Okay…what are YOU bringing to the table? 👀

[Jibbysheaven]

This is why I won’t induce unless I am in a genuine, committed relationship with someone that will go through that process with me. And, not just a committed ANR. I mean a relationship that has potential for us to spend the rest of our lives together. And, from my experience, the men that claim they are good at it or that they don’t need to read on how to properly latch because “they got it” are terrible at it and make me sore. They’re all teeth and flicking the tip of my nipple with their tongue. 🙄

[Creamandcoffee]

@jibby
THIS is exactly the kind of perspective I was curious about. 👀 For you, the commitment has to already be there before you’d even consider putting your body through induction, and I completely get that.

And the “I got it, I don’t need to learn” part 😭😂 confidence is cute until somebody’s nipple is paying the price.

[TJR]

This topic dropped off the “recent” list pretty fast, and didn’t get a lot of replies. My personal feeling is… I don’t think many people would get “upsetty spaghetti” over it because the answer will be different for everyone.

Ultimately I think it comes down to the individual and what they are looking for. I would think everyone is different when it comes to what they “bring to the table” as far as a nursing relationship is concerned. Likewise… I think a lot of people reveal what they bring to the table right in their profiles and/or site activity, and in their private messages, too.

One of my all-time favorite forum posts (and I say “favorite” euphemistically, of course) was from a gentleman who posted a message saying he would be driving through a few states on a road trip, and wondered if there were “any lactating women would want to be a pit stop” (yes, he said “pit stop!”) to feed him as he passed through town. So he basically showed what he would bring to the table in one simple sentence.

A large number of profiles (both male and female) on this site have absolutely no useful information whatsoever about that person, so it’s hard to determine what those people might bring to the table unless or until you start a dialog and get to know them.

Anyway… I think @latchon15 was right. There would be a LOT involved in the act of inducing, on the part of both people. Some men are prepared to share the responsibility, effort, and hard work, and others are only in it for the kinky thrill and couldn’t care less how much effort it took you to induce. They are only interested in what you can do for them.

@jibbysheaven stated that she’s looking for a committed relationship, and there are many men on here who feel the same way. So in those cases, I think there would definitely have to be a commitment by both parties. A willingness to communicate. To go through the process together, share the successes together, work through the rough patches if things didn’t go as planned, and just share the responsibilities and put in the effort MUTUALLY.

Someone who’s ready and willing to do whatever it takes wouldn’t have to advertise it in a forum post or on their profile by saying things like “I’m an experienced suckler,” or “I’ve induced women in the past,” like they’re posting a resume to impress you or producing an infomercial and a “satisfaction guaranteed or your money back” kind of thing.

The opposite might be true, too. If a woman is already lactating or has already induced, and doesn’t mind hosting someone who wants to drop by and share her milk (or be a “pit stop” for random travellers, as the one guy hoped), there wouldn’t really need to be shared effort because that person would have already done the work and isn’t looking for anything serious.

Like many topics in these forums… it all comes down to each individual and what what they’re looking for. A lot of people reveal what they bring to the table before they even send a first message, if you take time to look through the site activity, puzzles, and photo commentaries. And I’m sure many men reveal what they bring to the table with their very first private message, too. But when you take time to get to know each other, ask questions, and build a connection first, the question of what you bring to the table often gets answered without actually being asked.

[Creamandcoffee]

@tjrforanr
The PIT STOP?! 😭😂 See, that right there is exactly what I mean about people sometimes showing you what they bring to the table without even realizing they’re doing it.

And I agree with the bigger point too. If you’re actually taking the time to get to know someone, a lot of that mutual effort starts revealing itself naturally.how they communicate, whether they follow through, whether they care about the process or are just excited about the end result.

I also think there’s a difference between “everybody brings something different” and whether what they’re bringing actually feels mutual to the person they’re trying to build that dynamic with. That’s really the part I was curious about. 👀

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