Turned on by anr/abf

[Brandon]

I’ma 35 year old married male in Florida and I’m super turned on by the idea of sucking on a woman’s breasts for a couple hours. My wife is lactating as we have a newborn and I’ve asked her before if I could suck on her breasts when she was engorged, but she won’t have any part of it.
My dream fantasy would be to suck on a woman’s breasts while we were completely naked and her stroke my penis…..

Just wishing out loud over here. Curious if women get turned on by this as well or if it’s something else for them.

Peace!

[Anonymous]

Well I can’t speak for your wife or anyone other than myself, but the last thing on my mind when I just had my own babies, was another mouth making demands on my breasts 🥴 my ex husband did taste it once when we were having sex and milk shot out of my nipples when I orgasmed, but we never made a regular thing of it and I was always wanting more attention on my breasts than he wanted to give them.

I can’t really relate to the stroking part, I like to focus on the suckling and then have sex if both parties feel like it. But I wouldn’t mind doing it with someone I was intimate with if they wanted me to.

Try to see it from your wife’s point of view. Her body has gone through a lot of changes recently, possibly for the first time, unless it’s not her first baby. Obviously you find her sexy, which is great, you’re not a misogynistic pig who expects everything to just ping back into place instantly 🤣 but if she doesn’t feel sexy in herself, that will impact her sex drive.

Add to that her hormones being all over the place, lack of sleep and the most obvious of all, a small person who depends on her for everything just came out of her body, it’s a lot. Try not to add to it. Take care of her and the household chores so she can take care of and get to know the baby. She will instantly feel less stressed if she knows she has your support.

I understand it’s tough for you as well, you might have to take care of yourself for a while, in more ways than one lol, but if she knows you’re there for her and you’re being patient and understanding, at least it won’t cause resentment or make her feel guilty for neglecting you. You can still keep the closeness and intimacy with lots of affection, skin contact when cuddling in bed etc, and things will get back to normal sooner or later.

There’s no guarantee that she will want to do anything sexual with the breastfeeding though. It might happen naturally if her breasts leak during sex or cuddling with you, she might want you to boost her milk supply by feeding after the baby finishes, or if her breasts get very full and uncomfortable. Or if she drinks some alcohol and doesn’t want to pump and dump the boozy breast milk, you can offer your services 😂 and she might like it.

But it’s not for everyone and I wouldn’t push her if she doesn’t feel the same as you do about it, there are far fewer women who are into it than men. And of those who are into it, it’s not always sexual for women. To be honest, if anything breastfeeding related had turned me on when my kids were babies, I would have been concerned about that. For me, it was only much later on that I became interested in adult breastfeeding, when my kids were teenagers. Maybe nature makes it that way for obvious reasons.

Sorry I’ve said so much! I hope at least some of that was helpful and congratulations on the baby 👶🏼

[Anonymous]

You have a newborn! Congrats! This is a really stressful time for new parents of all genders, especially if this is the first for both of you. Sleep deprivation is no joke, and both parties can suffer adjustment stress like PPD. If you’re finding yourself feeling lonely and thinking thoughts of stepping outside the marriage on the sly, please think again. I can think of few things more devastating than to have a newborn and discover my spouse was cheating. This is one of those times in life where your sex life, even if you have super high drive, has to take a backseat to the demands of new parenthood. In a few short months, EVERYTHING is going to be different. At six months, your baby will be sleeping lots more, starting solids, sitting up, and all of a sudden, the “OMG NO” reaction to the idea of sexy fun times may well shift. By the time your baby weans around a year or two, the idea of keeping it going as something private for the two of you may appeal a lot more. So much will change that first year of parenthood. Your fantasy is not uncommon at all, but I’m really urging you to think about patience. Right now, your wife is probably not feeling the sexiest, and the sexiest thing you can do is WAIT and give her more time to herself. Want more sexy fun times? Make sure she’s getting regular naps, hold the baby while she takes a long bubble bath, do the dishes, make a meal, order takeout, give her the gift of TIME and your fantasies can BOTH come true.

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