Where does it start 🔥🔥🔥?

[Sparkie]

There is no smoke without a fire they say so I wonder about chemistry on abf heaven:

1. when does the fire ignite for you in an online chat ? Do you just say hi and wait for her to keep talking?

2. Is the immediate attraction to another important? What do you do when you feel that attraction? How do you show that to her?

3. What about attractions that develop between someone you initially thought was not something you were looking for or would not consider as a suitable partner? How do you adjust to that scenario when you suddenly realize what a great person they are.. how do you tell them your feelings?

4. How do you deal with that attraction as your conversation progresses over weeks as life intervenes and the time interval between messages is longer ? Do you feel like she doesn’t like you anymore or do you not like her when she’s more into you now?

5. Say you messaged a woman when you saw their pic (chest) or something they wrote or said caught your attention what else would you like to know about her? I mean what makes you dig deeper to get to know her or do you keep it at surface level and you do not want to know much about her just want to concentrate on the abf aspect of what you’re looking for…meaning anyone with breasts will do..

6. Does a full fledged woman wanting you make it sexy or just the size of her chest anatomy interests you and everything else you time out as just noise ..?

7. If the whole woman excites you .. to the point where you are just giddy to talk to her what do you do? Do you go all out and tell her you like her as a whole person or do you worry about rejection if you came out and showed your interest openly to her ?

[B♾️b Willis]

Online? I have not found that spark that becomes a forest fire. My first ANR started in person inconspicuously and in person as simply an ANR and grew into love. I read the bios, seeking ANR with LTR, seeking LTR with ANR, etc. So I think “I am mature and can get along with all most anyone.” Reality dictates a different approach I guess.
Fate and hope may lead to perfect solution and until then the wheel in the sky keeps turning and I keep meeting nice people.

[Nathan]

So to walk my way through your questions. 1. So the “Fire” starts pretty early on. I’m in a smaller city and there are not many people here that have found this page or are so secretive about there wants and desires they are to afraid to speak up and have them helped with. When I did have someone that spoke they immediately hopped off the conversation because they wanted someone who was experienced. I get that, however if your new to it also, why not work on it together?
2. “Immediate Attention”.. Toee.is getting to know some one. Sure they can be beautiful, however attitude, aura, presence all pay a roll. This is not just a one time thing. It takes time to “Nurture” the passion and care for everything. 2B. What I would do when I feel the attraction? I would communicate with them that I have the attraction and would like to see it grow. 2C. Communication, support, care, making sure she is taken care of with what she wants before my wants.

3. You never know till you get to shoot your shot if they Re a suitable Partner or not. 3B. As far as letting someone know my feelings when we click it telling them directly. Showing them that I am in this relationship 100 percent. Not that I was not before, however I’m locked in..

4. Time and message distance, I keep in touch and let them know I’m still here and available to them. That I’m not going any where. Here with open arms. 4B. If she’s.more I to me then I want her to tell me that. Communication is key.

5. Not even pic. It’s location!!! There are hundreds of amazing women here that all are wonderful. However I can’t make a 22hr drive to meet someone for an evening at dinner to get to know them. Now a 3 hr drive maybe. However we are going to talk for a while and get to know each other truly. I want to truly get to know my soul mate. That’s the connection level I’m looking for. If a Suckle Buddy comes along then so be it, and maybe we will hit it off and take care of each other’s desires. However..

6. If someone wants me and is ready then so be it. I’ll make it happen if that’s where it goes, if she is well endowed then that’s a bonus, not a deal breaker.

7. If the “Whole Woman””Package” excites me to talk to her then I tell her that. If it’s meant to be it will be.

[Sparkie]

Oh what a great answer !! I forgot to add a great human being as one of the answers. Yes that’s incredibly sexy when you know at a gut level that you like this person in and out. 🥰🔥🤗🤗

[Sparkie]

Oh no bob we need to ignite that spark again in you. Come and flirt with some of the great ladies on here and do a little cha cha cha ..💕😍😘

[Sparkie]

Oh Nathan you really tried to answer all my questions without cheating like the 2 before you so hats off to you! It shows me your sincerity and I have to say sincerely that that character is extremely underrated but one of the most important things to look for in a partner.. because that shows that you’re willing to put the effort to get what you need. I say “need” and not “want” because that’s what an anr is ..!! A need and not just a want. We need it like air in our lives in order to survive !! Kudos again 🤗

[Joseph]

Well according to Mr.Joel the fires been burning since the world was turning.

Of course I tease, it’s an interesting set of questions.

1. At some point in an online chat it either becomes a natural conversation that ebbs and flows, or it fizzles out. The moment passion becomes desire, flames been achieved.

2. I’d say it enhances, at the end of the day a wonderful person remains that way no matter what. It can be tricky to admit, fear of rejection looming of course, however anticipation will never end unless we nip it in the bud.

3. I’d argue that like a conversation with someone with similar hobbies, it goes from zero to a hundred. Certain thoughts become actions, more attention shown it becomes a reflex almost.

4. Quality over quantity. A well thought out message infrequently is better than short replies consistently. Life gets busy for everyone, with that in mind if things become busy I might check in and ask how they’re doing, what’s going on in their lives. Assuming the worst can just lead to self sabotage in my opinion.

5. Little bit of everything I suppose, a connection can make things far more intimate. It goes from being a body, to somebody into someone. If the person wants to keep things simple I’ll respect that, my curious mind might ask as long as they’re ok with sharing.

6.Reducing it to size can create discussions in some groups, everything from feel, to width all the little details can make it unique. Size can be seen as a bonus, the person attached to it can make or break it. If we find ourselves in the moment? They’re ok with it? I’ll allow myself to follow that flow.

7. If I had a good poker face I’d be in Vegas, I guess the messages become a bit more frequent. Little inside jokes form,maybe light teasing. Fear of rejection will always exist, however again the anticipation won’t end until you ask. You might put it off, but once it’s out there? Even if it takes a while to respond, a feeling of relief does wash over you. How many times have you said “I should have”? I do try to make sure that number doesn’t get too high. This has been my general online experience, as I’m new to this forum so it should be taken with a pinch of salt.

[Sparkie]

Hi Joseph!

Welcome to the abfheaven community. First of all thank you for your contribution to the forum. I hope you find your place in this community and find whatever it is that you’re looking for here.

Since your handle is @notshure I wasn’t sure if you are just exploring anr amd trying to figure out if it’s right for you or if you have had experience? If it’s the former there are a lot of resources on this site and other users like me can help you too. The search feature is helpful too to find people who are located close to you.

I put this post out here because I noticed that in online chatting there are more unknowns cues or ways to determine what’s going on and how you can move forward than in traditional face to face dating or meet ups.

I think this can create a sense of being in a fog sometimes and trying to find our way.

At some point in time each party is sort of trying to figure out where this convo is going.. especially if the person is long distance because the next step can’t happen until you meet in person.

This does lead to a strain on both sides and patience is required to have to stay the course.

Since ANR is not very prevalent in society it becomes hard to have hope when the search is tough. So people come and go and those that stay try to stay engaged but it’s difficult sometimes.

Anyway, that’s my synopsis of ANR/abf and of what usually goes on in the forum. As you can see people post looking for abf meetups or partners and sometimes they get frustrated etc but that really doesn’t solve any of the foundational problem of low members who are currently active and looking.

Best of luck to you

[Author]

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