Your ABF Meeting Experiences – Part 2

[AsianMathNerd]

Welcome to part 2 of your ABF experiences! There are no right or wrong answers, just your unique story in a quick format to share with the community!

We especially want to hear from women—after all, you’re central to the experience!

1. How many different people have you met in person specifically for ABF?
A. 1
B. 2–3
C. 4–6
D. 7–10
E. More than 10

2. Of those people, how many did you meet more than once?
A. None
B. 1
C. 2–3
D. 4–6
E. Most or all

3. How many ABF partners would you consider reoccurring (met 3 or more times)?
A. 0
B. 1
C. 2
D. 3–5
E. More than 5

3a. For the partners you consider reoccurring, please briefly explain why they became reoccurring for you (for example: emotional connection, trust, intimacy, comfort, convenience, or support).
Open-ended (1–2 sentences)

4. When you have an active reoccurring ABF partner, how often do you typically meet the same person?
A. Multiple times per week
B. About once per week
C. A few times per month
D. About once per month
E. Less than once per month
F. I do not have reoccurring ABF partners

5a. What is the longest-lasting ABF connection that began online?
A. Less than 1 month
B. 1–3 months
C. 3–6 months
D. 6–12 months
E. More than 1 year
F. I have not had an online-first ABF connection

5b. What is the longest-lasting ABF connection that began offline (met in person first)?
A. Less than 1 month
B. 1–3 months
C. 3–6 months
D. 6–12 months
E. More than 1 year
F. I have not had an offline-first ABF connection

6. How many reoccurring ABF partners are you currently in contact with (even if not actively meeting)?
A. 0
B. 1
C. 2–3
D. 4–6
E. More than 6

7. How do you usually meet new ABF partners?
A. Mostly online
B. Mostly offline
C. Equal mix of online and offline
D. Online only
E. Offline only

8. Which method do you personally prefer for meeting new ABF partners?
A. Online
B. Offline
C. No preference
D. Depends on the situation

9. How many of your ABF partners were first met online before meeting in person?
A. None
B. 1–2
C. 3–5
D. Most
E. All

10. How many of your ABF partners were first met offline with no prior online interaction?
A. None
B. 1
C. 2–3
D. 4–6
E. More than 6

11. How often do online-first ABF connections progress to in-person meetings for you?
A. Almost never
B. Rarely
C. Sometimes
D. Often
E. Almost always

12. How often do offline-first connections develop into intentional ABF dynamics later?
A. Never
B. Rarely
C. Sometimes
D. Often
E. Almost always

13. Which type of connection is more likely to become reoccurring for you?
A. Online-first
B. Offline-first
C. About the same
D. Unsure

14. How many ABF partners transitioned into non-ABF relationships (friendship, romantic, etc.)?
A. None
B. 1
C. 2–3
D. 4 or more
E. Unsure

15. What most commonly causes ABF connections to stop for you and how many?
Open-ended (1–2 sentences)

[Grogman 🚀🍑💙🏔️]

Is there a time frame for your questions! Say the past year? 5 years, ten years, lifetime?

[David]

“We” ? Is this your poll or one endorsed by the Admin?

[Ed Rester]

I can complete the square for you:
[x+(b/2a)]^2 = -c/a + (b/2a)^2

[Michael_Admin]

Come on guys, give him a chance.
This is clearly done in good spirit.
And it’s his own poll, nothing to do with admin.

[AsianMathNerd]

Responding to the survey-related inquiries…

Thanks Michael… yes, this is my own poll…

Sorry for the confusion. The questions are meant to reflect your full (lifetime) ABF history, not just recent experiences.

[Grogman 🚀🍑💙🏔️]

Good questions. Hopefully, good answers from Moi. My experience with ABF started a bit before Michael took over the website.

1) D
2) D
3) D. Emotional need and comfort. Also eroticism and intimacy.
4) D
5a) E
5b) F
6) D
7) D
8) C
9) E
10) A
11) C
12) A
13) A
14) D
15) Distance has been an issue every time. I have been incredibly lucky to meet some of my friends from ABFHeaven. 🤗🥰

[Milky Way Mtn Gal💫]

Dear Asian Math Nerd,

I love this getting data!

[~btrfly~ 🦋]

Ok ok… I want to play. But my numbers will be skewed. I’ve got 15 years into this off and on.

1. E. Doesn’t mean we nursed. A few were meant to be the initial meets and something happened where neither of us felt moving forward were appropriate.
2. Not sure. Hard to keep track after 15 years.
3. 3
4. Love, trust, comfort, safety.
5. D/E
6. C
7. D
8. A
9. E
10. A.
11. B
12. A
13. A
14. D
15.90% of the communication does off in a week. Once the communication stops. I’ve lost interest because they stop trying. I am not chasing anyone or begging ppl for attention. It rakes. 0.3 seconds to say hello. If they don’t reach out after my last communication. I pretty much move on. And.. nobody is closer then 2 hours. If a man expects me to do all the driving to see him. I won’t even bother continuing a conversation. The commute should be 50/50. Because , in the world of ABF/aNR. The numbers of ppl in your area are slim to none. I put the sane energy out and they put into me. 🙂 hope this helps.

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