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So for the ladies who enjoy breastfeeding for the sake of relaxation and nurturing. How do you do it without getting sexually aroused? Is it a mental thing? Like can you put yourself in a “relaxation” state of mind, which makes it more intimate than sexual? Does it depend on the partner? What are the factors that affect you?
For me, I can sometimes do that. If we are not in the bedroom, I can easily give him my breast and start caressing his face very gently. It puts both of us in a relaxing mode.I cannot. It automatically turns me on to the point of orgasm
If I’m attracted to the man suckling, it turns me on, especially if it’s done well. Also, I’m an empath, so I pick up on other people’s energy, especially in a situation where there’s body contact. This is why I have a lower age limit on men I will meet, but the dynamic with a younger man feels more natural to me than an older man. The sexual energy was 🔥🔥🔥 between myself and my former ANR partner, so regardless of location and situation, it always turned me on. If he was stressed or tired, he just found it relaxing, and as an empath I was influenced by his energy, so even though I felt aroused on a physical level, it wasn’t as overwhelming as the times it turned him on. I have a large, painful ovarian cyst, so I don’t want to have sex until that’s resolved, that’s why I only want to meet men for platonic suckling currently.
For me there’s got to be an attraction. I thoroughly vet my contacts and meetings before I consider a relationship regardless of length of time.
I keep in mind important factors like mental compatibility, communication, attraction, physical attraction, hygiene, age, experience, knowledge, relationship status, distance.
If there’s no compatibility getting together is pointless unless you’re just looking for sexual gratification and there’s easier ways of accomplishing that without involving another person.
Definitely a mind set thing for me. The first time I nursed someone in a platonic way, I wasn’t sure I could do it. Keeping focused helped a lot. Having nursed 4 kids provable helped because I could focus on the nurturing aspect having nursed babies for so many years. It definitely is easier to feel more nurturing in the nursing when the nursing partner is in their 20’s lol. I think for the ones in their 20’s it would be really hard to envision it as a sexual experience to me.
@jessica – I don’t only. I only have experience with one man and he is my age lol .. I think I also get affected by the way he suckles. If he is turned on, he suckles in a more seductive way and it turns me on too. If he is relaxed, I sense it and I become more relaxed
Hi. You may not wanna hear this but it’s nearly impossible for me NOT to be aroused during breastfeeding. Since it’s not my kids and it’s an adult man I’m toast! (Or putty or some other soft substance)
My only suckler so far has been my late husband, so we had both an ANR and a sexual relationship but they were separate things. He suckled 6-8 times a day and though we had a very active sexlife, it wasn’t 6-8 times a day lol. I could orgasm from his suckling alone but we were both of the mindset that suckling was not sexual and for me, reaching climax was a natural and relaxing feeling. It’s documented that nursing mothers can also orgasm from their babies suckling and nobody would feel that nursing mothers were finding it sexual.
I don’t see any problem with being sexually excited by suckling but I do think that both partners miss out on a lot if you can’t appreciate it in a purely platonic way too. For me at least I’d need to find the ideal chemistry with somebody (which is what I’ve yet to find with anybody except my late husband, hence him being my only suckler so far) and then after building on that connection, comes all the joy and that wonderful bond that forms when you find a real and true ANR. The difference between that and ABF, which I think is more what those who find it sexual actually want.
I do think that there are a lot of factors that influence what feelings you experience when being suckled and they’re different for different people. I think how you feel about the person suckling from you is a huge influence.
Also, you may find that a platonic ANR is much easier to find and enjoy when it is part of a long-term thing and the more frequently your partner suckles, the less sexual and more loving/bonding that feels.
Just my 2p worth 🙂
I don’t think I can be platonic while breastfeeding someone. I was platonic with my kid, but when an adult touches my breasts it is very sexual to me.
I was always horny while breastfeeding my parter (my ex gf) so definitely can’t just relax the way I would like to, lol, it is very sexual for me.
I think everyone is a bit different and have heard some women are only platonic during the breastfeeding, which is interesting as to how they do it.For me Sometimes it’s very sexual, but other times it’s very nurturing and emotionally pleasing yet I do feel some sweet gentle excitement while he is nursing. It’s very intimate
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