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Maybe it’s me, maybe it’s just the area I live in but. I wish to ask if anything in this statement would be a cause for being blocked? I was replying to the recipients past experience. And I’m sorry if this isn’t allowed
“I’m sorry you had that experience For me the spark between two people is important. But I value a persons character even more”
LondonMan,
There are people here that will block you for any reason.
You breathe irregularly
You compliment them
Your profile picture is hideous (quote from a female on another site about mine, different than this one).Move on. People are nuts or can be extremely petty…..
yes i know you will be talking to them and next you know you are blocked and they dont tell you.
@conmech
People will block you for many reasons, some you might feel are unjust. But they’ve made their mind up. There’s no point dwelling on it, you can’t change their mind. You’ve got nothing to prove by trying to ‘out’ someone for blocking you.
Yes it’s definitely annoying to get blocked for no reason. Unfortunately you just have to not worry about it. The women on this site have to be able to block anyone, for any reason, or for no reason at all.
For what it’s worth, I think I would get blocked quite a bit if I were a standard user of the site, logging in now & then and sending out a few messages. It comes with the territory.
Also for what it’s worth, there are quite a few users with several hundred people on their “block list”. So it’s not uncommon to get blocked.
The biggest problem is there’s a lot of guys out there that harass women. So when the guys that aren’t actually harassing women try to talk to them they get the heat for it. In their mind certain words or phrases trigger, “Oh he’s a pervert” response in their mind and so they block you. Just a crappy hand we are dealt with as guys of ANR/ABF passion…
I don’t see how talking to someone normally and respectfully will result in someone thinking you’re harassing them.
The only time that will happen is if you keep messaging someone demanding a reply.
I can put good money on a lot of people doing that, then moaning that they’ve been blocked.
Yeah ANR/ABF involves boobs and nipples and is a kink/fetish for some, but that doesn’t mean everyone wants an opening message about how you think their tits are great and that you can suckle for hours.
You all have a point . From a womans point of view. I try to b as honest as possible but I agree.There are some things that are so explicit, so over the top that have been said to me I could vomit.As an adult I do feel bad for people who are honestly here and are transparent to a reasonable degree. I try to clear the slate with each person. I have been disrespected, stood up sooo my apologies to all decent guys. In my opinion nothing wrong with saying character is VERY important. Stay safe all, Darla
Here’s a little perspective for anyone frustrated with being blocked.
I’ve been on this site long enough to see a lot of other females come and go, either making their profile inactive or deleting themselves. It’s mostly out of frustration that has a lot to do with statistics, geography, the nature of internet people and the resultant/subsequent “realities of the internet” (oxymoronic, lol).
I’ve been blocked by people I’ve never talked to & it doesn’t bother me because I know it might not have anything to do with me personally.
Instead of leaving the site entirely, some of us will block huge swathes of members that are too far away to ever meet (or ANY other reason that we decide at the time). One reason for this could simply be that those members won’t take up screen-space in the NEW, ACTIVE or POPULAR MEMBERS lists (of 10 ea), so we can see more guys’ profiles that we’d otherwise miss seeing.
Being blocked might not have ANYTHING to do with you personally, much less what you’ve said or done. It’s sometimes used as a filter by some to make the members list smaller, for whatever reason or desire.
I hope this puts some minds at rest. 🙂
@brittany
So block those immediately outside of your scope and move on….. got it.
I can certainly see blocking if your harassed or someone being vulgar. I was planning On meeting this person for coffee the next day. I just wish people would act like adults. I realize we need to feel comfortable but if you never meet someone how is that going to take place?I hope others are having much better luck than I
MRT, I certainly empathize with your situation and I wouldn’t just block somebody that’s in the same area as I without an explanation. That’s just “internet weird” (ie. mal-adjusted and lacking any social skills). I agree that although it’s not immoral, it’s highly disrespectful to one’s self, not to mention the rejected (and probably confused and dismayed) person on the other end.
In fact, for 8 months, I keep talking to locals (and those not local) from time to time, even though they know I’m not going to meet them for reasons they know.
Of course, I DO block people that are “asking for it”, but often I first inform them that I’m blocking them and exactly the reason(s) why. People need feedback like this for various reasons. Although it’s uncomfortable (for both parties, mind you) it’s akin to constructive criticism, helps us make better future decisions and also helps us be better socially well-adjusted.
Better luck? lol I’ve been on here 8 months and haven’t met a single person, either because they’re too far away or it doesn’t pan out because:
*They’re married and either not serious or go cold for various reasons (eg. thinking that I must know them &/or their family, which isn’t true)
*We don’t find each other physically attractive -or no chemistry/connection (and there’s BOTH sides needed for that)
*They’re fake or otherwise not serious and are intent to ONLY play games, get pics, have cyber/phone-sex & jerk off (most often the case)
*They just can’t carry on a conversation or otherwise communicate (and it’s un-ladylike for me to pursue a guy like that)
*Some are too adolescent or too old (in that case, most often, haven’t taken care of themselves, not in shape and look like they’re pushing 90)
*I find them recklessly promiscuous due to their past experiences or current intentions
*They’re not comfortable with our open marriage and/or don’t want to have to see/interact/”compete” with my husband
*Our personalities and/or world-views conflict, which kills any kind of attraction
Not saying this applies to anyone here, but in general I have a policy for not telling men when they let off certain red flags as I don’t want them learning how to hide signs that they have negative attitudes towards women from the next woman. Men with certain attitudes aren’t going to allow themselves to be educated by a woman, so there’s no point in wasting my breath and it could potentially save his next target a lot of hurt.
Also I know it’s harsh to some, but when you’re getting loads of messages from men (a lot of whom obviously haven’t read your profile) it’s hard to see and respond to the ones you might be interested in, so I’ve found eventually you have to just delete and move on or you’ll never get a chance to get to know someone you could connect with. Sometimes the same guy will send you a one word message over and over despite not fitting what you’re saying in your profile, so I can imagine women who’ve been on here longer than me might get fed up of not being able to navigate their inbox and pre-emptively block instead of just deleting.
People can not click for any number of reasons, and consent is actively saying yes, not justifying why you’re saying no.
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