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TJR I had all the opposite experiences that you mentioned, every female I met up to breastfeed with wanted sex more than breastfeeding and that’s why I never went back to them because I didn’t want to be sexual on the first night. I met a few on other websites as well but all the woman I met to start a breastfeeding relationship with just wanted to have sex instead. But not to mention the hundreds of females I rejected after asking them on here and other dating sites an ill have a long profile about breastfeeding an they always reply back well what will you do for me if I let you suck my tits….always asking for sex in return even when their profiles clearly say not here for a hookup
Jon :
With respect, please keep this topic on track with the general points the original poster was making.
Summary (his opinion) :
– too many users on ABFheaven, both men and women, are using the Spicy chatroom & forums to flirt/fantasize etc, and it is an unhealthy attitude and will not lead to successful real world relationships.
I apologize but how are my postings different than what the original posters topic? I only added my comments because I had thought they were on topic with the original poster of this forum.
Im advertising and saying ill relocate to anyone after about a year of getting to know them so i thought that was a healthy way to meet someone on here, i personally never have chatted in the chat room and today’s my first time commenting on the forum, i agree with you and it sucks that people are using these places for unhealthy real world relationships
“Re: The Spicy Chat room and forum posts.”
Oh ok I understand now i had missed this part in the very beginning that was the reply to that other topic I honestly didn’t understand that until now
Im sorry for the misunderstanding ill not comment anymore
Please continue to comment ..on topic! 😀
Your contributions are welcome.
All opinions are welcome.Thank you man, and I apologize again without that top part I put in quotes in my last message about his original post turns into something completely different but whenever you read it correctly like I judt did after you messaged me it turns into the correct posting that I now understand 😀
It is an interesting point from my position as site owner.
Can a website like this be both a serious place where serious people can find real relationships …and can it also be something a bit more fun, frivolous (chatrooms, jigsaw puzzles …
Can it be both?
Or does that inevitably cause internal friction, with “serious” people constantly frustrated by the users who are just interested in fun, flirting, fantasy, fooling about?
I think what’s most interesting here is the assumption that women posting photos must somehow be doing it for the men looking at them,and therefore owe those men access, interaction, explanation, or some eventual “success” beyond the screen.
Women can post wherever they want to post, for whatever reason they want to post, and simply because they enjoy doing it. That isn’t “leading men on.” A woman displaying herself is not making a promise to the men viewing her.
If a man chooses to turn a photograph, a flirtation, or an online interaction into a fantasy of something more, managing that expectation is HIS responsibility—not HERS.
And frankly, reducing the women here to pretty pictures dangling themselves in front of “desperate men” is every bit as detached from reality as the behavior you’re criticizing. Women have agency. We can enjoy attention, flirt, post, interact, fantasize, play, and still have perfectly full and satisfying lives away from a laptop. Those things are not mutually exclusive.
As for the psychologists watching with glee, I suspect they’d find the belief that women’s behavior needs to be explained, corrected, and cautioned against at least as interesting as anything happening in the Spicy Chat room.🙄
If you enjoy the pictures, enjoy them. If you don’t, scroll past them. But perhaps leave women to decide for themselves what constitutes “living and loving life.”
We’re quite capable.
XOXO,
Lola May
I think showing any photos just to show yourself is fine thats kinda what the internet is for and nobody is entitled to get a reply but if your showing yourself expect to get messages you think every instagram model aint getting lots of messages everyday lol but you dont here them complaining about it, but if your actually trying to start a breastfeeding relationship and the person male/female refuses to show a face or breast etc after already talking because they say you can only see me in person doesn’t really make sense to me especially if your trying to start a long-term relationship that will eventually end up moving in together
Also as for fun like doing puzzles, chat rooms an stuff ya i think that’s what the internet is for i believe the only way for the site to get larger is to accept all both the fun stuff and relationships part of the website because if any relationship person isn’t interested in whom ever messages them they can simply block them and everything’s totally fine, every social media site is like this like on Twitter you can message the president of United States or king of England and they can simply block you so this site is basically the same thing everyone is welcome to join like the president or king, now like only when someone abuses the site by like deleting there account and recreating it just to get around someone block should be banned which is obviously harassment but just because someone sends a message to someone that doesn’t like them should only be blocked that’s not abusive in my opinion because the person can simply block them without responding now if they respond with arguments or negative stuff instead of blocking them then they are also being dumb by creating drama instead of simply blocking someone while deleting the messages after an they dissappear
Also a lot not all but a lot have on there profile to not message me if not local yet they have out of state friends in their friends list so this really creates a lot of mixed messaging signals and if you message them an they get mad how is that harassment or your fault when they have out of state friends but get upset at you if you message them seems to be really confusing
I agree with @tjrforanr
Too many men on here not looking to invest time getting to know women and think they can get that bra off on a first visit.
Some women are ok with that but the majority of others aren’t.@mariokingdom fyi I am currently speaking with @genuineconnection and would like to meet him when he next travels here for work
@mariokingdom I would have liked to have read what you wrote if it had been shorter and more to the point.
If you wish to summarise succinctly that would be great, if not no worries and I wish you a wonderful weekendFlorence im replying back to your comment about my replies & comments being to long….well my honest answer is if you cannot read one minute of text on a forum that your replying to an complaining about because you need shorter summarizations than I think it would be hard communicating with you in private chat and I think it would be very difficult if not impossible if the only way to message you was through short texts and summaries only is difficult & not a good way to get to know someone to start a very personal breastfeeding relationship with on the world wide web that mainly involves texting…
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