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So the saying goes, “Discretion is the better part of valor”
We are all adults here (or at least we should be).
We all have lives that are unique and individual, but the one thing I think most all of us have in common is our ABF/ANR life isn’t out on display for the whole public world.
I am sure our reasons for why that is the case is as unique and individual as our lives.
Images shared on digital platforms are never really 100% private, the internet is forever.
Some people may feel comfortable with that some may not or cannot for peraonal/professional reasons.
So when someone asks you to respect their privacy boundaries to not share an image online whether that is a pic or video that a screenshot or pic could be taken from, please take a moment and remember that saying- especially if they are offering to meet in a public location in order to confirm identities. The offer to meet in a public place decreases the risks of fraud for all parties.
Just some food for thought… discretion and respect.What alot of women forget is that any of those images, including video, can and I’m sure have been downloaded by anyone. Anyone can use those images, to black mail you, harass you and even make money off them.
Food for thought. If you’re going to give away content, you should think about making some money on it. Maybe your own platform is the way to go.
I found a breast photo of myself on a random creeper porn site.
Omg that’s horrible! Did you have it taken down?
I can’t, it’s a website hosted in another country with no owner listed.
Water Lily,
I totally agree with what you said, I am so sorry that your choice was disregarded and disrespected by someone who used your image without your consent.
For everyone else-
If you’re reading this thinking that you’re ok with sending your image to another, that is ok- you do you no judgement.
This post is to try and explain why someone you maybe asking for an image may not do that and that if your reaction is to cut off all communication due to someone exercising discretion is a bit counter intuitive.
The use of images by the receiving party is what I am alluding to, especially if one has just started chatting with another on this site- how can one know that the image(s) sent end up in safe respectful hands? We can never know for sure, we can only hope.
However, to gaurd against all the scenarios Water Lily mentioned and more, the safest policy is to not share images or identity online.
The public meet and greet for coffee ir something is a mutual risk playing field.
Just like they have public meet up spots for online marketplace exchanges for safety, a public meet and greet does the same.
I hope more people will understand the use of discretion when it comes to images/videos.Ever since the first woman I was involved with (over 20 years ago), whenever we break up, any and all pictures of her unclothed are deleted by me. I even cut up old school Polaroids from my first experience.
It is something I do to respect her even if we don’t work out. It’s part of who I am.
That’s very decent and honourable of you, Corey.
With today’s technology, you never know where the pictures will end up.
Water Lily, sorry you had that happen to you.
Bibi; thank you for your concise and meaningful thread you’ve started.
I often ask myself if I am too “trusting” being on here and attempting to engage in honest sharing of my life and passion for this… with other women.
In the end, I approach it all with transparency, and maybe it’s to my downfall as well, knowing there are very likely unscrupulous players right here on this site.Hopefully they’ll start a verification process. That’d be great
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