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Kazzie, what I meant was those videos being public sets the tone for how far men thing they can take it in responding to you. I would think you were up for talking about BDSM based on them. You get right to that, there’s no hello I’m Kazzie, video but a montage of various BDSM. Sorry to hear you took down the “spanked repeatedly” video, I rather of liked that one.
Bella3 does have many valid points, as she often does. Especially about women wanting attention, but on their terms. There in lies the confusion men don”t always know what those terms are.
Getting back to your videos if I was near you in Australia I probably would’ve contacted you as we seem to share not just abf, but dom/sub. But I am respectful so I wouldn’t lead with “I’d love to spank you”. But based on these comments, I don’t know what I’d lead off with that wouldn’t offend some one. Could I even ask if you’re into BDSM? I honestly don’t know. And I’ve seen women post that leading off with “Hi, how are you” or some such is to boring and they wouldn’t respond.
That’s a problem because we’re all her to met someone and makin communication MORE difficult hurt’s us all.
Kazzie I’d like to think in an other life we WOULD have hit it off. Sorrry to hear you took down the “spanked repeatedly” video. I rather liked that one.Sorry I mentioned TWIcE liking the “spanked repeatedly” vid. It’s 2am here and just getting home. It’s either that or I really liked it.
I think respect goes a long way and is so very easy ( well unless youāre a sleazebag)..
Like said above, if I see a respectful or insightful comment on blogs puzzles or in chat Iāll click on the person profile as Iām
Sure many of the women will..and have more respect and liking for that person, much more so than if receiving a short message after not reading my profile or searching… although sometimes itās nice to have the sleazes shown for what they are then to avoid them like the plague… maybe you could have a room
Just for them, so they could fit in somewhere as the world outside abf heaven usually doesnāt want them either…
Hehe see how comments overall make āusā feel š The mind is storing opinions likes, dislikes etc at every engagement.
Apart from this itās lovely for someone to be appreciated even if not an expectation (doesnāt have to be an essay just a thanks)Nick, Kazzieās first video blog was an introduction of herself??? Plus, whenever you chat to someone Iām presuming you would say hi, who you are, where your from and ask if the lady would like you chat and get to know you??? Or is that not how itās done???
Bella you are absolutely right!! Most women do like to get some attention and also correct at this attention being on the ladies termsā¦ā¦. I do love love love to get attention from a hot, charming, funny male (preferably Jason Mamoa) and I love to get chatted up!!! But if Jason Miamiās wrote me a message saying he wanted to latch on and suckle me ā¦. Iād feel a bit??? (Only joking!!! Iād be soooooo fkn there!!!!)
Seriously you get my point??? First impressions go a long way??? And if being a gent for at least the time it takes to know each other a little is tooāon my termsā then heās probably not for me anyway. Plus anything that was a bit more steamyā¦.would be privateā¦. Right????Iām talking about public messages! For everyone to read! Itās quite different Iām sure??
Anyhooooo I also have asked for a like š button but again there is the comparison aspectā¦.. itās just a simple thanks guys??? Whatās the harm??? I really donāt understand what the issue is??? A minute of your time????
Love n peace to all ā¤ļø
Darmok on the ocean, Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra, Darmok and Jalad on the ocean
Shaka, when the walls fellSometimes it seems like that when people try to communicate.
@mooncake šš¤£šš¤£šš¤£ I was reading along and thinking.. wonder what that meansā¦ then got to the end! Too true! šš¤£ššš
Women: men, don’t be creepy with your comments and the puzzles won’t be taken down and maybe you won’t be blocked before you even get a chance to talk to a woman.
Men: BUT NIPPLES IN MEN’S MOUTHS ARE WHAT WE’RE HERE FOR! If I can’t say creepy shit, then what’s the point?!
The point is exactly what just went over your head.
We’re literally telling you what you’re doing wrong and you still think you know what’s right. Lmaoooooo!
If writing decent comments and compliments instead of gross creepy ones that impose your fantasies on a stranger hurts you that bad, then please, by all means… GO AWAY. lmao we’re literally not sad AT ALLLLLLLL if you are not around to say gross things to us.
ALSO, starting a private message with what you want to do to our bodies is so gross and unbecoming. Have you ever thought to speak to a woman like she’s an actual human and not a pair of tits here for your satisfaction???
Honestly, how successful have you been with telling a stranger right off the bat your fantasies and sexual things you want to do to her????? The occasional newbie or naive woman will let you slide and may entertain a conversation with you, but typically that’s a big red flag for the majority of us.
If you wouldn’t say some of these things to a stranger on the street, don’t say it to us in comments or in a private message until you actually get to know her a bit.
Some of you are hopeless and clueless and that sucks for you.
I have a few puzzles and a video that I’ve submitted and I appreciate the non-gross comments from the men who actually get it!
I’m gonna go back on my hiatus.
Yall stay well and don’t be creepy to people. š@38dddchocolatte ā„ļøā„ļøā„ļøā„ļøā„ļø Could not love your comment more!
