Sometimes things come up.

[June]

Something to consider is that this person has rejection sensitivity dysphoria. And people with this trait perceive rejection, real or imagined, like a palpable pain. And may over react as a result.

Now, this is not a you problem. It’s theirs and they need to deal with it and quit what is effectively self sabotage.

[June]

Now, here’s a funny story about being blocked.

Some of you may have read an experience I shared in a thread about how soon is too soon from initial interaction to actual physical play.

Well I shared an experience I had with someone with whom I had been corresponding for literally over 10 years on Fetlife, on and off. A shit load was going on in my life, and really not good things.

But now we recommenced communication and decided it was long enough. We decided we were going to talk on the phone.

Barely 10 minutes into the conversation we both literally said at the same time, why not let’s meet that same evening.

And we did. I even pulled my tits out in the lift as we were going upstairs to my floor and ordered him to suckle!

We’ve met a few times since then and he even features in my gallery. But one day during pillow talk, conversation turned to abf heaven. We each expressed surprise that we hadn’t realised we were both here on this site. I asked him for his username checked him … and I was blocked!

He peered over to fathom how this could be and then remembered. He sent me a message when I first joined this site. Because he didn’t get a response back he decided to block me!

I asked him what he said in this message for me to ignore him. Shrugging he said, maybe something like hello.

Hello? I asked. You’ve got to be kidding me!

I said if that was what you sent me, then, damn right, I ignored it!

I checked my inbox with him watching and sure enough …

His message was “how are you?”

Back in those days as a new member my inbox was besieged with messages. On principle, to this day I will ignore such unimaginative one liner messages. What am I supposed to do with “Hi” or “how are you?”. I focus instead on those that understand the art of conversation. Because conversation is part of the bonding process during nursing.

But now here I am topless in bed with this guy shirtless and my nipples throbbing from his attentions. A guy who, because of me, will never look at any residential lift in the same way again.

And up until that moment he had not realised I was the same lady he had blocked!

It begs the question, how many more women has he, and others like him, blocked based on and ill informed assumption?

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