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I was wondering how others thought and proceeded after contact here as a way of introduction and then meeting.
Is it normal or even required that a photo of the breasts to be suckled be produced and shared before arranging for a meet?
Also, is it presumptuous to think that it is the woman who hosts?
Just wondering. My mind thinks that both would be normal procedurally. The 1st is just a common courtesy. The second would be more as to comfort. Would not a woman feel more comfortable in her own place, on her own couch/bed, wherever, to be suckled?
Inquirers want to know! 😉
I think you are right about the breast pic, you want to see what you are going to be suckling on.
As for q2, I guess it depends on a few things, can the woman accomodate, does she want a stranger in her house, knowing where she lives. I wouldn’t personally. Sometimes a neutral space is nicer 😉
#2. Those are obvious concerns. However, this is about breast suckling, not sex. Would you pay for a room just for an hour or two of suckling? Especially if you want this to be a reoccurring thing. But I certainly agree that one needs to be careful. That is why I always suggest meeting first in a neutral/public place. I usually suggest Walmart because of all the cameras. But I’ve learned that Lowes and HD both photograph license plates and in-store shoppers.
(1)Knowing what she looks like is rather important for a first meeting. A head or full body(clothed) is nice. A picture of her bosom isn’t necessary. She will provide any if that’s her desire.
(2) Definitely meet in a public place. Safety first. When the time comes to get together meet again then go to a state park, hotel or whatever. Let her decide when or if to go to her domicile. Don’t apply any pressure just let it happen.I think if the woman is comfortable sending a pic of her breasts, then that’s a plus. I definitely enjoy looking at pics, but if a woman told me she was leary of sending one, that would not be a deal breaker. There are too many stories of pics being used for blackmail from men and women. As far as hosting, I don’t mind getting a room for the first few suckling sessions. We would meet in a public place and go from there. If a woman immediately invites me to her place, that’s actually a bit of a red flag for me and makes my spidey sense tingle. I like my kidneys and want to keep them as long as I can 🤣
As a female who has been here for two years I learned a long time ago to not send breast pictures. This is because of bad experiences. One apple can ruin the batch. One picture can turn in to many requests. You send more in hopes of meeting and the partner never follows througg and now he has several boob pictures. Also I am not going to be some guys porn. Most guys just dont stop at the first picture. I will meet a guy in public before ever letting them come to my hkuse. If the connection isn’t there from a neutral meeting I would not want to give my address but I wouldn’t want to waste either of our time and let him nurse. If a guy is truly vested he won’t mind a hotel for the first meet in my opinion either. As a girl with boobs we open ourselves up to a lot when we agree to take out our boobs and let a guy suck. These are just some of my thoughts from experiences i have had not all say who they are.
THx for your reply. I get the picture thing. We men are visual creatures. A wise woman will understand that and use it a wise way. Maturity. Respect. I didn’t look at your profile so don’t know your age. IMHO, it is usually as we age we mature and don’t play such games. But there are always the few that ruin it for the rest of us.
Totally agree with meeting to discern the chemistry. That goes both ways. When I got out of the military, me and my bf ended up in Seattle for our connecting flight home. There was this gorgeous, buxom lass that kept walking past us. My friend and I looked at each other in agreement to the obvious question. Then, without much adieu, she came and sat down next to us and began shoving a cancer stick in her mouth with teeth that would have made a Scotsman proud. Heavy southern accent that loved four letter words. You didn’t hear that back then. So my friend and I again looked at each other, shrugged our shoulders, got on our flight and went home. You can’t judge a book by it cover.
The only procedure is one of the greatest gifts of mankind – communication.
Well, I think you’ve just given us a perfect example of why these conversations are so important!
A photo of someone’s breasts isn’t a common courtesy. It’s something a woman may choose to share, but certainly shouldn’t be expected to.
And as for hosting, I actually think the opposite. Inviting a man you’ve never met into your home means giving him your address and access to your personal space. For many women, that’s considerably LESS comfortable, not more.
I appreciate you asking, though! It’s interesting how differently men and women can perceive the exact same situation. What’s perfectly reasonable in one person’s mind might raise every red flag in another’s. And that’s precisely why we need to talk about these things.
The woman feeling safe and comfortable is the most important. You feeling safe is also just as important. Why make anyone feel unsafe? And why would you compromise anyone’s safety for money?
And wouldn’t it be the best experience if everyone feels safe and comfortable?
I guess everyone’s situation and comfort level is different. I also think different stages in life come into play.
Also, I think men shouldn’t ask for a picture. Let the woman offer it. There are so many scenarios.
There’s also the fact that the picture sent was stolen from somewhere else. Or that individual likes sharing their pictures. Which brings up something I’ve been pondering of late.
ABF is something of an eroticism much like someone who enjoys exhibitionism. Last year I found out my sleeply little community has a very robust swapping community. Is that what you call them? But each of these have individuals in it who are less than “balanced.” Even here on this site you will find a full range of people. I don’t think any of us here would wear a shirt in public with wording or a symbol advertising ABF. Before the internet, how would one go about finding a partner specifically for such an adventure?
Thx for your reply.
Of course not. It’s up to her to decide what she wants to share.
I’m mystified why one would think that the woman should host the first time.
It’s not about gender, that’s why ya’ll are throwin’ darts in here.
It’s about dominance.
Men tend to be dominant. Usually. But not always. There’s plenty of dominant women. I’ve dated women who host the first date. And I’ve hosted first dates. It’s a 2 way street every day of the week.
The dominant one will host most of the time. Or, tell the sub to host 🙂 They’ll run the show, if not influence it heavily. That might usually be a man, but it can be a woman if she’s the more dominant figure in the relationship.
Trying to figure out which “gender” is this and which “gender” is that will always leave you a wrong, stopped clock. It’s about D/s, not gender. That’s what time it actually is. As is often the case.
And now, back to your regularly scheduled gender debate…
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