This is what you are failing to realize. It’s not about being respectful or anything. It does not matter which of these sites you are on. You are gonna get off handed comments. Unfortunately that’s just the way it is. It’s how some on the internet operate. When you put yourself out there. You are gonna get some great comments. You are gonna get comments that are rude or crass. Even on vanilla sites you are gonna get good comments and bad. Im not saying it’s a good thing and I’m sure it’s frustrating. It’s just the nature of the internet. People say things on the internet to people. They would never say in person.
Joe,
I have heard your comments on here and on chatā¦.. you actually went back through the puzzles to see what messages I was talking about and then went in chat to say it was only a fewā¦. Why we are only mentioning it now and not at the timeā¦..Big drama over something and nothingā¦.asking people who do the puzzles to comment is a little much??? Daaaaammmn!!!! š³š³š³
I donāt understand why itās such a big issue??? Or why we need to justify stating to all members that something inappropriate said on a puzzle or in a first private message shouldnāt be happening??? Not try to justify it by basically saying āoh well! Itās the internet!! It happens!!ā
You may say you donāt think itās a good thing for people to be rude or crass but youāre using āthe internetā as an excuse for creepy comments??? ā¦. If we put ourselves out there itās to be expected??? Hhhhmmmmm š¤š¤š¤š¤
I think that whether itās the internet or notā¦. We have a lovely little community on here, the members are just asking you to be respectful in the puzzles comments and obviously first private message ā¦ it shouldnāt be this hard??? And like Jessica stated carry on and you risk being blocked by people you may have enjoyed getting to knowā¦ā¦ I think itās an easy decision however, thatās up to you!
Hi Suzie, didn’t see Kazzie’s video blog, just the videos on her profile, which I did read, always do. I don’t think Joe was using the internet as an excuse but an explanation. Stuff is going to happen here as in life. Like a guy making a rude comment in the street or on a date. We can’t control it 100%, even if we’d like to. Again that doesn’t justify it at all. Just a fact.
Can we try to change it? Sure, we do, as the ladies on here are trying to.Will w
we be 100% sucessful? Sadly no.
I live in NYC, home to some of the rudest people in the world, and several times a week someone does something that makes my blood boil.
In many ways I think we are talking past each other. I certainly am not saying it’s ok to be rude to any one. I’ve mentioned being respectful in every one of my posts(oddly no one has commented on that). And I am an extremely respectful guy, something every woman I’ve ever been with has told me.@Mooncake
Darmok on the ocean, Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra, Darmok and Jalad on the ocean
Shaka, when the walls fellHuge bonus points for that very apt reference. One of the best episodes ever. Unfortuantely, the “Sokath, his eyes opened” moment is all too rare.
@nickchrome as you so often like to appear patronising and point out to the ladies when they have a spelling error or read something incorrectlyā¦ Ill do the same thing for you to help you outā¦ I said it 3-4 times about my blogā¦ even in my profile which you appeared to have a good gawk atā¦ howād you miss it? š¤
You and @budcotten2342 are seriously arguing about this just for the sake of itā¦ weāve heard you both say how respectful you are blah blah blahā¦ we get it ok š youāre both glorious creatures and should be worshipped and we should just agree with youā¦aināt gunna happen!
Saying something is ājust the way it isā as a reason for people to behave badly online is just disgusting! People commit suicide over people talking badly about them onlineā¦ hiding behind your keyboard is NOT OKā¦ I realise that sounds extreme and youāre going to say āitās only one or two or three comments.. that arenāt even that badāā¦ noā¦ itās notā¦ youāre also probably going to sayā¦ āitās a breastfeeding site so why canāt we talk about breastsāā¦ you can just donāt be crass about it and donāt say something you wouldnāt say to someoneās face if they were standing straight in front of you.Nobody is trying to control what people say and doā¦ we are telling you we DONāT LIKE IT! So either listen or donātā¦ the choice is yours. I couldnāt give a flying f..ck anymore about trying to help you understand
Kazzie I never said that the way it is is a reason or justification for behaving badly. Just that that is the way life is, ISN’T right, and we all should try to change it. But will only be so successful. Suicide is something I take very seriously as I’ve been very close to someone who attempted it several times, it’s a horror.
Not arguing just for the sake of it. Just hoping we can understand each other better, as I know personally what I told you is true, sometimes I don’t know what to say or not, and that stifles communication and the chance to connect.
I know I’m just a dude on the internet claiming to be respectful( never asked to be worshipped?), and guessed at some point some one would assail that.
Don’t know how I can prove it on the internet. I would actually love to dm you, but don’t if I can prove it there. And doubt you’d answer. But in the spirit of this conversation I would like to and perhaps you will get to know the respectful me. Totally up to you. I was going to dm you but didn’t because I didn’t think you’d respond.
Have to state again no where did I condone disrespect or crass comment’s. Had a mother, have a sister, female friends, and have had romantic relationships. Wouldn’t want them disrespected. Ever.
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