The Problem With “Protecting” Women 🙄

[Cass]

Very well put, couldn’t agree more. I love the emphasis on choice.

I think most men have good intentions in trying to protect women from harm (few who may be loud and aggressive “in their defense” just seeking favorable attention but I digress), especially if they have sisters, daughters, nieces, friends, etc. that they’ve seen effected by it. But as you said, focusing on “protecting” them may come from a thoughtful and good heart but the outcome still results in “I’ll go ahead and take control of this for you, you won’t be able to handle it.” And they’re often really not to be underestimated lol.

I think it would be nice if instead of focusing on giving them protection, focus on how to give them options like you said. Instead of “what can we do to restrict some men from messaging so they don’t get in the way of the rest of us”…you could just simply give the woman an option to close her inbox. She can’t receive any messages until she decides she wants to and if she’s bad enough she can close it again. For example. Or the option to limit who can message you by region or something. “Only all messages from those in the same state. Or same region, country, from anywhere, etc.”

Just a couple examples to make my point. If everyone focuses on giving women here the ability to navigate with ease of mind on their own terms, then it’ll make for a much more enjoyable experience for everyone and would likely see a lot more success overall.

Just my thoughts though, always happy to hear any criticisms or disagreements. We’re always initially limited to our own perspectives.

[Lola]

Cass 😘, I think we’re very much on the same page! Give women the options and let us decide how to use them. I especially appreciate that your suggestions put the decisions in the hands of the individual rather than making them for everyone. That’s exactly the distinction I was hoping to make. Thank you for such a thoughtful contribution!😘

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