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I know this is for the guys, but I wanted to respond to it, to give reasons for people being left on read. My profile (as many women’s on here) is fully filled out about what I’m looking for, yet every day I get a messages from guys who in no way match any of it. If I ignore the messages I’ll very often get follow up messages chasing me for a response or calling me rude for ignoring them, but they’re the ones who have been rude initially for either not reading my profile, or choosing to ignore it if they have.
In the beginning, I used to respond politely, but a lot of men don’t take kindly to being told no thanks and either use it as an opportunity to try and force further conversation on why they deserve my attention, or give me abuse for daring to reject them.
My preferences are the way they are as a result of past wonderful experiences of ANR that I wouldn’t change for the world, but ultimately didn’t work out to be permanent and the reasons for that happening. They’re also because of every day responsibilities I have in the real world and I’ve got to the stage that I’d rather not be in a relationship than one that isn’t right for the people in it.
D seems to be the quickest and clearest, but there will always be guys who just don’t get it or don’t take rejection well. That’s when a good block feature comes in handy.
Best of luck.
Thanks y’all I appreciate the feedback! Will keep on with being polite. Just know it’s a drag on us ladies when y’all aren’t taking a no very well!
Good morning Chaptic,
D is the most polite method. Nevertheless, you are under no obligation to respond to anyone. So, if you just block them, it solves the problem, and prevents the “poor pitiful me” sob story, further taking your time.
If I get blocked by someone, I am thankful because it saves me from investing emotional capital in a dead end.
Answer A (message read not answered – should not be Einstein to understand the meaning :-))
You don’t need to waste your time
And you don’t waste my time either(receiving notifications, checking emails just for a standard decline message).Thanks for posting your questions! I appreciate that you posed it and quite a few gentlemen expressed their sentiments in regard.
D with a slight explaination as to why. Even something as simple as geography.
@philip you said you wanted an explanation of some sort. You would want to know if a woman gagged at your photos or thought your introductory comment was cringeworthy and gave her the heebee geebies?!
That’s very brave of you!Yep, option D says it all and is put nicely, so that’s perfect
If they reply with negativity or rudeness, just block them or report them x
I would prefer D, lets my know without any guessing or assumptions.
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