Were You Always Like This? 😏

[Lola]

I’ve been wondering about something, and since some of you require very little encouragement to share your secrets, this feels like the perfect place to ask. 🤓

How did this become your thing?

I don’t mean how you found this site. I mean before you knew the words ANR or ABF, or even realized anyone else wanted this too. When did you first notice there was something about nursing that pulled you in?

I’m intentionally not calling it sexual, because I know it isn’t that for everyone. It might have started with attraction or curiosity, or had more to do with intimacy, nurturing, comfort, closeness, breasts, milk…or some combination of things you couldn’t quite explain at the time.

Did you always know? Was there a particular moment or experience that made something click? Did someone introduce you to the idea? Or did you carry it quietly for years before discovering you’re not the only one?

I especially want to hear about the moment you realized this had a name and an entire community attached to it. Was that exciting? A relief? Did it make you even more curious?

I want the backstory, not what happened afterward. That’s a conversation for another day. 😏

So tell me your origin story!

Were you always like this…or did something awaken it? 🫶🏻

[B♾️b Willis]

For me it happened with the guys in the neighborhood. We were preteen-early teen and had playboys and other magazines that were removed from our father’s collections using covert ops, you know special forces…. So we would meet and trade and stuff. I aways traded for the the b♾️bie pictures and the all the other kids wanted the below the waist pictures. They said I was weird but I knew what I wanted and liked. I could get like 10 b♾️bie pictures for 1 that they wanted.
That’s my story and I am sucking to it!

[Andy]

I was always like this and did become excited when I realized it is a thing.

[Cass]

A little embarrassing but…while it isn’t necessarily a sexual thing now, that is how it started for me. Always had a thing for breast play and I was on a NSFW subreddit that was tailored to it. So I was just kind of aimlessly scrolling through the videos when someone just happened to comment “just go to r/adultbreastfeeding if this what you want.” It was the first time I’d heard of that and of course there was a subreddit for it because there’s a sub for everything lol. But I went to it and from there it was a bunch of other subs for ABF/ANR. I spent a long time reading people’s experiences and what they look for and enjoy about it and realized it was something that I wanted too. Can’t remember where I found this website though. I think it was another person that just commented on a random post.

This was all a couple of months ago so fairly recent for me.

[Lola]

@nips2lips 😘

So you knew exactly what you liked early on AND figured out how to game the market. Ten for one?! Those poor boys had no idea they were being absolutely fleeced.

I love that your origin story basically amounts to: They thought I was weird. I thought I was getting a hell of a deal. 😂

And clearly, all these years later, you are indeed sucking to it. 😉

[Lola]

@midwestnoob 😘

Nothing embarrassing about that at all! I actually find the part about it not necessarily being sexual now really interesting, especially since that’s what initially brought you to it. Somewhere in all that reading, it sounds like the appeal grew into something different than what you originally thought you were looking for.

And only a couple of months ago! You’re practically brand new. What changed for you as you started reading other people’s experiences on Reddit or here? What do you think you’re drawn to about it now that you weren’t thinking about in the beginning?😘

[Breast Men Tell No Tales]

Dian Parkinson of _The Price Is Right_ in the 1970s. She was…different than the other two hostesses, who were also gorgeous. I had a crush on her when I was young.

[Paul]

For me, it began in my mid-20s when my daughter was born. I would watch, fascinated, as her mother pumped. She did it all the time because our daughter didn’t take to the breast. I kept asking questions—what does it taste like? Is it fatty? Sour? I asked her if I could taste it, and it was a flat-out no!

Then came one night when we were fooling around in bed (you know what I mean). Anyhoo, I was sucking on her nipple and she began to lactate. I finally got a taste, but in that exact moment, I felt closer to her than ever before. She didn’t want to carry on, so we stopped it there.

From that day, I knew I liked it. But I put it to the back of my mind, thinking there must be something wrong with me and wondering if I was the only one like this. I denied myself the chance to explore it.

Years went by. I remember sitting in the pub with friends who were joking about things people liked, and breastfeeding came up. I turned bright red with embarrassment, knowing I liked it while they were calling people ‘weird’ for it. It only made me feel more broken.

Eventually, I couldn’t take it anymore, so I Googled it. To my surprise, a few websites came up, along with this one. I made an account, didn’t speak to anyone, just had a look around… and then I got scared and deleted it! But knowing this place existed stuck with me. It took me another year of looking at the site here and there before I tried again.

Finally, I made a new account, took a deep breath, and with shaking hands, said hello in the chat room. I couldn’t believe the welcome I received. After years of denying who I was, I finally felt whole again. I was so relieved to find out I wasn’t the only one. Now I know I’m not broken… I’m just me!

[B]

Ohh Lola… you’re too good at this!

