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Sometimes it’s not that you don’t have the same interest, wants and desires and in conversation it’s all good but…
it just that sometimes after you meetup you realized you’re just not into that person, be it looks, attitude, anything, so they just don’t call back, yes it would be nice if they told you they were not interest, but that usually happens generally in dating when there is no interest to proceed, so don’t take it personal.Thank you for your kind words.
This does of course work both ways. I have had this same experience…but in reverse. Men on these site outnumber the ladies and in the past my impression has been that ‘some’ ladies are a bit like a Butterfly flitting from flower to flower.
I have had some quite lengthy conversations with a UK lady over a period of some 3 weeks both on this site, by e mail then mobile after which we finally agreed to meet up.
The night before we were due to meet I received a ” sorry but I have met a guy who is a bit younger than you, nearer than you etc, etc” text so some ladies do play off the guys as well…..just saying.Bazz Well said – We do get played often as there are far more men on here than women.
Sadly it works both ways.
And as the women have the Breasts they can pick & choose – Thats part & parcel of how it works.
I think all men are well aware of that or at least they should be.But guys do it more than women. And in both cases not nice at all. If your really not interested in the first place dont waste someones time and lead them on. Its not nice to play games with people.
True it isn’t nice either way – Not so sure more men do it than women – As there’s few women & more men to choose from a fair few of us men get played & dumped. I don’t see anyway around it / how it can be stopped – we just have proceed with caution & that in the back of our minds – self protection so to speak.
This made me a little sad to read. It’s so disappointing when you think you find someone you can connect with and then it turns into nothing but it’s like anything else in life I guess.. the person you meet is either a good fit or they aren’t. For me personally I would rather someone met me then it fizzled early rather than wasting my time. Hopefully we will all find the right person for us soon enough x
My best way of dealing with fakes, ghosters, and downright whackos … is not taking it personally one bit. I understand it is the way (some) people behave, and I kindof expect it. It’s like driving in Boston … if you expect people there to all be nice and courteous, you’re not living in reality. But if you expect that people will be as they are, then you’re more likely to be pleasantly surprised with a gem comes along. Admins can try to herd the cats into behaving civilly, but good luck with that. You can ban people, but you can’t change human nature.
I am by no means excusing selfish, inconsiderate, and downright rude behavior … i hate it just the same as anyone else. But to not “get my panties in too tight of a bunch” over it … I try to let it be “their” problem, not mine.
Best wishes lads and lassies in your search for a great ANR relationship !! Your goal is a noble and wonderful one, and don’t let the jerks spoil it. 🙂
How can you say that with confidence? Have you been in a guy’s shoes and gotten played? It happens to all, sadly. It doesn’t help to say “they are at fault” when both genders can play the same stupid game. ugh
its not just men that are timewasters, most of the women on here are timewasters as well, you exchange messages with them and have a chat and then it all stops and you never here from them again, i’m very serious about finding someone but not sure if this is the site to do that.
Both genders are guilty of this. Have had ongoing conversations for months and always when it is time to meet another convenient excuse. If people want a chat buddy or just to fantasize about this instead of actually meeting and seeing if there is a connection they should stick to a online chat forum that caters to that and not a site where people are hoping to match with a partner.
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