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Oh and @rickrock excellent topic choice!
What I’m seeking here is that people are so jaded that the simplest and most innocent of questions will annoy them.
Better to stay away from people like that anyway.
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Thank you OP for beginning such a dialog. I agree with others that asking how you got into it or if you’ve had any luck isn’t rude at all, but these things are all a matter of opinion. Personally I find it really off-putting when someone begins the conversation with “So where exactly are you located?” This happens quite often, surprisingly, and it makes me feel uncomfortable. It’s not a simple “So, where are you from?” in a vanilla sense. I feel vulnerable here because I’m bearing my desires simply by having a profile. When I skirt the issue and mention that we are too far away for the type of relationship I’m looking for, the response is often, “that’s okay I travel to your state all the time. So what part are you in?” *sigh* It’s not okay. Namely because I know almost nothing about the person and also because I politely declined the offer already.
Please let me apologize to all the polite and respectful people. Many of you have never said these things, and some of you may have, but that doesn’t define who you are. The important thing is that we are all here talking about it and learning from each other. I think if we all spoke as if we were looking each other in the eyes, it might help a person gauge whether or not to say something.
Yes, to the women’s answers above. In addition….
I just want someone to chat with about ANR/ABF….no, you just want to get yourself off while asking what I’m wearing, about the size of my breasts, nipples, areolas. Continuing to try to talk about ABF ANR, when it’s clear you want nothing but instant self gratification.
Being married, separated or attached when my profile CLEARLY STATES I am interested only in single men.
Men who think they are lactation experts. Their information and knowledge is limited and really so pitiful. I have spent more time with my breasts than you have, you don’t know what works with my body (or any other woman’s body). I have YET to chat with any man who really was knowledgable about lactation and inducement but several who think they are. Don’t mansplain, it makes you look foolish.
What all of these boil down to is lack of respect and boundaries. Make all your approaches with respect for the other person….they may not respond to you, but that’s life. You have to find the right person who clicks with you….you’re less likely to find that by taking the above listed approaches. So start with respect.
The women have hit the nail on the head!
Sounds like there needs to be a general course in how to have respectful online conversations. People seem to be bringing their Tinder game here and this is not Tinder.
Shall we list all the men we blocked on here and do a comparison?
Exactly what flowrgardn said. As far as I’m concerned men dont know shit about lactation and texting me telling me they have helped 1 or 20 women is a massive turn off. No two women are the same, fuck off. I really wish there was a forum exclusively for women to women only chat. And I am straight.
@adrienne7 we should even set up a friends list and message each other
READ THE DAMN Profiles first!!! I constantly have to revert them back to reading it. And I’ll get blocked when i ask them to read what I said. Especially only looking for locally and vaxxed. There is no wiggle room. I hate being asked how I got into the. Same way you did.
What I’ve experienced has mostly already been mentioned. Here’s a couple more:
-men who read my profile, don’t fit my criteria (+/- 10 years, unattached, not into milk) and ‘hope I will make an exception.’ I’ve gotten more than one message that says “I’ll give your breasts lots of attention like you said you want.” Okay, super, but you’re 70 and unhappily married and I’m 41. So you read my profile but cherry picked and thought I wouldn’t notice?! It’s annoying, but not offensive, and I just wouldn’t reply.
– The assumption that because this… kink? lifestyle? appeals to us that this is sort of a breast buffet for men to window shop and collect photos. Along that line, I’ve had men that acted annoyed and slighted because I was unwilling to handout photos of my bare breasts like business cards. I’m not looking for a dude to suck on my tits, I’m looking for a connection, which is also spelled out in my profile.I’ve had lots more good conversations than bad, so the good men deserve lots of credit.
Maybe they are just tired of hearing that? I don’t consider that rude but also maybe not the best way to start the convo? Maybe just start by trying to find out about who they are, not past experiences and not jumping into sexual right away 🙂
I am so delighted so many people replied.
Thanks for all your responses, and I hope more people continue to reply.There is a lot of common sense in the comments in the replies. I hope it makes a difference to both the women AND the men on here, to see these things aired out in the open. So please, rant away.
ANR/ABF is such a personal, vulnerable, private thing, and talking about it can be such a minefield sometimes, for people of both sexes — especially starting new conversations with total strangers.
I do like to think of myself as a gentleman – but I know that passion can sometimes be mistaken to be “too aggressive”, or “too [fill in the blank]” especially when it comes to sensitive subjects like ANR/ABF. There are also a LOT of uncaring men in the world, and some are on here to try to take advantage, and I don’t want to be considered one.
Thanks for your help on all this.
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