I found it as easer to state in my profile a public place I was at, the days I as there, and if interested to look me up there. Doing so saved me hours of search time and weeded out the lurkers, trolls, bullies, bull shitters, and ghosters. If get contacted here, I simply delete the message because they obviously haven’t even taken the time to read my profile or create the one of their own, why would I waste my time on someone who can’t take the time to invest in themself? I simply stopped participating in meet ups because of the male attitude. I currently have 4 full time ANR partners whom I meet with throughout the week. None of my partners did I meet through here. The male attitude of most here is simply gouche and a waste of my time to get involved in or with.