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Men — honest question.
When you agree to be exclusive, does that mean exclusive… or just sexually exclusive?
Because I see a lot of men who commit — and then continue building new female “friendships.”
So I’m curious:
If you’re exclusive, are you still forming new friendships with women? Why?
What purpose do those friendships serve that your partner doesn’t?
Would you feel completely comfortable if she did the same with new men?
And for balance —
Ladies, if you’re exclusive, are you still building new male friendships? Why or why not?Not judging. Just genuinely interested in how people define exclusivity in 2026.
Hi Nici,
Welcome 🌼. Good question. In my opinion when you have love it expands and can’t be limited to a single space. Please do this one exercise for me whenever you are intentionally meditating/massaging/praying put your hands on your breasts very close to your heart and just fill it up with light, laughter, love and the nurturing comfort of a mother.. does this feel restrictive or expansive?
That’s a thoughtful question and I get why you’re asking it. For me, when two people agree to be exclusive, it absolutely includes sexual exclusivity, however, it doesn’t mean cutting yourself off from the rest of the world. Friendships still matter and having connections with people of the opposite sex isn’t automatically a threat or a sign of divided loyalty.
New friendships can grow out of work, shared interests or just the normal flow of life. They don’t replace a partner or fill a gap that’s not being provided for. They’re simply part of being a whole person with a full life and I’d expect the same freedom for her too. Trust goes both ways.
Exclusivity, to me, means choosing each other romantically and intimately, not living in a bubble where no other meaningful human connection is allowed.
When I commit it’s totally I don’t look else where and it’s mind body heart no one else will do and if people communicate their needs and wants it’s easy
I do t keep looking if I find a person I’m interested in and don’t look for more friends of opposite gender cause to me they are what I concentrate on them only jealousy and catyness can sour the relationship and I don’t want that or for them to feel slighted by me looking anywhere but on them but also I am not a jealous human so if the one I’m talking to is not totally there yet
I am not mad some times is a turn on that they still talk to others again communication is key to any relationship be open and honest say what you like don’t like and life will figure it self out usuallyWhen I become exclusive it means no one else and I keep them at arms length. I am old school so I put social barriers to what I will talk about with ladies when I am exclusive/married (no flirting or emotional/personal stuff), how I act (light hug maybe and nothing else), and so forth. Heck, I keep those barriers up unless we are dating really and then they go up with others when I become exclusive with someone else and then I delete the profiles. While I may have female work and church friends the above barriers apply.
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