Positive reviews of suckle partners?

[milkywhey]

There are obviously some people on here that women avoid, but there are also some decent people who are good and honest souls that I have been fortunate enough to cross paths with in person.

I wish there were a feature on here where we could rate other sucklers and they could accept it be posted to their profile or not. That way there is no way to weaponize it or anything, since it would require consent.

Would anyone else find this feature useful? Any concerns?

[Carl]

I like it! As long as it isn’t being weaponized! That’s a good system you suggested, I think!

[Captain Two Luscious Cannons]

I like that idea! It’s giving feedback for the suckler to review and improve in areas that are needed and positive reinforcement for what they do well.

[Rumina]

I don’t think this is a good idea. We are not on here for a popularity contest, which it will turn out to be. So it definitely will be weaponized I’m afraid. It’s also pretty predictable who will get reviews and who will not.

Concerns: yes of course! I dont like the idea of people being judged. And if its true what you are suggesting: certain people we need to avoid are known, its not necessary to have a system like that. Gossip does its work already.
Another concern: I don’t like to have a kind of list of people I should like. Its always better to go with your own gut. What someone else does like might not suit me and vice versa. Thats a good thing: people are different!

Thirdly: its empty, like a like on the socials. What is a like based on? It says nothing at all.

And last but not least: Who would want someone who has been with everybody else? Or is it based on nice online chatting? That says nothing about behaviour in real life and therefore is useless. Or did everyone you met online tell you only true stories?

[milkywhey]

Rumina, it is not for a popularity contest, but perhaps one woman’s experience is worth something to another. It is to me. It might be negative to you, but again, it would be up to the person to post it or not on their profile which is not weaponization. People are free to interpret it how they would like. If they do not like that the person has met with someone else, no one would be forcing them to use it or to like what they read, even if it is positive feedback.

[milkywhey]

Also, just as an aside, we are all adults here. Any partner you have been with has been with someone else at some point for suckling or more and I was speaking of suckling only or even just meeting for coffee type reviews, character confirmations. To wish for otherwise at my age (45) or older is unrealistic.

[MizzLizz]

Not the first time the idea has been brought up.
All I can say is don’t bother wasting your time.

[Paul]

I can see how this would add another great layer of protection for the ladies. But on the other hand, I worry about people looking at a profile, seeing no ratings, and deciding it’s not worth getting to know that person. What if they are just new to the platform, or haven’t had many experiences yet? It is already hard for me to meet people because I don’t live close to anyone. If I don’t get any ratings, does that mean I’m not worth it? We all know there are some bad pennies and bad eggs out there, but this might hurt innocent people too. Also, just as food for thought, would men have a chance to rate women as well?

[Jack100]

Good point Paul, I think men would have to be able to rate women as well which is only fair, rather than one rule for one and one for another

[Lola]

I actually really like the problem you’re trying to solve here. I’m just not sure I want ratings to solve it.

I don’t particularly care whether someone gets four stars as a suckler. And I definitely don’t think we need Yelp for boobs.

But what about some kind of voluntary “vouched for” feature?

Not “he was amazing.” Not “she’s a 10/10.” No stars, no ranking, no details about what happened between you. Just something that says, I have met this person in real life, they were who they claimed to be, they respected my boundaries, and I would feel comfortable vouching for them.

THAT would mean something to me.

Because Rumina is right that chemistry is incredibly subjective, and Paul is right that a rating system could unintentionally punish someone simply for being new, shy, geographically undesirable 😂, or not having met anyone yet.

But I think there’s a difference between being unrated and being unvouched for. One sounds like nobody wanted you. The other simply means nobody here knows you yet.

And honestly, I don’t want men rating women or women rating men like we’re Uber drivers. Whether somebody is attractive, interesting, good at suckling, good in bed, or your particular cup of tea is nobody else’s decision to make for you, and is subjective!

But knowing that another person in this community has actually looked someone in the eye, spent time with them and is willing to put their own name behind saying, “Yes, this person is who they say they are”?

I’d pay attention to that.

Maybe we don’t need reviews. Maybe we need references. 🤔

[Michael_Admin]

Very similar topic was discussed here a few months ago :

https://abfheaven.com/forums/topic/verification-by-other-members/

Seems this is really a double edged sword, it might be positive, it might introduce new issues.

Usually it’s best to do nothing in such situations. Better the devil you know?

[Sparkling 💎]

I always liked the idea of a sin bin, a naughty bin, loving bin, etc. you put users in a bin and it goes both ways ..for both genders. Positive
and negative feedback is a part of life. I am constantly evolving and improving and it’s part of life. Would be nice if we could share our bins with our friends so that they can avoid or favor. In this day and age, if people like abf most likely they have met or tried to meet someone from this site at some point in time.

I can think of one imp I know with pointy ears who’s not so bad inside as he portrays outside. I guess if you are named after an angel you tend to try to show you’re not just to be contrary. I bet many men have soft sides which they disguise with rough talk outside because they have been told to not display softness to the outside world. We all have these outer protective layers. Could be that someone you thought was a certain way isn’t really that.. life is about learning, adapting, second chances etc. I have heard this very interesting story of Buddha being slapped by a guy once while giving a sermon under the bodhi tree. How he reacted to the slap was the lesson we all could use as a takeaway in our daily lives.

[milkywhey]

@tuehlykv I hear you, Michael, and I assumed reviews in general had been brought up before. Everything suggested seems to be shut down rather quickly on ABFH and normally by the same people. I don’t think I will suggest anything else here to be honest.

[Grogman🍑🚀💙🦴]

Perhaps as mentioned above a box beside their profile name that gets checked when they’ve met a fellow ABFer. This is to answer the question “are they whom they say they are?”. Nothing more. No ratings. No gossip.
Just a yes she is as her profile describes her to be. 👍🏼

[Michael_Admin]

Hi milkywhey, nothing is being shutdown, please continue to suggest & comment! Just this particular issue is quite thorny. Those for and against all seem pretty valid to me. It’s a difficult one.

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