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Or is that a bit too extreme. Me personally I decided to stick to my local area.
I have traveled to England for love once; in my late 20’s. However the relationship ended abruptly do to long distance.
But for others; are you willing to take the risk?
Nope, not at all!
I’m met so many flakes locally, I’d never travel a significant distance. I would have to travel to the area for something else like work not specifically for ANR/ABF.I do travel long distance for my boyfriend (who’s also my ANR partner). But our situation is different than most as we’ve talked as friends for almost 3 years before meeting and we talked on video everyday for a few months before taking the leap to finally meet in person. So my opinion is that if you form a good connection through text/phone/video, then the next logical step is to travel to meet that person. I too went through several local partners who were just fly by sucklers. So for me, the distance is worth it for the connection we have together.
Hmm OK ever past experience I’ve had that was long distance didn’t last and was doomed from the start good for you though.
As a consultant use to travel all the time. Was able to enjoy many relationships with the local ABF community. Now not so much.
Years ago I had a disastrous long distance relationship where the fellow lied about nearly everything for over a year. Lied on the phone, on video, in person. Massive amounts of deceit and red flags that somehow I was blind to.
Fast forward to the present and @johnny5 and I are going to meet in December though we’re over 3000 miles apart.
When two people are open and honest and truly connect, I believe the risk is worth it once trust is built.
A few months ago I would have said the risk was absolutely not worth it, in particular the risk to one’s heart.
My perspective has greatly shifted though.
I definitely would travel even relocate but I’ve also experienced the flaky behavior redundantly within the short period time of even know abf existed.
I’m not totally Agaisnt traveling for love I mean I did it back when I was in my late twenties to Emgland. I actually think it’s very important to be in love especially when you’re young. But there are also risk to consider too before traveling.
I don’ r mind fly the lady over to meet, but I won’t just hopping on a plane to meet someone unless we talked and connected for a considerable time
Within limits. We all have jobs and responsibilities and as much as we all desire a relationship, oft times it’s better to limit travel to a few hours driving. Cross country or international just has too many struggles and a relationship needs in person time.
For me personally to actually form a relationship, I’d also say I’d have to stay local and get to know the person. If I was already in an established relationship, I would travel because thing in life happen that may require someone to move and I’d be willing to do more for someone I have an established relationship with over a starting a relationship from a distance from the start.
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