Question: religion.

[Nici]

Overall, there are a lot of thoughtful answers. Many are not coming from a religious perspective, which I get to admit was what I was seeking. This was meant to help those who personally seek ANR [AND] wade through religious commitments, promises and lifestyle. Still I appreciate the thoughts shared. Fantastic opportunity to see what people think! Thank you so much!

[Nici]

Oops!
Correction needed since it does not allow me to edit my responses for some reason:

Overall, there are a lot of thoughtful answers. Many are not coming from a religious perspective, which I get to admit was not what I was seeking. This was meant to help those who personally seek ANR [AND] wade through religious commitments, promises and lifestyle. Still I appreciate the thoughts shared. Fantastic opportunity to see what people think! Thank you so much!

[Cut Tan]

@hinh

Hmmm … if the ANR is within a relationship approved/ordained by the religion being followed, then all of this is a moot point and a non-issue!

Now, as I articulated above, if one is seeking a partner outside of the the relationship approved/ordained by the religion in question, the covenants of the religion should/would be in force – violating the covenants and seeking a partner outside is a choice and asking if that can be excused is merely a hallmark and emblematic of being human. That one wants somebody to approve that exception is merely silliness! Forgive, yes!

Essentially, one can’t have the cake and eat it too! Delusion of grandeur is a very real issue when in denial.

[Nici]

Cut Tan:

Thank you for taking the time to share your perspective.

I believe, however, that we may be discussing two different questions.

My original inquiry was not whether individuals should violate their religious covenants, nor was I seeking justification, approval, or exceptions to those covenants. I would agree that each person is accountable for the commitments they choose to make and the standards they choose to follow.

Rather, my question was directed toward those who hold religious beliefs and who are actively navigating the intersection of faith, intimacy, relationships, personal desires, and spiritual commitments. The purpose was to understand how they approach that process, what challenges they encounter, and what insights they have gained along the way.

As such, I am less interested in debating whether another person’s faith permits or prohibits a particular practice and more interested in hearing firsthand experiences from those who have thoughtfully wrestled with the question within their own religious framework.

I appreciate your contribution, but I believe we have likely reached the limits of what can be gained from continuing this particular line of discussion.

[Cut Tan]

“In responses, please know we respect each other and listen. We do not have to agree.”

I guess you have deviated from the above?

What makes you conclude these are not “firsthand experiences”?

Just curious …

[Anonymous]

Just wanted to quickly say that seeing these responses really helped me to reflect and meditate on these things as this was also on my heart when first joining this site especially as a newer born-again Christian.☺️ I try to keep checking myself to make sure I’m moving in a God-honoring way as I explore this site, make sure to conduct myself in a way worthy of bringing glory to His name, attempt to make friendships by putting myself out here socially, produce my own creative works and more. I sincerely apologize if my input here is in any way inappropriate, off topic or offensive as it is not my intention to cause harm. I don’t have much to add at this point since I’m still navigating all of this, but please know that I’m so thankful for you to take the time to post this discussion and for all those who put in effort to respond in kind. 💕 I think Steve’s response was extremely helpful for my own walk with the Lord in this journey I’ve recently decided to embark on and, for that, I’m so grateful to have come across this very topic right when I needed it the most. God bless.🌷

[Rumina]

Thanks for this very interesting topic and the effort people take to answer.

Question: is it specifically religious to need a connection before focusing on the physical part of the relationship? I mean: doenst that apply fir people who are looking for a long term monogamous anr in general as opposed to people looking for hook ups?
Disclaimer: i respect the answers in which religion is important. I understood and dont mean to oppose.

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