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I’ve noticed on some profiles people say this isn’t sexual to them.
What does that mean to you?
I find it sexual, but I feel like people misunderstand this. When I say this I don’t mean I think ABF or suckling is a precursor to sex or I want/expect sex. I mean it’s a turn on.
Are there really men and women out there where suckling has no effect on their arousal?
I think there’s levels of platonic or non-sexual.
Some ladies truly just need help inducing for real-life reasons inside or outside of ANR. Some are actively breastfeeding a child but are having trouble with milk production/child has a latch problem/husband won’t touch them, etc and they truly need a caring, skilled mouth to get them through. A pump is nice but a true latch is better. They might see this need almost at a professional service level. Very platonic, lots of boundaries.
For people who haven’t experienced deep feelings of connection and bonding beyond sexual play, it’s hard to describe these feelings that are sometimes so strong they are more intense than sex. It’s like going deeper. So anything else your body is doing is secondary. Those intimate feelings can be platonic but also just…really intense and world-bending on their own. Sometimes surpassing any sexual feelings.
For others, ANR is so relaxing, focused, gentle, almost a trance-like state that is so unique that you don’t want to have anything interrupt it. So, even if there is arousal, the partners wouldn’t want to act on it because the nursing time is way more important.
I would say non-sexual is what the partners decide it is for them. Arousal might happen but be completely ignored. Clothes stay on. Energy is quiet and nursing focused. For others there is no arousal, just an intense immersing in the breast connection.
I know what it’s like to experience this in a wide range of feelings. In fact, I chose not to have intercourse in my early 20s and carefully selected lovers who gave me lots of breast attention. We literally did not have intercourse and anything manual was an afterthought following hours of breast play. I know what the trance-like, floating state feels like in a relationship as well.
Guess this will be a blog post at some point…
Yes, I am capable of suckling without arousal. I’m also capable of becoming highly aroused. I think the degree to which an ABF encounter is sexual all depends on the relationship between the partners, the boundaries of that relationship, and to some extent, their ability to control their arousals. One thing is certain, I can affirm that it is entirely possible to enjoy ABF platonically.
Treasure Chest hit the nail on the head for me. I’m exactly the first category she describes.
An interesting question. My own experiences varied. In some cases when I was sexually attracted to my partner to begin with, in that case nursing was a directly sexual act. Nothing more need be said.
In a slightly different case, another of my past partners was actually lactating at the time. Nursing in that situation was very different. There was still a sexual angle to it- but it was more indirect, more of a kink. For instance, we’d normally nurse after dinner. She’d lay back on my sofa, belly and breasts alike full and heavy. She’d seem so content, so satisfied. Something about that in itself got me off, though the reasons are more deep and complicated.
And in yet other cases, other partners just weren’t sexual at all. I just wasn’t into them. I’d still nurse for its own sake, and I did enjoy that. But if I’m not attracted nor is there a kink factor, then no sexuality exists.
@treasurechest thanks for the very detailed response, it was very informative!
I’m new to ANR and I’m very new at seeking this type of relationship but I agree with a lot of what’s been said here. For me something being sexual is a “vibe” if that makes any sense, that both partners are feeling and consent to. Even if something is arousing to it doesn’t make it make it sexual. Context, intent and consent I feel are very important and should be discussed IMO.
For me it is the trance like state and total relaxation that I crave. To think about anything sexual during nursing wouldn’t ever happen with me. It would ruin it. Sex and abf are totally different and I would never think of combining them.
For me it totally depends on the girl and what she’s wanting. Personally, I prefer a relaxed nurturing experience, with bonding, closeness. Lots of contact. I might be aroused but I tend to get that way when I have that comfortable, content feeling. But the last 3 I was with, it was a bit relaxing and sexual, as in they orgasmed during our time. So again, for me, it all depends.
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