing ANR to someone that actually wants a long-term.
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