Does ABF Heaven work for men?

[Peter]

I’m beginning to wonder if this site can realistically result in ‘dating and relationships’ for its male users. I’ve been regularly checking the ‘Newest’ tab recently and the male/female ratio of those signing up must be at least 10:1. And of all those the vast majority are American… which isn’t much use for those of us in the UK or elsewhere.

I’m based in London and I’d estimate that at any one period on ABF Heaven there will be about 30 London males hoping to make a connection with 3 or 4 actively looking London females. Obviously, there will be widespread disappointment due to this permanent imbalance.

I’ve no doubt that women will rush to defend the site, and why not… it is heavily weighted in their favour being so spoilt for choice. Why would they campaign for that to change?

With more and more men piling in weekly, it’s worth wondering if the site could be changed to level up the playing field a little bit… before it gets so completely male top heavy it all comes crashing down.

Perhaps the Admin could introduce a mandatory annual membership fee for male members and keep it free for females?

I’d also think about letting all profiles be viewed by non-members who would then need to sign up if they wanted to communicate. Other ABF sites generally work like this and it opens up the field for curious but shy females to browse what might be available without having to become visible.

Running the site territorially with separate areas for US, European and other regional members would help a lot too. Although this in itself wouldn’t address the extreme male/female imbalance.

[Tom]

I’ve often wondered about this, too. I’m sure every woman who posts something is inundated with responses and that might not always be a good thing. There are also women here who are only looking for women to connect with. I don’t know if free membership for women would help because it might just mean a lot of fake profiles from scammers. Thats a very common thing on adult dating sites that I’ve looked at before. There are no easy solutions but I agree that it’s a problem.

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