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Hello everyone,
Haven’t been on here for long but the journey to find a compatible ABF/ANR partner has been interesting. Curious to know why do people ask for photos? Particularly in this time and age where we have video conference and video chat. I don’t send photos and I personally don’t request photos because they serve no purpose for me. Nevertheless, I’ve notice every guy I’ve encountered has requested a photo. Why? I want to give people the benefit of doubt and not assume they are out here collecting women photos to get their rocks off but who knows? Once you hit send it’s practically out of your hands how the recipient chooses to use your image.
Any thoughts?
I didn’t ask for any photos in my message to you 😊 pity you didn’t even reply though
I like to see whom I chat with. Any talk of photos would wait until after multiple chats.
Some people like to move at different paces. Also, not everyone immediately jumps to a platform where video calls are possible, so a photo would be the only option.
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I like to exchange photos after 1. two or three healthy texting chats where it seems vibes are good! which leads to 2. a voice call in the chat. After those successful connections I am good with photo exchange. However, I do not give photos after one sentence or paragraph from someone new to my inbox.
Personally, I see no need to exchange photos with someone I’m just “talking” with, such as an international gentleman who I will most likely never meet. Photos are for someone I intend to meet.Theres no point in it if you arent going to meet. Just talking no point. And lots just want them for the reason Candee mentioned.
I like to see a face photo. No sense in talking with the goal of meeting if you don’t find each other visually attractive.
I don’t want a woman to think I am a photo collector, so I’ve never asked for one. If she wants me to have a photo, she’ll send it to me.
Hi, Grogman, thank you for sharing. May I ask if the intention is to know who you are talking to or to get to know someone why choose a still image (photo) as oppose to engaging with a live person (via video chat)?
I agree with NJ. No point in meeting a person who isn’t at least somewhat physically appealing to you.
I’ve also been on the receiving end of it. Talked to a lady, after a couple of introductory messages she asked for my photo, so I sent her a photo (just my face, nothing else), then she stopped replying. I think I even got blocked.
Another woman did the same thing, but at least she said that she won’t meet me because of my beard.
Many people ask for photos from the start, both men and women, to assess if there can be a physical attraction. So saying that it’s just a pervy thing men do makes no sense.
As an introvert, I can confirm that it feels much easier to exchange a couple of photos than to go on a video call without knowing the person well enough 😄
Hi New in nj, thank for sharing. Many share the same sentiment about using photos as a tool to gauge physical attractiveness. Yet in my experience many people particularly men are not good photo takers or photogenic so often photos don’t do the person justice. Another thing is photos are static leaving to much open for speculation, assumptions and false expectations (aka catfishing).
Hi Leon, thank you for sharing. Claification, in my post I am speaking from my experience speaking to both men and women on this platform. In my experience to date no woman have asked me for a photo but over 90% of the men (except Maurice– Hi Maurice!) have. Again this is my experience, not sure how you interpret my experience as being pushed as some universal truth in which only man engage in such behavior and woman don’t?
May I ask what you do with the photo(s) once you receive it/them? Do you delete them or do they remain store on your device?
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