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I came across a most helpful question the other day. It asked, ‘where in your life are you trying instead of deciding?’
I considered it for a while though not too long, the answer was glaringly obvious to me. Of course this may not be the place for such answers, it’s more for self-reflection but I found it incredibly useful. Then I asked myself ‘why’ am I still ‘faffing about’ ‘trying’ in that area of my life? Then further, what would it look like if I just made a decision?
Trying is safe, inherently positive, and perhaps above all, noncommittal. Much less scary, final than the alternative.
A great question indeed!
There are all these cute sayings – not sure it is right BUT …
“Then further, what would it look like if I just made a decision?”
– Not making a decision IS a decision! (Might be worth finding out the ‘why’ for that, as part of the “self reflection” you call out.)
“‘where in your life are you trying …”
– You won’t know until you try it!
Could it be that this is a “Wicked Learning Environment”?
Interesting question. Could it be that in your case it’s more a case of Procrastination which is when you intentionally and habitually delay or postpone a task that needs to be done. This can be because it’s boring, difficult, or just plain overwhelming. This can happen despite knowing there may be negative consequences for putting it off.
Procrastination is often mistaken for laziness. We delay tasks to avoid the possible negative feelings such as stress, boredom, or the fear of failing that a specific task brings.
Just a thought … !Trying possibly suggests effort should be rewarded, or good intentions.
Others might think only outcome counts.
Trying could mean keeping open the possibility of failing, which is what Joda said leads to failing. A different interpretation is you are open to growth. If you only do things you know, you can’t grow. Either way, be kind to yourself, and embrace that “failure” is part of the journey, so it’s actually a win that you were courageous enough to try. Know that you will learn from the failure and will ultimately succeed.
Yes, Techies has it. The word “try” has baked into it “I might fail” or essentially “worry” which is what Yoda’s telling Luke to abandon. You must abandon worry, that’s legit life advice.
If you’re not sure what to do with all your extra fear and worry, the words you’re looking for are courage and respect.
This is the same scene as the Cave. By taking his weapons into the cave he took his fear and worry with him.
If you’re interested in Star Wars and Luke’s journey, see also Dorothy’s journey through Oz, Alice’s journey through Wonderland, and Neo’s journey through the Matrix. These are all examples of the Campbellian monomyth, the hero of a thousand faces from where Lucas based the story.
Here’s the “There is no Try” scene in the Matrix. Same scene, different skin.
Neo “tries” to jump across the buildings: that doesn’t work. You either jump across, or you don’t. There is no “try.”
Very interesting answers! I do like the idea that ‘try’ has ‘I might not succeed baked into it, I never thought of it from that angle but it goes with the try/tri link that I was thinking about, though apparently there’s no connection between the two words, it seems like decide is twofold a do, or don’t do scenario, try/tri brings in a third option…
There’s no tertiary option, that’s Yoda’s point.
Try = Do Not
There’s only two options: Do, or Do Not. Try is just another word for Do Not.
When you try something, and it works: that’s often a “surprise,” isn’t it? People call that “lucky.” Trying is infamously flimsy stuff. The alternative is to inform yourself.
You can look around and see this here. Most/all people “try” to find a partner/relationship. It becomes rather apparent most people Do Not find a partner this way, because they’re “trying” to do what they see everyone else do: mouth/tit pics, same ol’ same ol’ tropes, same ol’ same ol’ cultural adherence, some ol’ flirting, same ol’ ego, thinking their instance will “work.” It will not.
By allowing fears, worries, insecurities, mistrust and ideological bias to join you, you embody “try” and set the stage for failure. If you try, you will fail to lift the XWing of an ANR from this swamp. If you try, you will fail to make the jump from single to partnered. Same scene, different skin (ad nauseam).
People held back by the sum of their worries are not suitable partners for romance, business or anything.
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