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I have a quick question of what women value in profiles when they are looking at them? Do you want the bare minimums on there (Like I don’t smell and actually brush my teeth), do you want my life’s hopes and dreams, or do you want to know along the lines of experience? What will provide you the most value for the precious time you are using to look at said profiles? I know my question will be looked at with varied eyes and will either be ignored or will get varied responses, but I really want to know…what do women on here value in a profile? Thank you so much for your consideration and responses!
For me, somewhere between I brush my teeth and your entire life story would be perfect. 😂
I want enough to get a feel for who you actually are. What do you like? What interests you? What makes you laugh? Why are you here? Give me something that makes me think I might actually enjoy spending time with you!
Because that’s really it for me. I can find someone attractive and still have absolutely no desire to spend five minutes with them. I want to read your profile and get some sense that we could sit together, talk, laugh, be comfortable and actually enjoy each other’s company. The rest doesn’t matter much if I don’t like your vibe.
And I pay attention to how someone writes. A little personality, some humor, some curiosity, a brain clearly operating behind the keyboard…THAT gets my attention. I don’t need your résumé or a detailed inventory of your ANR experience. I’d much rather get a glimpse of the person.
And “just ask” tells me absolutely nothing except that I probably won’t.
Good luck! I look forward to reading your profile 🫶🏻
For me, I want enough information to know who you are and what you’re actually looking for. I don’t need your entire life story, but “I’m clean and brush my teeth” is more of a baseline than something that would make me interested in a profile 😂
I like seeing some personality, what kind of dynamic you’re looking for, and enough about your everyday life to know if we might actually get along outside of this interest.
Experience matters less to me than honesty, communication, consistency, and being willing to learn what works for the individual person.
And probably my biggest one ☝️ be accurate about what you’re seeking. If you really only want occasional/casual ABF, say that. If you genuinely want the relationship/connection part of ANR, say that. Neither is wrong, but the mismatch can waste everyone’s time.
Basically, give me enough to decide whether I’d want to have a conversation with you, not just whether you like breasts. 😂
There is no singular entity that browses profiles called “women” whom you can magically appease to statistically defeat and/or tilt the machine in your favor. That doesn’t work: cull it. Here’s what you really want to ask and know:
People (men and women) want to know what kind of ANR/ABF encounter you’re looking to have, and a rough outline of who you want to have it with. Short term, long term, wet, dry. Platonic, sexual: educate yourself and inform yourself re: the menu. Include a sentence or 2 on how much experience you’ve got. Disclose your STD’s and marital status.
Think of the things you’d like to see… and include those.
Don’t just say: “Looking for an ANR partner.”
Don’t just say: “Ask me.”
Be briefly descriptive. Don’t write a novel, like I do. “Women” hate that.
Thank you for that response, LTR-ANR. It is a good one. Another thing people might put in there are the answers to the questions everyone seems to ask, those things you are tired of typing. If people read those, we could get down to the more interesting questions.
Nobody on this site has likely taken a class on how to be a good conversationalist, but you have to give people something to work with, some sort of inkling about what you like.
If the only effort you are willing to give to your profile is, “looking for a partner/ ask me/ just seeing what’s out there”, that is sort of like meeting someone in a pitch black room for the first time and just saying, Hi. Inject some life into your profile so the conversation can find its way out of the dark.
I realise that this question isn’t aimed at me but I thought I would reply from a similar perspective as I’ve genuinely wondered the same thing, so I’m glad you asked this.
I’m not great at working out what should or shouldn’t go into a profile. Some people seem to know exactly how to present themselves and I’m definitely not one of them but I have learned one thing that writing the generic “Ask me” is the fastest way to be ignored.
So I’ve taken the time to put a little more into mine, not my life story, not a manifesto but just enough that someone can get a sense of who I am without needing to interrogate me first.
From what I’ve seen and from what ladies have said in other threads the things that seem to matter most are a sense of personality, not a list of traits but a hint of how you actually think and communicate along with little context of what you’re looking for such as the kind of connection you’re open to and ideally what you’re looking for.
Include something real in just a few honest lines that sound like you’re a human being rather than a template and above all show respect for their time by providing enough information that they don’t have to guess your intentions or drag details out of you.
From my experience most women aren’t looking for a CV, a novel or a confession, they just want to know they’re not about to waste their time on someone who put in zero effort.
I’m still figuring it out myself but I hope this can help.
I would like to thank each of you for your comments and suggestions. I will take note of them and try to create a riveting profile. I also appreciate the private messages that were sent to help as well (To include my bad attempts of being funny). Everyone has been so welcoming and warm. It is great to have that feeling coming on this site!
@triton95 brought up that there should be a few honest lines about people in their profile. And I agree with that and hope that everyone else does as well. But I have an honest question…if I am a tad on the spectrum, is that something that would be useful on my profile or through the normal course of a discussion?Again, thank you everyone so much for your comments, messages, and support!
Sooooo
Diff perspectiveI have seen some lackluster profiles and for whatever reason still chatted with the person and they turned out to be amazing but also I have seen some long detailed profiles and the person had no emotional awareness.
So idk I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer.
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