Whys this so hard to find

Good things are hard to find. Your efforts will pay off. You just have to believe it and don’t give up!

It could be any number of things.

First, remember that what you are looking for is taboo for most of society. That one thing alone narrows down the options.

As already mentioned, another issue is location. Sometimes you may just be too far away from where interested women are. The good news here, is that as time goes on the possibility of someone near you showing up on the scene increases. So the moral of the story here is to be persistent with your efforts and don’t slack off. Be patient. Very patient.

If you’re in an area where you know there are interested women, then you may need to look at how you are approaching them. Go back and examine what you’ve done and said and how they reacted. Try different ways to get them interested in you. I find reading their profile can be helpful and give you a direction to follow. But for sure, if you’ve had some initial conversations and they all go nowhere, then look closely at yourself and what you’re doing.

This is a generalization, but most younger people rely on text as the primary, and sometimes sole, source of communication. As an older person, I think text is fine for initial meetings but soon after I want to talk to the other person; it lets me get to know them better, and I can show more of myself, and really learn if things can develop or not.

Another issue is how flexible you are. Here is an example. Let’s say you’re looking for a nursing relationship, which is generally closer and more connected than just having a breastfeeding partner. But all you can find is women who want to just breastfeed. So, do you immediately walk away from the situation if it doesn’t meet your exact specifications? Or do you consider trying things out to see where it might go? One never knows how a relationship can develop, and if you don’t at least try, you’ll never know.

These few things are the tip of the iceberg. I hope they give you food for thought, and hope for the future.