Why is finding a partner in Idaho or Boise so hard?

[Sparkie]

Thanks Ben I was thinking that if the issues for or against abf are more prevalent in rural and probably more conservative communities vs in cities where people are exposed to adapting to diverse views and trying new things.

Because if the original problem is not enough of a population of woman plus not many would consider this as a life style then we could easily have a conversion of a woman in a urban situation than rural where everyone is watching the others behavior more closely.

[Ben]

Hi Sin,

I agree with your thoughts. I think being in a larger urban area can make a difference because people may be more exposed to different lifestyles and more comfortable exploring something like ABF or ANR. I can only speak from my experience in Idaho, but I’ve noticed that the options here are pretty limited. I’ve come across around 10 ladies, but only two are currently active, and even their activity doesn’t last very long. The others haven’t been active in five or six years.

I’d certainly welcome more interest in ANR and ABF here in Idaho, but I’m also open to looking in other states. I enjoy exploring opportunities outside Idaho because I don’t want to limit myself geographically when it comes to finding the right partner. Ultimately, I’d like to meet someone who shares the same interests and is genuinely interested in building a meaningful, long-term connection.

Thanks for sharing your perspective!

Ben

[Thurston]

Hi just chiming in here. I’m in the Southeast and even close to Atlanta ABFers seem few and far between. I know many folks on this site are from Europe and the Australia region as well. For sure patience and persistence is the key, and trying to stay active in this community probably helps a ton.

[Ben]

Thanks for chiming in! I agree that patience and persistence are important, especially in a smaller community like this. Even in larger areas, it sounds like finding someone interested in ABF can be challenging. I’ve noticed the same thing here in Idaho. I think staying active, participating in conversations, and being open to meeting people in other states can help. I’m definitely trying to keep an open mind and not limit myself to just Idaho. Hopefully, with time and persistence, we’ll all find the right connection! 😊 we shall see

[Ben]

I’ve been wondering why it’s so difficult to find someone in Idaho, particularly around Boise and the Treasure Valley.

I love Idaho, and ideally I’d like to meet someone relatively close to home. I’m looking for a genuine, long-term ANR relationship built on trust, affection, companionship, and getting to know each other beyond just the physical side.

Unfortunately, it seems like there aren’t many people nearby who are interested in the same kind of relationship. I’ve tried expanding my search, but distance can make things challenging.

I’m open to looking outside Idaho if that’s what it takes to find the right person.

For those of you who have experience meeting people in this community, where would you recommend I look? Are there particular states, cities, or regions where there are more active members?

I’d also love to hear from others who have had difficulty finding someone in their own area. Is it simply a matter of patience, or does location make a big difference?

I’d appreciate any suggestions, advice, or experiences you’d like to share. Thanks!

[Benjamin Donachie]

I have same issue in new Hampshire Massachusetts area I talk to someone for a bit but it goes only so far and that’s if it even starts

[Ben]

I understand what you mean. It’s frustrating when conversations start out promising but don’t seem to go anywhere. I’ve experienced that myself. It can be difficult finding people who are genuinely interested in getting to know someone and putting in the effort. Hopefully things work out for both of us! 😊 I just like looking elsewhere other than Idaho

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