The word “orgasm” originates from the ancient Greek orgasmos, meaning to swell with moisture and heat. But some scholars whisper of an older root, deep in Mesopotamian soil, where the word referred to a fertile plot of land—lush, ripe, and bursting with life. It’s a poetic notion: the orgasm as both an intimate eruption and a sacred act of creation.
In ancient sovereignty rituals known as Hieros Gamos, the union of the sun and moon—the masculine and feminine—was reenacted through sacred rites, an ecstatic reminder that pleasure and power were intertwined. These rites were not only meant to grant authority from the goddess to the king to rule, but also ensure fertility and abundance and cultivate harmony, joy, and the sacred balance that sustained both the land and the soul. Indeed as archaeologist Marija Gimbuttas wrote, the world was at peace when “God” was a woman and when sex was sacred. Sadly, we have forgotten the old ways; sex has become tainted and in our hypermodern rush toward release, we have lost the art of savoring the divine shudder.
“The power of orgasm can change the world”.
– Lori C. Ebert, published author in health, medical and sexuality, PhD in Health Education
How Many Orgasms Are We Talking About?
Sexual pleasure isn’t one-size-fits-all. Depending on anatomy, nerve endings, and mindset, orgasms range from the playful to the cosmic. But how many types can we experience? Science (and some very satisfied lovers) suggest the magic number is seven. But I wonder if the seven orgasms correspond to the seven palaces of the Book of John (also known as “Revelation” or “Apocalypse”, which really means revelation or lifting of the veil), each threshold a step toward ecstatic revelation. The first is the flicker of sensation, a key turning in the lock, whispering of hidden pleasure. The second opens the gates of flesh, where touch and rhythm ignite the temple. The third, a baptism of liquid fire, draws the body into sacred motion, while the fourth unveils the throne room of surrender—where pleasure and will dissolve. The fifth palace is where the self shatters into luminous sparks, cascading beyond form, while the sixth, a trembling abyss, beckons with the music of creation itself. And the seventh? The final threshold is the apocalyptic moment—the veil lifted, the temple split, the divine rushing in, not to destroy, but to remake.
For women, the pleasure menu includes:
Clitoral Orgasm – The most well-known, sparked by external stimulation of the nerve-packed clitoris.
Vaginal Orgasm – Achieved through penetration, often involving the G-spot.
Cervical Orgasm – A deep, full-body pleasure from stimulating the cervix, often requiring relaxation and trust.
Blended Orgasm – When multiple areas (e.g., clitoris and vagina) are stimulated simultaneously.
Anal Orgasm – Thanks to shared nerve pathways, anal stimulation can trigger intense pleasure.
Uterine Orgasm – Rare but powerful, associated with deep penetration and muscle contractions.
Energy Orgasm – An orgasm achieved without direct physical stimulation, often through breathwork, visualization, or tantric practice.
Men have their own variety:
Penile Orgasm – The most common, usually centered in the genitals.
Prostate Orgasm – Sometimes called the “male G-spot” orgasm, deeper and longer-lasting.
Full-Body Orgasm – Achieved through tantric techniques and breathwork.
Multiple Orgasm – Yes, men can have them too, often by controlling ejaculation as in Tantric techniques.
Anal Orgasm – Like women, men can experience orgasm through anal stimulation.
Dry Orgasm – An orgasm without ejaculation, key in tantric sex practices.
Energy Orgasm – A non-genital climax achieved through breath, touch, and mental focus.
The Orgasm Gap: Why Are So Many Women Missing Out?
Statistically, women in heterosexual relationships orgasm far less frequently than their male partners. The Hite Report, one of the most important studies on female sexuality, revealed something groundbreaking back in the ’70s: most women don’t climax through penetration alone. And yet, here we are decades later, with too many still pretending, waiting, or wondering what’s wrong with them. Spoiler alert: nothing is wrong.
One reason for the gap? A cultural script that prioritises male pleasure and reduces female pleasure to a performance rather than an exploration. Many women learn their bodies through their partners’ hands instead of their own, leaving them disconnected from their personal erotic map.
The Power of Solo Pleasure
Enter masturbation: a sacred act of self-knowledge. It teaches women what they like, what they need, and how they need it. Clitoral stimulation, different rhythms, pressures—these are all lessons that, when understood, translate into partnered sex that actually works. When women know what gets them there, they can guide a lover with confidence rather than waiting for divine intervention.
The Magic of Slow Pleasure
In the West, everything is about getting there—fast. A quick thrill, a hurried release, and then we roll over, checking our phones. But in Eastern traditions, particularly in Tantra, orgasm isn’t the finish line; presence is. Think of erotic lactation—an act that isn’t about an explosive climax but about connection, nourishment, and flow. What if we approached all pleasure that way?
Tantra teaches that orgasmic sexual energy is transformative. It rises up the spine like Kundalini energy, unlocking not just pleasure but deep emotional and creative healing. The sacral chakra, which governs sexuality, emotions and creativity, thrives when we honor sexual energy rather than depleting it mindlessly. Water too is connected to this chakra and sexuality, being the union of the 2 polarities, masculine and feminine, and where life began, so deeply healing but also helps us to balance this chakra and connects us to our own sexuality.
Orgasms and Manifestation: The Sex Magick Secret
Beyond pleasure, orgasms are an incredible source of manifestation energy. In sex magick, the moment of climax is used to direct energy toward a goal—be it love, success, or personal transformation. The key? Holding an intention in your mind as you build toward orgasm, then visualizing that desire as reality in the moment of release. It’s pleasure with a purpose.
Final Thought
What if we stopped chasing orgasms and started reveling in them? What if we stopped seeing pleasure as an outcome and instead as an offering—both to ourselves and to those we share our bodies with?
Because in the end, the orgasm isn’t just a fleeting thrill. It’s a whisper from the divine, a reminder that our bodies are wild, wondrous, sacred and worthy of worship. But also most importantly, because healthy sexuality is deeply healing at all levels, can enhance our lives and can actually make us live longer.
“Couples who sustain a strong sexual connection over multiple decades have two things in common: they have a strong friendship at the foundation of their relationship, and they prioritize sex”.
– Emily Nagoski, American sex educator and researcher, and author of books including Come as You Are. She is the former director of wellness education at Smith College where she taught a course on women’s sexuality.
P.S. I may do a live talk/presentation on this topic in the near-future both here (live audio) and on my Patreon as a live video talk/presentation so stay tuned!
All my love, Sophia X
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Just leaving an additional comment here as some would say there are 8, 9, 10, 12 or 14 types of orgasms… I will stick with my magic 7 but the number isn’t important, what matters is what you do with them…