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Nick, Iâm sorry you had that experience in a close relationship where you had to see them suffer with suicidal thoughts â¤ď¸ I have had a similar experience with a family member however, I was a child and felt extremely helplessâŚ. I know how traumatic it can be! I wouldnât wish it on anyone so again Iâm sorry you had to deal with that â¤ď¸
Kazzie you are an amazing person and I love your blogs!! I know you have had your doubts about continuing your blog due to the disrespectful and creepy messages youâve received â¤ď¸â¤ď¸ I genuinely hope you will continue your blog however, thatâs a decision only you can make hunâŚ.. I think youâre extremely talented and brave for allowing us to see a part of your world đĽ°đĽ°đĽ° I wholeheartedly agree it does not warrant the slimeball crap youâre receiving!!!
I appreciate everyoneâs comments and willingness to discuss and hopefully resolve this issue. I have met so many wonderful people on here and Iâm shocked how many of them are women as my preference is men!! I did not expect that when joining an ABF site!! The ladies do deserve respect and I hope each person can find their match â¤ď¸â¤ď¸â¤ď¸
And I hope for world peace too!! đđđđ
And Suzie I’m sorry to hear that happened to you as well. Can’t imagine it as a child, I was in my twenties and it was unbearable.
@38dddchocolatte Yes, yes, a thousand times yes. I hear this sentiment on other sites (non kink) as well.
The thing is that people either get it – we are beautiful creatures who have enormous innate value as humans – or they donât. The shared photos are something beautiful, and they might be shared because the woman feels sexy. Or maybe she felt beautiful. Or grateful that these breasts have the power to nourish and comfort, or overcome breast cancer. There could be hundreds of reasons. Also hundreds of reasons a person would choose to reveal a little or a lot, and MOST OF THOSE REASONS HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR CRITICAL EVALUATION OF THE IMAGE.
If people donât get it, they see a photo and assume that it is there for the viewerâs enjoyment. Therefore, they feel completely justified in expressing what theyâd rather be seeing or what action they imagine doing with the body shown. They are also confounded by a negative response when they âshare their opinionsâ. After all, they can think of only one reason a woman would share a picture and that is for the manâs enjoyment. Itâs called entitlement.
And to the older gentleman who said that he canât say anything without offending a woman: the person receiving the âcomplimentâ gets to decide if itâs predatory or flattering. Full stop. You donât have to agree but thatâs how it is. Your intent may be different than how she takes it. Okay. You canât please all the people all the time. But blaming her because she feels offended by your comments is petty and manipulative.
In my experience, men either get it or they donât. I donât waste my time responding if I get an offensive comment, because it rarely changes any minds. I just talk to men who treat me (and presumably others) with kindness and respectability, who feel safe.
I guess I’m the “older gentleman”( though at 45, and only 4 years older than you I don’t feel like an “older gentleman” lol).
You’re right about everything in your 4th paragraph except I never said I blamed her for feeling offended. That would seem to be your interpretation of what I said. Go back and read everything I said and tell me where I said or even implied that.What I said was it’s hard to know what is acceptable to say because different women are offended by different things, some want polite respectful conversation, some have told me that’s boring and stopped responding until I got more sexual, some say polite hello, or “beautiful picture” is boring right in their profile or complain about THAT in forums? Some want you to get as raunchy as possible? Some got offended if I even asked which direction THEY wanted to take it. And no they didn’t say in their profiles. And yes I read the profile. And read them first.
You can’t see the confusion? And no I don’t lead with a crude or disrespectful remark. Ever. I invite any women who I’ve conversed with to come on here and talk about how I behaved. My only problem is I’m trying to meet some one for abf and making that more difficult isn’t helping. Any of us, male or female.
This is not a website for baking enthusiasts. I’m sorry to tell you but sharing photos of your breasts is going to get some sexual and even crude remarks. Even if you shared them because you felt beautiful or in your words, SEXY. See they can be sexy, hence leading a man to think they’re sexy and maybe a sexual remark is wanted.
And as many have remarked here, including some ladies, you can’t control the interpretations of your photos or the responses. Full stop.
Does that mean I condone offensive or crude remarks, for the umpteenth time NO. Everyone seems to gloss over that I’ve said that in EVERY post.
Also blaming a women because she feels offended by someones remarks is neither petty nor manipulative. It is many negative and offensive things, wrong, stupid, offensive, immature etc, but not petty and manipulative.
Lastly I notice many ladies in their posts have done things like calling me(I think) petty and manipulative or made other somewhat disrespectful comments toward men in general or men posting very politely. I think we deserve just as much respect as the ladies. And AGAIN ladies DO DESERVE RESPECT
đđ In the words of ElsaâŚ
đś let it goooooooo⌠đś
đś let it goooooooo⌠đśFor what itâs worth, the âolder gentlemanâ I was referring to is Brian Eastman, who is 55 according to his profile. I just didnât remember his handle when I was typing.
My apologies to any offense.
@kissmy44ddds there was nothing offensive about what you wrote.
44DDD, Appreciate the apology. Since you didn’t even mean mean me (and glad you didn’t) it was a very cool thing to do. Still you explaining and apologizing showed a lot of class, and respect.
In that vein I’m sorry if I offended you in my( totally unnecessary it turns out,lol) response.
Kazzie, don’t know who Elsa is, but I am going to let it go. I’ve said what I meant several times. Hopefully SOMETHING good comes come of it. Hopefully more men lead with respect and maybe the ladies go a little easier on a guy who wasn’t crude, but perhaps just made a misstep or missinterpeted the signals. Good luck to everyone in their search here.Elsa is a character from Frozen a Disney movie, Let it Go is a very popular song from the movie.
Thanks Mooncake. Not a big Disney or animated movies fan. But maybe I’ll check out the song.
Omg!!! Youâve not watched the movie âFrozenâ ???? Thatâs surely a crime!!! đđđđ
Nick you are like a stuck record just saying the same thing over & over. I think you just come on here to cause a commotion & upset people. Respect & manners cost nothing. Yes people come in here to hopefully meet someone but also to make friends. I think you need to have a look at yourself cause your attitude stinks. Ive spent a lot of time on main chat & itâs always been fun & a lot of banter. You have never participated or had anything worthwhile to say. Yet think your funny leaving nasty comments to get a rise or is that how you want to get noticed ? I think your actually putting women off joining this site. I think you need to have a good hard look at yourself & the way you treat others.
Couldnt agree more Dan Its like he has to have the last say and cant let things go.
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