Well, for me, I guess I should chapterise this (please excuse the s for you Americans:)

1
My mother: I remember as a young lad, my baby sister being breast fed thinking wow… did I get this too!?

Remember in Scotland / UK, us boys didn’t get much of an education when it came to puberty / sex / pregnancy etc. Just the very basics.

But it lasted long in my memory…

2
Irish: A girlfriend of the time.. She wanted to hold me in a certain way, and I had no idea why at the time. We had both been out drinking and of course, once home, we were both feeling a bit randy. But this was different, normally it was – clothes off.. suck, lick, touch, play, suck more and fuck.. and finishing off with a Marlboro light in those days.

Not this time though.. no. She wanted to hold me. In her arms.. and I remember the way she just fed me her right breast. At first I was ‘come on come on’ but once settled.. it was wow! I think we both fell asleep not long after due more to the alcohol than the actual act. Nothing else was said about this though.

3.
Wife: She had given birth and was obviously lactating and asked if I’d like to try. I was very much undecided at the time, God knows why:/… but she let her finger run over her nipple to gather her milk and sucked on it herself. She said If she could then why not me. I didn’t hesitate then, I literally grabbed her breast and suckled until she pushed me away… it was definitely an eye opener. Unfortunately though, after our second child, her nipples had become so desensitised that she just didn’t desire to be touched there anymore.

4.
Erotica: Reading, and now writing – or attempting to write erotica was always a thing for me.. always prefered over visual porn. That’s when I came across ANR / ABF. Game changer!!

[Benjamin Donachie]

I have always liked this but when my kids mom was prego and nursing she didn’t make enough for the kids so I drank it I have had a few gf who had milk my bio mom is like a board flat as hell so I never got milk from her

[Cass]

The best way I can describe my change in view is a discovery from former ignorance. I just never knew, or rather never considered the possibility of an adult sucking breasts without it being sexual. Always viewed boobs to have 2 functions – feed children and arouse adults.

But then I discovered this community and almost everyone mentioned how intimate and comforting it was. How it formed a bond that wasn’t inherently sexual but still just as special. How relaxing it is for both parties. And that’s something that I was incredibly drawn to as I realized I lacked in almost all my relationships – intimacy. That deep connection between the two. So it became what I desired more.

That being said though, there’s still a sexual element to it. I think there can be times where it leads to that and other times where it’s purely just soothing and connecting. All depends on the setting and the mood.

[Lola]

@gardenman🌸🌺🌸

I think there’s something really interesting about how quickly we can decide there must be something wrong with us simply because we don’t know anyone else who understands a particular part of us.

And then you find out there’s an entire community of people quietly thinking, Oh thank goodness, you too?

I wonder how many people here spent years believing they were the only one. That might actually be one of my favorite things about this place. Whatever else happens here, there’s something pretty lovely about being able to put down a secret you’ve been carrying and discover nobody runs screaming from the room.

I’m awfully glad we’ve all found one another! 😎😉😘

[Lola]

@lonman 😎

See, THIS is fascinating to me. You didn’t really have one origin story at all, it kept tapping you on the shoulder at different points in your life until eventually you stumbled across ANR/ABF and went, Ohhhh. Well that explains a few things. 😂

And I love that erotica was ultimately the thing that gave you the language for it. There’s something about reading that leaves so much more room for your own imagination than watching someone else’s version of desire play out on a screen.

Also, “chapterise” is perfectly acceptable, but I appreciate you making accommodations for us uncultured Americans. 😘

[The Lover Boy]

I too discovered what I would come to know ANR the same way Cass did! Might get a little nsfw 😅 but truth to be told, I had a fascination with boobs and areolas from a teen and up! And I had an FWB that would let me suck on her boobs whenever I wanted so that fed into that desire and fascination. So I was feeling particularly horny one night and decided to hop on Reddit in search of nsfw subreddits when I came across r/adultbreastfeeding! And the video I had seen were just a lovely couple that was having an ANR relationship and he was laying in her lap, just suckling. Nothing else. It was comforting, it was sensual, and intimate. And that caught my attention like nothing before and lit a fire for something I didn’t know I wanted and needed, comfort, security, and intimacy on a level I had never felt before. That’s what I feel it provides! I mean there is a sexual side to it for me as well, but I do feel it’s a healthy balance of both! Then I fell into a rabbit hole and then ended up here!

[Lola]

@midwestnoob 😘

I think you just put your finger on something that probably draws more people here than they initially realize. Sometimes you go looking for one thing and discover there was another kind of hunger underneath it altogether.

And I really like that you don’t feel the need to make it either sexual or intimate. Why does it have to choose? The fact that the same act can feel wildly sexy in one moment and incredibly comforting in another might be part of what makes it so compelling.

Now I’m wondering how many other people came here thinking they knew exactly what they were looking for…and discovered something else entirely.

As always, I truly appreciate your thoughtful responses. ❤️

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