Why I might delete my account

[Sparkling 💎]

People have been talking about why women delete their accounts..so I thought why not tell you why I am thinking of deleting my account.

People have witnessed how some people treat others but don’t really do anything about it.

Passive aggressiveness, being unkind, constantly trying to get an upper hand in any discussion are some reasons I am thinking of leaving..

I have made great friends and will miss this place. Will chat with Michael in the morning about this.

I hope you all remember to be kind to others 💕🥰🌺

[Dave]

I am sorry to see you are thinking of leaving. I think many of us enjoy your posts.

[NOC]

Please don’t leave. I’m oblivious so maybe I miss things. What happened?

[The Lover Boy]

Oh I’m sorry to hear that you will be leaving! I genuinely enjoyed having conversations with you and you are such a lovely person! We will miss you as well! ❤️

[NOC]

Ok I see now. Had to scroll. Don’t leave. I see both sides.

You were just trying to help. I see where she is coming from too. She just wants to keep the gossip out of the public chat and she’s very direct about it. I would not take it as a personal attack.

Please don’t leave.

[Rumina]

I am really sorry to hear this. I like your stories and i value your opninions on several issues.
Of course i will respect your descision.

I just dont like discussing personal likes and dislikes when it comes to individuals. I will allways tell someone not to do that, not just you. It doesnt matter who is talking.
I would like this to be a safe place for everybody thats why.

[Real ABF’er]

Hey, sometimes life can get sucky, it happens to all of us. When it does get sucky, it’s ok to take a break and return fresh. I don’t know any ill-will that is involved, but your goodwill is noticed and transcends any negativity 🙂

[Peter]

I’d be terribly sad to see you go Sparkling. It’s a recurring problem with all online chats that people can often get hold of the wrong end of the stick. When that happens I find it’s best just to write it off as a misunderstanding and move on

[@mobchip]

@sind I hope you can make your way back “home” cause I’ll miss you here, even after the short time I’ve been really active on this. I really appreciate hearing your comments on my future posts.

Again, I’m going to miss you, and I really hope this is just a brief vacation.

[Lola]

Sparkling, I hate that you’re feeling this way. You’ve brought so much warmth, humor, and personality to this little corner of the internet, and I’d genuinely hate to see you go.

I also think there’s something worth paying attention to when someone who contributes so much starts wondering whether it’s worth sticking around. We don’t all have to agree, but kindness shouldn’t be too much to ask.

Whatever you decide, I’m glad our paths crossed. 💕

[Sparkling 💎]

I am not going to say anything other than say you may have thought coming into a discussion and calling it “war”, “not setting a good example”, “spreading gossip”, “being negative” good? Other’s saying “silly and dumb question” “making up fake stories” “did you check chat gpt” as being productive…. then you are not even thinking of the person you are hurting on the other side.

Blocking a person means you had bad interactions with them where they jumped down your throat for something. It doesn’t give you a reason to keep needling them in the chat room or following them in the forum to say that what they posted is not right etc. Those are bordering on toxic interactions and just finding the right tribe and then going after the user is again planned toxicity because now you have isolated them while they are hurting by what you said.

Who are you competing with ? What are you trying to do? What are you gaining from going after 1 user when she’s just minding her own business and not said anything to you in months? After she asks why? you post “lighten up, don’t be serious. “ that’s classic passive aggressiveness.

When this goes on for years it’s something that makes people isolated, silent and afraid to share themselves or their thoughts. When they do start interacting again then y
Then you come and say “I don’t like this, I don’t like that .. “ what about the other person ? Have you given them a second thought? Why not give them the same privilege of leaving them alone as they have left you alone. What about their freedom to chat and share opinions in the chat room ? Are you trying up say that only what you like should be discussed and since you both have blocked each other you are going to keep trying to needle her when she isn’t interacting with you to see what gets a reaction from her.

People who are in that discussion also keep quiet and don’t want to get in between and never help to my knowledge other than a few times. It’s insidious and needs to stop.

It’s all toxic after a while and I understand why people hide and don’t want to be active on a forum to show their selves.

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