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Simple. Straight up. How do you cope with the loss of a partner?
I hope you mean a breakup and not worse.
I don’t know. Maybe “coping” with that kind of loss is not even really possible.
But one day, however long it takes, some peace will be found, and your longest-lasting memories will be of your best moments together.
I am sorry for your loss whatever it’s cause. All I can say is one foot in front of the other.
It takes time. It’s not easy. Sometimes luck plays a role too. You never know. Take one day at a time.
For me.. it’s self care = self love.. focusing on me.. grooming, exercising, hobbies, reconnect w my friends and family.. All the best to you
Not worse than just deciding it needed to end. I appreciate all of your responses. Thank you so much. It was my first ANR. Just having a rough time processing the fact that it’s over.
It was pretty much one of the most beautiful experiences of my life. So intimate and passionate.
I dislike so much how taboo this can be that it is not readily accepted in everyday relationships.I went through the same thing last year. He was also my first ANR partner and it was without a doubt the hardest thing I’ve ever done. That was 8 months ago now and if I’m being honest, I am nowhere near over the loss, from the physical side of things to the fun and friendship we shared.
I’ve tried everything I can think of, from meeting other people, to giving up on ANR altogether and nothing has worked for me so far. I don’t have a plan. I’m just getting on with my life and focusing on myself at the moment. If I feel guided to meet anyone, I will be honest and have no expectations, because I don’t want to use anyone or mess anyone around, that wouldn’t be fair. I don’t want to live a lie either. If I can’t have a connection like that, I would rather not bother. How long ago did you end it?
Takes time, and patience. Keep your mind busy. read. And while some may disagree, keep looking. Dont skip past what could be your forever.
Losing an intimate partner via a breakup can be enormously difficult. It’s especially bad in that you know the person is still out there – just not next to you. It can feel like it’s not quite definitively final, and there can be lingering doubts or thoughts that things could change enough to be back together.
But people simply are who they are, and it’s unreasonable to hope for or expect changes in others. It’s hard enough to try to change one’s self! So the only realistic choice is to accept them as they are or move on.
The best way to move on is to find a new partner, so get to work! There are SO many shirtless men out there who “wanna suk u boob!” I’m teasing now, of course, but smile despite the pain, gather your confidence, and recognize that you can do it! 🙂
I lost my long term ANR partner when my wife passed away from cancer almost 10 yrs ago.
Just have had to adapt back to a vanilla life but it’s been really tough as I used to suckle her 4 times a day, and we had had wet suckling for over 12 yrs. So yes, I really really miss that interaction and connection that we had. Our bond was incredibly strong and close and I’m not sure I’ll ever find that again, even though it’s something that I yearn for more than anything else.
It’s impossible for me to vanilla date, and ANR / ABF is a vital component of a relationship for me, so I’ll keep hoping I’ll meet the right lady.
Sad and sorry for all of us who have lost a partner. At first I thought he set the bar quite high, but after some reflection I realize he set it pretty low. There are more details that I’d prefer not to get into….but boy @drsensitive really hit the nail on the head…there are plenty of nipple sucking fish still in the sea 🙂
Hope everyone is well.
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