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I think this is one of the most impactful moments in the movie. Julia Roberts makes a good point.
True intimacy is the art of being fully seen, a rare and grounding experience where the noise of the world recedes, leaving only the truth held in someone’s eyes—a moment where everything else simply ceases to matter.
Attributes may start with physical attraction but, to me it’s what someone has to offer as themselves
When we find a way to accept our imperfections. we can open up and start enjoying all the little joys that the world is full off.
I’m loving these responses! I think it’s super attractive when we accept our bodies as they are. Obviously the scene is referring directly to weight but when I was rewatching the movie last night I was reminded of an encounter I had a while ago.
I met a partner kind of unexpectedly, we both had some time free up, and so I had to go straight from work to meet him and I didn’t have time to do the usual prep. Afterward I was apologizing for my hairy legs and he smiled real big and pulled me close and reached down and started petting my leg and joked about his own hairy legs and held one against mine for comparison. We both laughed and petted each other’s legs and it was one of those sweet, impromptu life moments that I hope will live in my brain forever!
So I guess my interpretation of the scene is: eat the pizza, or go meet your lover even though you have hairy legs, because in the moment, none of that matters and we’re all just happy to be naked together! Sometimes I get hung up on my own shortcomings so this scene was a timely reminder for me.
I’m perpetually 10 lbs away from being 10 lbs overweight. I do my best to make myself look attractive but attraction is more than the visual. Attraction opens the door to more meaningful experiences
So true, thanks Christy, for this! Reminds me to not get naked with guys 8 dont know well enough to decide 8f they know yhe difference between fantady and reality. When a guy starts comparingyou to other women: simply walk out. No discussion, i just leave. So disrespectful!
Sentences starting with: you are on of the….. or: your breasts are one of the most…
Those are not compliments. He just told you are nothing special.
Women please be kind to each other too.When TV shows and movies can no longer teach you anything, you will finally be you.
I wish Michael adds the liking buttons when we like a comment!
I totally agree that relationship with yourself is the most fundamental one to stay healthy and feel attractive. People see you how you feel about yourself.
Another great point is – someone who doesn’t see you will be telling you things in such ways you will feel bad about yourself – this is not someone that loves you, or respect you, or even knows you. You can walk away. There is nothing left there. He can go and ve superficial with whoever, but it is not your job as a woman to please everyone around abd still be left with guilt. I had a body of a model yet I thought I was ugly – yep. I now feel beautiful and happy with my body, yet I am no where near looking like a model. So, it is really how we love ourselves.
It is okay to take time to get to know ourselves, but people on our lives can bring us down just as others can lift us up.
We need those positive reminders – life is about enjoyment. The moments, the nature, people in your life, your family, friends, hobbies, travels, etc….just living the life.
It reminds me I still have long list of places I wanna go and see lol. 👀
I may rewatch the movie just to remind myself how simple life can be. 🙂
Nice discussion!
I loved that. The mental training of letting go of guilt and accepting self is so healthy!!!! I love that. I think I need to see this movie in its entirety.🙂
That was such a good reminder, thanks for posting 🙂 I had a friend with a similar mindset who said almost the same thing, men are just grateful that they’re with a naked woman! But, I still have a thing about my ‘mummy tummy’ but I’ve had it since I was 18 and no-one has been bothered. To be honest, I only give it thought before as during, well the pleasure, the rawness, the realness – thoughts of body image, in fact all thoughts, fly out of the window. I was pretty slim the last time someone saw me naked too (uk 10-12), when I hit 40 that changed. I’m curvy now (16 uk) but much prefer my body and of course I love my bigger boobs. I had to consciously choose, belly or boobs, if one goes, they both go. So the belly…and the boobs stay. Hurrah!
Who gives a monkeys what others think about me, I’m me, I like being me. As I get older, I look in the mirror, fuller stronger figure, love my beer belly. All paid for!! You girls spend hours and hours getting ready, you’re already beautiful, your you. Life is for living.
@breast4u and @hinh, Kat and Nici: i do so agree with you!
Yes we live in society and it has certain ideas of how a woman should be imposed on us all. Takes time and effort to find your own place in it. Actually: its a good thing to reflect on your poaition in it. Sounds cool to say i am who i am and dont guve a damn what snybody else thinks of me, but i think we are humans and relate to each other. Hopefully in a good znd peaceful way. I also love to learn. So nothing wrong with learning from movies, music, art, a book or a show, there are so many ways. To learn and then to choose yourself is magical.
The BBC now has ‘The other Bennet sister’ on Mary Bennett ( Pride and Predjudice), really great!!Aww, I didn’t know there was another show @dairydaisy ! I may check it out soon! I am just getting busy now with summer plans so there will be less TV for me, but I will need a good list of things to watch when I can!
I loved this discussion because we forget so often to thank ourselves everyday how amazing our bodies are!
We are beatiful! Show those bellies out, ladies! Be proud! I am planning to wear less baggy clothes this summer and embrace myself!
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