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I am glad to see there are some people for who the person who owns the breasts matters, but it often really does not and any new pair would do. I cant get attracted to any parts unless the person who owns them is interesting.A friendship is necessary and the best part but that is often treated as if it matters very little.
You could be looking for an ANR but enjoying ABF until you find someone who is a great match for a relationship. I don’t think that casual nursing encounters negate the desire for intimate, nurturing, bonding, or looking for someone special.
Jibby…..
I agree with that. I don’t think enjoying casual ABF while looking for the right ANR partner somehow cancels out wanting something deeper.For me, the distinction is more in how someone approaches the person they’re talking to. If you’re telling me you want intimacy, trust, nurturing, and a bond, I’m going to expect your actions to reflect that!not just the fact that we both happen to be interested in nursing.
I believe since I only relate with women I have less of the stigma that I’m only looking for a quick encounter.. more of a ABF. There have been women that I’ve had only one session with that I feel deeply connected to. We don’t talk everyday but when we do we still have a deep rooted ANR.
Communication is the key. There is so much vulnerability intertwined in this lifestyle. That “R” can be interpreted in so many ways.
The most interesting part lately is how often in my experience..women are feeling embarrassed or guilty for having the desire.
Yeah I was suprised myself to learn wanting to be a nurse can be just as embarrassing as expressing the want to be the suckler but its been a good talking point to help relate and ease the embarrassment
100%. But there is a huge demographic of people that do kink and intimacy without deep emotional connection. I have but my preference will always be connection. I get irritated when I can tell I am just a pair of tits to someone even though I obviously want someone devoted to them. But at the very least I would hope they could respect my boundaries and be able to chat and get along as people. And I personally wont begin the process of inducing/lactating unless I have a dedicated partner, because it’s so much work financially and physically I wouldn’t want to put that much effort for something casual. Approaching this as something seedy and needing to be discreet just invites people who aren’t willing to connect. I have to like you and get along with you as a person in order to feel comfortable letting you nurse from me as that’s one of the most intimate acts ever. It’s the dealbreaker everytime for me.
To me it’s not only my decision but also depends on the person I’m speaking /seeing too but in ideal world a relationship with anr major part of it. Like a lifestyle
LK 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yes!! This is exactly where I’m at, especially being in the middle of inducing. It’s a lot of work physically, mentally, and financially, and I personally don’t want to put all of that effort in just to become somebody’s convenient pair of boobs 😂 No judgment toward people who genuinely want casual ABF or a breast focused kink dynamic ! if everyone is honest about that, great.What really gets me is the boundary part you mentioned. I’m pretty clear that I need some kind of connection or bond first, and that doesn’t automatically mean romance. We can be the breast of friends for all I care 😂 But actually read what I’m looking for and be honest about whether that works for you.
I wouldn’t read a man’s profile saying he only wants casual ABF and then message him pretending I’m fine with that while secretly hoping to turn it into something deeper. So I don’t understand approaching a provider who clearly says she wants connection, claiming you want the same thing, and then getting frustrated when she actually expects you to build it.
The breasts may be part of the appeal, obviously, but the person attached to them still matters.
I think a lot of guys want relationships but it just so happens the more sought after guys are in it for the sexual part because they have more options. so essentially if women pursued the right men they would realize how many good guys there are out there. Based on the zero responses the vast majority of men get in the forum I would say this to be the case.
James…
I’m not sure I follow the jump from “men getting few or no responses” to “those must be the right men women are overlooking” 😂Not getting responses tells us they’re not getting responses. It doesn’t really tell us why.
There could be a hundred reasons compatibility, attraction, approach, profile, location, expectations, how they interact, or just plain bad timing.
I also think saying women just need to “pursue the right men” puts the whole responsibility on women while skipping over whether those men are actually presenting themselves in a way that makes someone want to pursue them in the first place.
Being overlooked doesn’t automatically make someone a hidden gem. 👀
I guess it depends a lot also of course on the quality of the relation and attraction between both partners.
Friends first centered on ANR and if it grows then I would consider myself very fortunate!
I’m glad to see someone asking a key question about ANRs. It may be true that some people would gladly suckle and cuddle “just any willing breasts”, with no real connection or any plans beyond it. However, a ‘true’ ANR relies on the chemistry and compatibility that only comes from a meaningful bond, with each partner fully committed to sharing this for the long run.
Having said that, though, I should emphasize that there’s no such thing as an ‘ideal’ partner. Life has taught me one crucial lesson: everyone in the world is unique – both in their physique, and in their personality and desires – so no person will ever be identical to anyone else, and any relationship will also be unique. Each partner will have their own likes and dislikes, their own quirks and boundaries, so they must accept each other for who they are, and build a relationship that works for both of them.
I know what I have enjoyed from a previous ANR, and what I hope to enjoy again with someone who shares or understands my desires. But I’ll never find someone exactly like my old partner, so a new relationship won’t be exactly like my previous one. I don’t consider a woman’s physical attractiveness alone to be a key factor – it’s about what she wants and enjoys from ABF that will determine whether we could be a good match. It’s her body, her choice to comfort and nurture a fellow adult in this way, so I would accept a woman just for who she is on the inside, just as I hope she would accept me for myself, both on the inside and outside.
I’m with Rumina on this one, R is relationship. Adult breastfeeding Relationship. The relationship is more than a friendship. Meeting new people forming the connection with ABF, then as feelings develop it’s more, having a relationship. Full blown. Everything. That’s what the R is, on my understanding. There are lots of members stating in their profiles both men and the lovely ladies that they want an ANR. Adult Nursing Relationship. Quite simple from where I’m looking.
Have a look under the main ABF heaven.
ABF/ANR Dating and guess what Relationships.
There you go.
And if everyone was to read people’s profiles I think there should be a statement of what your hoping for. If you don’t know or it says oh I’m new to this but just want to explore, that’s not looking for an ANR.
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