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100% agree Kazzie. I’ve now even hidden my photos on my profile from friends because I dont like some of the comments. I also removed a few friends last week and will be deleting a few more over the next few days.
People should always try to be respectful. Unfortunately with these sites. Some men think with the wrong head. It’s the nature of the internet. I for one always try to be supportive of you ladies. And do appreciate the pics/conversations.
Iām also guilty of doing some of the puzzles & not leaving a comment. For that I apologise. I appreciate greatly the ladies that have supplied pictures. All are unique & wonderful. I look forward to completing more puzzles & leaving a comment. Thanks again ladies for sharing.
Iāve done the same @joanne!I also stopped doing my blog briefly as I was sick of the messages I was gettingā¦ itās like youāre treated as a commodity rather than a human being and its off putting and degrading!
I even had a guy pm me asking me to tell him about if I orgasm when someone suckles and when I said I didnāt know him and didnāt want to talk to him about it he told me I post my blog so couldnāt work out what the issue wasā¦ š¤¦š»āāļø
Itās people like that who make it harder for men and women to connect on these sites..@Kazzie my blood would be boiling if that was me, cheeky fucker. I think some men think this site is similar to fetlife or tinder and that if us women are on it we are easy and can be treated as such?
Kazzie I always treat a women (and everyone) with respect. But then again, as some have mentioned, this is an abf sight, and the goal is to get nipples in mouths( at some point,lol). And I have to respectfully disagree with Suzie, who I find quite charming, any where else saying that would be very creepy indeed. And yes I realize the goal for most of us is quite a bit more than that. But I have interacted with many women here who don’t mind or outright enjoy and want ‘innapropriate” comments. I think that’s the disconnect and confusion for men, Kazzie and Suzie’s comment’s don’t speak for all women on here. Some have even told me to ramp it up because they’re getting bored and then stop talking to me until I do. See the confusion? Having said that, where I agree with Kazzie and Suzie very much is I always START with respect, and every man and women should, and then take it were we’re BOTH comfortable. And even that’s confusing at times! Women,lol.
Let me try to help with your confusionā¦ am I right in assuming youāre talking about private conversations in pm?
We arenāt talking about pm.. Iām sure most of us are happy to be completely perverted in private with the right people.. we are talking about before you get to that.Itās true, some might want that attention publicly, it goes back to what youāre looking forā¦ but what does it hurt to comment nicely and keep that for private unless itās welcomed?
I am Very New to all of this including this site. I have not done any of the puzzles yet or really gotten to the point of looking at them. However I have some input on a kinda sorta more unique side of this.
I am biologically female. However I identify as NB or possibly even trans not totally sure yet. I have a rather loathsome relationship with my own breast. But any way I digress.
The first person to contact me on this sight was a man who said nothing more at first than “hi, do you have big breasts” I tried to steer the conversation telling him I was the one who wanted to suckle not be suckled upon. So My breast were not really something that mattered in conversations with him. Every other comment ended with “do you have big nipples” This got to the point where no matter how much I steered the conversation away from that he constantly asked about my nipples as if I was the lactating female. I informed him several times that I was NB and didn’t want to discus it. I then had to block him because he refused to respect me and my wishes.
So when you just comment that you want her nipple in your mouth you are disrespecting and disregarding what ANR is about. It is not just about the breast and suckling. It is about so much more than that. It is about you and your partner forming a bond that goes so deep. You are sharing a sacred moment basically. So when another woman shares a picture capturing that moment or an aspect of that moment you should not comment on what you want about her nipple. You should be seeing the deeper part. You should be reflecting on the fact that a woman’s breast is beautiful. It is not an object to be sexualized. She is sharing a very vulnerable part of her life. She is allowing you to access that special thing. Do not disrespect that. Be thankful and tell her that you are thankful. Because you are not entitled to that as a man here. You are being gifted something special. Treat it as such!
Kazzie, Thanks, actually you did clear it up and I was talking about PM’s. But I’ll tell you even in PM’s a lot of what I said still happens. Confusion. Sometimes it’s like a mine field, one wrong move and you’re toast. Even asking where they want to take it has blown up on me. I think a lot of the problem is that the majority of human communication is non verbal, body language, as you prob. know. And body language is prob.most important in the man/women dynamic. But, again always start with respect.
Kazzie, looked at your profile. And very public vids. Where you asked to be “spanked repeatedly” and appear at one point to have a bit in your mouth? Now I’m truly confused??? And if you don’t understand how the vids and your comments hear are confusing, well I don’t know, lol. I actually am dominant and pretty into that and would think you and I would hit it off, but again after your comments hear, no idea what you would find appropriate. Not in Australia so no a real problem. Do love your accent though and you’re very pretty. Hope that was appropriate,lol.
It’s unfortunate grown men on a kink site need to be policed on what’s appropriate to post publicly. Unfortunately, every man is not a gentleman and they treat this as a porn site; anything goes. Then at times I feel this adult site is being run as PG-13. This is a breastfeeding site, so a comment about latching/nursing/suckling correlates with breastfeeding. Now comments about other acts with or without breast, definitely would be out of pocket/inappropriate.
What I’ve also interpreted from this is some women like the attention but on their term, in the form of a comment. Honestly, I think the comments should be removed and/or replaced with a like. I say that because not everyone is comfortable leaving a comment or cares to leave a comment. A like is anonymous and quick. It’s the same clique of people commenting on the puzzles as they communicate in chat. Looking at the site as a whole (10K) vs the active members, there are 5-30 comments per puzzle. That’s nothing, get rid of the comments rather than solicit comments as appreciation.
*Even with a like, women are still going to compare their likes to other’s likes.*
Lmao @nickchrome youāre just being silly now. I did write out a big explanation of those videos and their context then I realised I donāt have to explain myself. Those videos youāre referring to arenāt an invitation to anyone and everyone and honestly I thought the spanking one was private š¤·š»āāļø (Iāll correct that in a moment)
I make it very clear in my profile how I want to interact on the site with peopleā¦ which pretty much gets ignored anyway.. but I donāt see how me saying people should interact respectfully and that perhaps itās their own actions deterring them from finding someone and me having videos up on my profile correlates or is confusingā¦ Just because I have those up doesnāt mean Iām fair game. In my comment about me not doing my blog for a bit I made it clear I was getting gross questions in pm about intimate things.. thatās not ok.
Anyhoooo back to the subject at hand.. I have no puzzles up so it doesnāt affect me at all if people like or comment on them other than it being a massive turn off from me interacting with certain people. Maybe like Bella said the comments should be removed š¤·š»āāļø She has some very valid points.
Maybe in another life we would have hit it offā¦ but then again maybe not šššš
@ladyoceana EXACTLY!
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