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Hello my beautiful people’s! I am needing to get something off my chest and so if my thoughts seem jumbled it’s because I have a lot to say and my thoughts are just flying.
I have been on this site going on 2 years now and am really struggling with some things that I am witnessing and experiencing.
1. I have always garnered a lot of attention when I participate in discussions/ posts/ forums. And that follows me into my DM`s. Not all of it kind.
2. It has been my experience that all of us are very different when heated and a keyboard is in front of us. We feel liberated to just let the words fly without thought or trying to be understanding of others viewpoints.
3. It has been my experience that most of the people in my DMs have not taken the time to read my profile. I have made it very clear what I want and what I am looking for. Am always excited to talk and get to know new people.
4. It unfortunately has been my experience that my thoughts and feelings have not been respected from the first comment made to me. My BS meter has become finely tuned and I can practically see you coming from a mile away.
5.The BLOCK button has become a fondly loved tool in my arsenal.Gentleman, can I please offer some advice?
Please y’all it is soooo important to be reading another’s profile. Before I even respond to someone, the first thing I do is go to your profile and READ it. I rarely talk to others if I do not see a real pic/ profile. Also how you talk to me from that first message is so telling. And please for the love of all things holy– DO NOT FRIEND Request me without at least talking to me first.
I really struggle with being polite to someone who just says nice boobs! Wanna be friends? Or hey can I get pics of your boobs?
We are all here to find “The One”, but struggle so much with the bureaucratic BS/ fluff of it all that it is wearing our nerves thin. I get it that you want to be an individual and think you are being funny but it all just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Respect is a two way street and you will go so much farther if you realize that by working with another’s boundaries you can get so much more out of a relationship.
But you have been looking for a long time? Yeah me too Boo-Boo. But I will always reply unless you are downright rude and insensitive. I am so much more than just a pair of boobs. So yes, I blocked you. And please tell the others that I won’t hesitate to do it again.Firstly, it was great to chat to you earlier. You seem like a very down to earth and lovely lady.
Secondly, I’m so sorry you’ve had to put up with men being so disrespectful to you. I’ve unfortunately had to deal with similar experiences at times. I also make it very clear in my profile what I’m looking for and most of the time that is ignored. I’ve since turned off messages from anyone I’m not friends with. Then I vet anyone who messages me via a friend request and if I haven’t communicated with them in the group chat prior then I ignore the request.
It is frustrating though that we have to vet so strongly just to find a connection with someone likeminded.
I really hope you find what you’re looking for and your experience gets better from here on out and you don’t have to block people as often. I also hope that men read your tips and take them in.. women have literally given them a template of how to interact with us so I’m not sure why they choose to ignore it lol
A very balanced and calm approach. It needed to be said.
I definitely agree with and relate to what you’ve said. Except in my case I’m here to meet suckle buddies, not “the one”.
I’ve found that a lot of men don’t actually understand what an anr is. They think it’s just sucking on titties a lot. It is frustrating that’s for sure
From my foxhole, fellas being boneheads on here is one of the ways the nice fellas can deal with the challenges associated with the brutal male/female ratio on this resource. So my reaction to this post is to kinda wish you’d not given the boneheads another reminder of how to better blend in with the nice guys. 🤫🙏😇
All excellent points, women. I can only emphasize the fatigue that is caused by the initial contacts that consist of inappropriate statements or requests. Next worst are those men who make fake attempts to befriend or be polite, but after a small handful of polite exchanges they want to exchange pics. Not gonna happen.
Many men clearly make no effort made to read profiles and RESPECT profiles. Many men think they are the exception to what’s listed and push on, then claim women are rude. lol Just reading the forum post titles shows the lack of knowledge clearly….men looking to suck nipples, etc. are clueless about anr abf and completely lack seriousness. Those men put zero effort into preparing their profiles to help a woman know something about them, or worse, contact a woman, then want her to pull the information out of them. “Ask me anything”. No, put it in your profile. I don’t have time ,…or interest…to pull information from you only to find that you’re not remotely compatible. If you can’t take the time to prepare your profile, I’m not going to pull info from you.
Men, put some effort into being on this site. I also find it is a total turnoff for someone to claim that they are “experts” in ANR/ABF. That makes me laugh out loud. Every woman is different, every breast is different. When someone has to pronounce their “ability” and “skill” I immediately doubt their ability to participate in abf anr in any meaningful way.
Much better to be sincere, real, honest, put some effort in. The false bravado is pretty useless.
Atta girl,sis! Thank you for making this post. I’ve not been a member long, but if you could see my block list, I’m sure you would not be surprised. Please read our profiles, please be decent humans as well! Repeated messages and requests are exhausting and annoying.
I propose a game.
Blocklist bingo!
Ladies come together and compare Blocklist. They cross off the ones shared in common one by one. The first lady to cross off a full house wins
OMG! This is billiant!!!
I only have 3 on my block list and they are there for very good reasons.@June I love that idea! @flowrgardn I so agree. If I cannot deduce even a smidgen of intent from your profile I just don’t bother with the gent. @ragnar77, trust me sir the nice ones will always stand out!
I wonder if this is doable? Create chat rooms that are strictly for each of the genders for us to discuss who is to be leary of and who to be on the lookout for. We would be assigned a group according to the sec we identify as according to our profiles. I would so love to just have a Ladies only chat at times. Then the Gents can get as nasty as they want too. I do enjoy the general chat but get turned off so easily with some of the discussions.
Thank you everyone for you comments. Leaves so much food for thought.I’m yet to join any of the chats. I seldom remember to check the forums as it is. I must amend that.
I have 9 people blocked.
Could anyof Jessica’s 3 also be on my block list?
Could we have blocked them for the same reason?
This is data that site mods could have to help with decision making.
I’ve got 40 blocked ☠️
I have 17 young bucks blocked. No manners and just plain rude gents
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