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I assume that most people reading this will be familiar with various ABF/ANR websites, so here’s a question:
What has been your biggest surprise – good or bad – since you first looked online for an ANR partner?
Myself, I must say I never expected to see such a large proportion of women willing to nurse both men AND women. I would have guessed at maybe 5% …but it has to be more like 50%! Shock!
So what have been your “eye openers” -both good & bad?
Surprised at how there’s almost none in New Mexico! At least nobody that I’ve even shattered back and forth with yet! I’m beginning to lose hope after looking for 5 years
Maxxx, yeah some states have very few members unfortunately. Even worse though is N & S Dakota, I think zero members? Is it just cornfields up there?
I’m sure there’s a lot of women that think about it all over the place but they just don’t know where to look to connect
So far, my biggest ABF surprise was to discover I’m in a minority of men – around 10% – who desire breastfeeding without sex. Ironically, around 90% of ladies seek the same!
The biggest surprise to me is the men. Mostly seeking a thrill. Trying to find a legit partner is a joke. They just want to chat and talk about it, but to actually meet up they flake.
Inducing lactation is very difficult. It just surprises me that it’s mostly a fantasy for most and they don’t want to actually do it!Funny you say that Jules, but I’ve experienced this myself with one woman. At first it seemed she was genuinely interested. We met up during lunch break at my apartment for a 45 minute suckling session and from there it seemed like this was about to be an amazing journey of getting her to induce. She even bought some Domperidone (which she never used) and as the weeks went by, it became apparent that she’s only interested in nipple play/sucking. The AN part of the relationship was suffering and needless to say that didn’t last very long.
Also in my experience the proportion of women that seem only interested in talking about it but never actually meeting is astounding. I’ve lived in most major cities up and down the UK and have been on dozens of ANR websites and forums – most of which are dead now – but for one reason or another the concept of actually meeting seems to be lost on most of the women I’ve spoken to on those sites. It’s a shame, but I tend to think most people who say they’re interestedin ABF are either just breast fiends who fantasize about being sprayed with breast milk or women with very sensitive nipples and like having lots of attention on them in the bedroom, opposed to engaging in an actual ANR.
Being brand new to breast feeding, I don’t really know what to expect. I have had several men that apparently just want to “get off” talking on the phone about suckling, etc. I have also encountered some guys who are looking for a Barbie only kind of woman. I happen to prefer men close to my age or older. I do get a lot of younger guys wanting to get into an ANR, but I am not comfortable with that.
Well I am just starting out on this journey but what surprises me the most is how many men(I say men because that is what I seek) want to say hello and then set up a time to suckle. Even though I feel my ad and profile make it very clear I am not looking for anything casual and definitely need to establish a connection with the person first. I was drawn to this because I thought it was something much deeper. A beautiful connection between two people that brought them closer together. As with anything I’m sure it is that to some people but the majority of what I’m seeing is the opposite. One man even said to me during our first conversation……“Well it looks like you want to talk. Reach out again when you are ready for a session”.
I was surprised by that but it seems to be an ongoing theme. Start suckling then see if something grows rather than allow something to blossom then create an ANR. I am the latter and it seems also the minority. 🙁
Debbie have you also noticed a large amount of married men? I have.
I’ve been surprised to see how few people there are under 25. It seems that I’m in the minority of those in my age group where this is an activity I love and enjoy. Don’t get me wrong, I love people of all ages! Just an observation on my part
My biggest surprise is the amount of married men that thing this is play time to get laid.And that women who dry nurse are only in it for sex.
When you nurse dry or wet you are bonding with each other.
It is about the connection you have with that person not about the sex you have.You can have sex with anyone but how often can you really connect .if you bond and have a good connection then every thing else will fall into place including sex.One of my other surprises has been that women generally younger than 30 are not so keen on ABF. My experience has always been with women older than me. Actually on second thought my biggest surprise has been just how maternal ABF makes them feel, and I don’t mean as in they want an adult baby or diaper play etc. I can see the parallels as a lot of women have said that their first experiences were while they were nursing their children, and then their partner would suckle to help alleviate the internal pressure in their engorged breasts.
I would love to hear from the ladies on here whether or not this is something that also resonates with you as it pertains to ABF, and what particular aspects other than the intimacy and closeness you enjoy about ABF if you’re willing to share.
Hi All
I state right off the bat that I’m married and that I can only have a casual thing. I prefer to get an email connection going first. Once there’s mutual interests established, what I find with what happens thereafter is that once the requests to meet from me start there’s no help from the woman. They either don’t answer my questions on the logistics of meeting or they give me such little info back that it’s useless. It’s such a turn off. Sometimes I wonder if this is part of being submissive and they wanting the man to make all the decisions, but in my case I need help with that. Maybe it’s them being reluctant about moving forward with a married man. If so then state that. Or as I’ve felt often, maybe I’m just being played.
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