Profile: Meet option/Exploring/Chat Only? (identify a timewaster 6 qs)

[Logic Vox]

I think a great profile update would be for every profile to have
1) I want to meet people
2) I am exploring
3) I am here just to chat online

This would save everybody so much time and ensure better conversations happen to filter out the people who have no intention on meeting. So how to identify someone who is never going to meet in 6 questions…

1) What kind of ANR dynamic do you want?
2) When can you meet physically in person?
3) Are you available to meet during your free time for a coffee?
4) Can you host? Do you want me to host? Or book a hotel for the first time?
5) What type of person do you want to meet?
6) If you’re talking for a few weeks then the question needs to be why are you available to meet online but not offline?

If the answers are the following
1) I don’t know. I would like someone to suckle comforting.
2) I don’t know – I’m really busy. I would like to talk and get to know you online first for a while
3) I need to check – I’ve got a full schedule. I run my own business, I’ve got kids to look after, my job life takes lots of my time. Never comes back with a time/day.
4) I would prefer hotel but don’t know when we can meet. I’m quite busy.
5) I would like to meet someone nice.
6) ermm I just pop in and out when I’m free and answer your messages. I like talking to you and want to get to know you more.

FINAL QUESTION: If you don’t know what you want, don’t know when you’re free, and don’t know when you can meet, what exactly are you here for?

If they can’t answer all six they haven’t thought about it or can’t imagine it. Its a major red flag. Just because they are online doesn’t mean they are available and its actually going to happen.

For those that are here for chats who declare it you are the good ones. Thank you for being honest.

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