Less venting and pen-pal talk, more real-world ABF/ANR follow-through

[@mobchip]

Something I have noticed lately in the General Discussion forum is how much this community has shifted toward permanent pen-pal mode.

Between the fantasy storytelling, the endless venting posts, and people needing to be consoled every time they run into typical internet nonsense or unsolicited explicit pics, it feels like fewer people here are actually ready to meet in the real world.

Dealing with online spaces takes some basic emotional armor and common sense. Both guys and ladies play a part in this. We have a whole section for requests, yet the most frequent posters rarely follow through, and we hardly ever see people sharing real-world ABF/ANR success stories or honest lessons from negative in-person experiences.

When the board becomes more about seeking comfort, sympathy, and endless small talk behind a screen, it gets harder for the grounded people who actually want a real-life dynamic to find each other.

Let’s bring the focus back to real-world readiness, honest meetup experiences, and actual follow-through instead of turning General Discussion into an online support group. Less venting and pen-pal talk, more real-world ABF/ANR follow-through.

[MizzLizz]

That is quite a tall order you have. If people choose to share their real world experiences that is in them.
And if people are venting that’s prob why in person meetups don’t happen.

I can’t tell you how many times I have chatted with guys via DMs and they come across not so great but they insist we meet because “sir you are an asshole via msg but I’m supposed to believe you are a great guy in person?!”
Like I beg your biggest pardon
That is wild

[David]

Let’s not and say we did. People need an outlet, a place to share their thoughts and experiences, a forum.

[💧🥭 Angel 🥭💧]

We’re all having fun & connecting with each other in this very unique community.

[David]

@selennajola at least some of us are 😏

[David]

@lizzybeth. You’re the best!

[MizzLizz]

Hey hun @njtitman I know 🤣🤣🤣

[david]

lets do a quick pulse check. How many men on here have actually met someone on here. I will start in a new thread to see if it is all pen talk

[David]

@lizzybeth 🤣🤣🤣

[Destiny]

This post feels like a you told everyone to quit complaining and “wasting time” just get to the nursing. The lack of emotional sensitivity here is glaring. I would not ever offer anyone with your mindset a seat at my bosom.

[@mobchip]

Nowhere in my post did I say to rush into anything or skip proper vetting. Taking time to build trust and make sure both people are comfortable is basic common sense. My point was about people who never intend to meet anyone in the first place using General Discussion strictly for endless venting and fantasy storytelling while complaining about the state of the site. Big difference.

[@mobchip]

Totally agree that guys acting like jerks in messages deserve to get screened out immediately. That is just smart vetting. Where we are saying the same thing is that all the constant venting and bad behavior is exactly why real meetups stall out, which leaves the whole board feeling stuck in pen-pal mode.

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