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What are your top 3 reasons to reach out or read a profile? What are 3 reasons you opt out?
This is a great question.
Reasons I reach out.
1. Attraction. This goes both ways obviously. Looks aren’t everything but it does play one part. Least for me.
2. Distance. This is probably the biggest one especially for something like ANR where if you induce you need to meet multiple times a week and that can be a bit daunting if someone is 2 hours away and thats not counting traffic.
3. What they are looking for. I’m personally looking for someone who just wants to get together to nurse (due to my situation taking care of my mom i can be busy at times) or a relationship so I want someone who wants the same as me. Relationship wise I feel like needs to be more than just oh hey we are into ANR I feel vanilla interests are important too.
4. Within my age Range. We all have different preferences.
Reasons I opt out.
1. There just doesnt seem to me a connection. Which is normal. Ive talked to a few on here and it was challenging to have a conversation. Whether it was cause of me or cause of them.
2. Changing my mind. I did this when I was younger I don’t really do this now. Sometimes I’ll meet someone and go yeah this is nice but it’s too much for me right now. I personally LOVE chatting but I hate texting.
3. I don’t really have a 3rd reason. Uhhhh they are married and didn’t tell me? They have a disorder that is too much for me to accept. I’m not perfect either I have my own issues we all do. You get what I mean though. Some people can handle things more than others.
My reason for you personally is distance.
Hi.
Motivations to continue to read a profile include:
Well written prose that deserve a read even if totally improbable a half a world away. These profiles bring a joy in the way they convey a sincerity to a potential partner, an honesty in intent, and a respect for what a man can bring to the table, and an eager expectation of sharing that as a goal in whatever level of relationship the woman wants to obtain, and clearly states, from casual multi-partner roles, centered to maximize bringing in production; to monogamous intricate closely shared live-in situations, as asexual or virtual rabbit-fests. These profiles are written with a clarity of thought, that kindly, and let me say that again… kindly, convey any restrictions, preferences or limitations, and do not project those as a reprisal for all the infantile, self serving, immature and insulting messages that women have most unfortunately received in the process of kissing a lot of toads here to even find a frog! In that instance, the ability to look past the male handicaps, rise above the current society chic beatdown on men in general, and offer a man a relationship at some level, despite all perceived shortcomings, real or imagined, elevates that woman to a level of a human being worth pursuing and taking one’s notice. That will bring men out of the “her juice is not worth the squeeze” mindset that is finding men just as happy on their boat, sipping a beer at sunset, and throwing the ball into the lake for their trusted dog to perennially fetch. Only the women who can conceptualize men, appreciate men, and not trade them like a commodity, can scribe such a profile, and that’s the profile I read.The immediate “next button” one hit wonders clearly convey that you serve inferiorly at the Queen’s whim, ask for tribute, remind brazenly that gifts are always appreciated, implicate that there are more where you came from, categorize men as beasts of burden, and strip away masculinity as fast as paint remover on thin varnish. My favorite most recent example was being charitably told that I could have sex for a contribution….
Top 3 reasons to reach out:
she’s very attractive based on her profile picture and/or pretty pictures
-she discloses a cup size I might be very agreeable with
-she’s open to inducing or already is
-Honorable mention: from her description she’s very kind, sweet, open-minded, but cautious.3 reasons to opt out:
-mentions money right off the bat
-the opposite of the 3 reasons to reach out that I mentioned
-lives on the other side of the planet
-obviously dominated by political correctness/social justice or is obsessed and paralyzed/depressed by some orange man, often far far away.
-Honorable mention: mentions she married or has an STD.Concerning a ABF ladies’ profile.
Turn ons:
– There is a humerous quip or witty remark. Half witty remarks are okay too.😋
– Conveys a warm personality in her profile description.
– Has a neat looking avatar. The green triangle with a snaggletooth grin cracks me up. Pictures aren’t necessary until we become further breast friends.Turn offs:
– A dissertation akin to the published works of Leo Tolstoy. Chekhov was better.😜
– A profile similar to a job application. Having too narrow of a selection process could let “the One” pass by.
– Any magat like tendencies, antivaxxers, moon landing conspiracy believer and other assorted rubbish.Goodness gracious, I can’t believe woman are asking for contributions; what, is this the new prostitution ring?! Ugh. Crazy…
I hope more people reply, and thank you for your thoughts!
