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Someone’s profile on here says that asking if they have had any luck on here finding someone is considered “rude”. I have made that mistake often myself.
Would the women on here like to disclose other things people say on here (or in person) that are considered rude, or cliche, or “dumb” or even annoying? Are there mistakes we all keep making with you?
The men on here that want to learn to communicate well with you would love to know.
I don’t think we have that much room to cover all of this subject.
-“How big are your tits?”
-Asking to suck them before even having a conversation
-“How much milk are you making?” And then proceeding to tell me what I can try as if I haven’t done the research and tried it all
-“Does pumping feel good?” No a mechanical thing cannot replace a mouth, ever
-“I wish I could milk you” or any use of the word udders, I am not a cow. While I understand some are interested in hucows, if one’s profile doesn’t specifically state that, it should not be assumed.
-“I wish I lived closer” FFS we all wish we did! Either be open to relocation if the right person comes along or don’t bother reaching out to them in the first place if they live “too far”!
-Asking for pictures of my breasts right away
-Sending dick pics unless specifically asked for
-Saying age is just a number if I have a set boundary on age limits
-Asking if I’ll share myself when my profile specifically states that I’m in a committed relationship
-Lying about your age, marital status, location, etc.There’s so many more but I think I hit the main hot buttons at least speaking for myself.
It’s not rude to ask if they’re having any luck on here. I think calling that rude is a little extreme, perhaps a dislike or boring? That’s one persons dislike. I’ve started many a conversation that way.
This question will get you a million answers. None of them right for every woman, just right for that woman.
I’d say if someone has it listed in their profile as a don’t ask, don’t mention it or don’t contact them.
The problem is the many things different people have listed as non starters, Hi. How are you. How’s it going on here. Don’t mention abf or their experience wth it(?). And they often have nothing much in their “About me” to start the conversation with. But say something interesting and don’t be boring!
If I excluded every thing someone has listed as a negative, or boring in the various profiles I’ve read I’d have nothing to say!
Immediately jumping to turning it 1000% sexual…
And the other ^ fellow women’s statements…
I don’t necessarily find “any luck on here” rude…maybe a little ignorant but also just an icebreaker I suppose-
Some men do truly need to read about the relationship before they reach out to most women.
If I can just screenshot every effing conversation I have with the guys on here and how stupid they are, that would be great. They need to provide a folder for this.
“I’ll relocate to you.”. Me: bullshit and then what pal?
“What got you into this.?” Me: Same as you asshole, we both like it, duh!Rudeness isn’t exclusively a male issue. I’ve run across a few women that have shown a certain amount of rudeness.
FoxtrotJulietBravo…
100%
Even today…… On Christmas, the garbage I’ve had to deal with on here.
Rick Rock:
I’m not offended by somebody asking me if I’ve had any luck on here. But what offends me is that there is no respect for boundaries. Zero. I get messaged on here by men every single day asking if I’m okay with this or that.
If I would just consider a “long distance relationship”… if I would just consider “allowing a bisexual man into my life”… if I would just consider “chit chatting a little bit”…if I would just consider that “men are worth a try”……
I could go on and on and on and on and on.
I read womens profiles every day.
Sometimes I’m attracted to them and I want to message… But….. her profile says she only wants men.
I would NEVER N…E…V…E…R…. Message her and say:
“Wanna try a woman?”
“What’s wrong with women?”
“What’s wrong with couples?”
And then send of pic of me showing my goods…..????
Are you effing serious?????
NEVER WOULD I EVER.There is a general lack of respect for boundaries.
I don’t see how “what got you into this” as a stupid question. I’m sure we all have a story of how we discovered ABF was our thing and I think it’s a good conversation starter.
Rick Rock…
Great topic, btw.
👌No, I don’t find that generic form of questioning, rude at all. Some ppl are just odd in general. Don’t let their quirks change how you start a conversation.
Now, to the people who you asked those, questions too and they didn’t like your answers, that’s their bad, and it’s THEIR problem, not yours. lol
You are not on here to impress everyone. Just the one, that makes you feel good about pursuing.
The thing that particularly gets me is the men trying to message when is obvious they are not your match but they try to offer you advice and they tell you how many women they have made lactate before
There are others who go straight to how much milk one can make or ask you about size, show the breasts and they get offended yo are here when you do not want to show nudes to strangers, ok if you want to but that is not what many of us are here for, it has made me leave the site before
Big turn off is to go on and on about their exgirlfriends and how they had a great ANR before and give you the whole story seems more like they want to share erotic stories and they are talking to themselves.forest11
BingoI agree with what @hrhmaryqueenofscot said! Men turning the chat sexual right from the get go, then when you call them out on it, you get called a prude!
The worst one I had recently asked me if I had “big erotic veins” on my breasts 🙄
Yes, I get that for many people on here there is a sexual element to ABF….however, you don’t need to be firing off messages that read like they have been typed with one hand whilst the other hand has your 🐓 in a choke hold.
Other pet peeves in messages are: getting the generic copy paste message, being asked questions that I have already answered in my profile, messages that make any reference to my breasts at all and messages where the guy feels the need to tell me how much he really needs to have a nursing session – that one just reeks of desperation and it’s not a good smell.
And for the love of the baby cheezus, stop with the random friend requests!
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