@Nick distance is definitely a good point for “pass” unless able (and willing) to make it work. That said, a “few times a week” isn’t going to do much for getting a solid milk flow. In my mind, in a committed ANR mindset myself -i believe in the monogamous version- the best path is multiple times a day and distance definitely impacts that. But, I am also not seeking a side relationship, more seeking a partner for life that loves it and we can build a foundation of trust, love and respect together. I think it is a vital part of my ANR to have those 3 things. So, I am willing to entertain distance in hopes of finding my perfectly imperfect partner.
@matureazmalelatch, I could not agree with you more on quality profiles. I bypass those with almost nothing in their profile because if they don’t have time to invest in their own goals, they won’t invest time into a solid ANR. Bottom line. Period. I am still appalled at the women you have encountered. That is just …horrid.
@joechill interesting perspective! Thanks for sharing.
@grogman I agree humor is vital! Thanks for sharing!Interesting question. Thanks for putting it out there, it’s definitely one that makes you think.
Reasons for reaching out
1 Has a profile that it’s clear she’s put effort into it. Clearly states what she’s looking for in a partner and what she’s looking for in a nursing relationship.
2 Distance is somewhat of a factor, but I truly believe if two people are meant to be together they will make it work.. that being said I generally stick to Canada and the lower 48 states.
3 she states that she wants lactation as a part of the relationship. As someone who sees lactation as a way to enhance the bond it’s important for me.
Reasons to not reach out.
1 Little effort put into writing the profile. Saying I’m interested in ANR and nothing else isn’t good enough for me. I like to know a little about someone before I reach out.
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Puts limitations on the distance a partner can be. I understand it’s hard to have an adult nursing relationship long distance. So I don’t hold any judgement towards anyone who does this.
As far as looks go being blind I don’t focus on them much. That’s not to say I don’t have preferences. If someone describes themselves in their profile that would be another reason I would reach out. I understand that a picture is worth 1000 words. It doesn’t work when you can’t see it. Not that i think everybody should include physical descriptions on their profileReasons to reach out.
*She’s a kind nurturing sweet single/widowed lady who truly appreciates what ABF has to offer
*She’s got some sensitive and generous assets that seek to receive as much as give.
*She’s able and enjoys having multiple nipple orgasms.Reasons to opt out.
*Distance.
*Married.
*Is a “ghost”.Top three reasons for reaching out.
Reading the profile and see what they are looking for.
Age to a certain degree..
Distance from me.Reasons for not wanting to reach out.
The liars on the profiles, promising so much.
The timewasters who never want to meet.
The ones who don’t want to share a pic.My three to reasons to reach out:
1 – my biggest reason to reach out is shared interests or hobbies as we have similar interests/hobbies to connect with outside of ANR.
2 – the next big reason is similar personality/character traits as it makes problem solving and connection easier.
3 – Happy/positive – ever since my 20s I have found happy smiling women incredibly attractive and I find myself wanting to be around them. The happy gene can even override my own criteria.My biggest three reasons to move on:
1 – Negative profile and/or a long list of requirements. I also pass on profiles with critical, contemptuous, or judgemental language. Not healthy for a relationship, Nuff said.
2 – I don’t meet her criteria. I believe the woman, respect her wishes, and pass if I don’t meet her location, age, or other criteria. I will wait on her to contact me if a particular criteria was soft or she wants friendship.
3 – She does not meet my criteria. I have criteria like everyone else. I put the top ones in my profile (ANR, marriage, age etc.).I believe who I am will resonate with the right person and while I will also attract the wrong people it is up to me to politely sift through them. The above criteria implies the need for a full bio. A good full profile is evidence to me that a person is willing to invest in a healthy committed relationship. I use the member search to filter for age and time since last login. I generally read all of the profiles and look at public pictures so I see who I am speaking with. Distance is not an issue for me as I have done a long distance relationship before (nothing can stop a determined couple). Therefore, I do not expect ANR before marriage if distance is involved.
Location, Location, Location, as if someone is miles away then its a waste of time, so distance is first.
Second is profile content, if the profile text starts going on about what they don’t want, I don’t want this, I don’t want that then its a pass for me, chances are they are just too much hard work and a negative person which I don’t need in my life. Simply state what you are after, want etc.
Third is whether we match on what we are seeking,
If those three are a pass, I’ll message them and see how things go.
My response is like most of the others . . proximity first, unless I’m just looking for good conversation . . the type of relationship and expectations . . and then other aspects of the profile like appearance, sense of humor, something about their personality.
All in all, I’ve enjoyed this site a great deal. I’ve only really known that ABF was “a thing” for the past decade or so, and it’s been great to have a place to talk to women about it, and help it feel a bit less “taboo,” as it still is for most people . . including my ex.
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