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Why do people block you after you are unable to attend a meetup. I gave a genuine reason why I couldn’t make it, and yet I was blocked shortly after they read the message. Some people are are not very understanding.
Some people have had bad experiences unrelated to you, and good reason or not, that’s 100% of their experience with you.
I think that is it. I imagine some dealt with chronic flakers, ghosters, people with lousy excuses, even outright liars…
I’m sure bad experiences in the past may have coloured their view. I wouldn’t take such things personally. 🙂
Tim, many many men get blocked on here for doing absolutely nothing. Nothing at all.
Unfortunately, that’s not true in your case. You let her down. So she blocked you. Sounds quite reasonable to me.
I agree with Michael, the admin.
She had a right to block you even if it was a reasonable excuse.
Just respect someone else’s time for showing up. Complaining they block you because you didn’t show up is on you.
You made a choice and she did hers.
That’s actually a good point, that’s not something I had considered. I approached it from a good faith angle.
Did you cancel and let her know you couldn’t make it beforehand, or did you try and apologise after the fact?
As someone who’s been on the receiving end of the latter, it’s a painful feeling making a great effort to meet a commitment while the other person cannot match that effort.
So, you did not reschedule, just cancelled. There is a big difference and shows lack of commitment that the meeting would even take place a 2nd time around. Very reasonable to block and move on.
Kate you’re very presumptuous- I sent a message saying I couldn’t make it and could we set another time to meet up, also apologised for the inconvenience
I think a lot of this is to do with attitude. You’re asking for advice and then arguing with those that give it.
Your original question now seems quite entitled in that you were expecting people to agree with you. I agree with Kate and Michael.
Even if you had given a few hours notice that’s still quite last minute for someone that will have had to arrange her schedule around this and possibly taken time off work/made family arrangements.
Tim,
Nobody owes you anything! Many women have been led on by a-holes and will not waste tine if they feel jilted.
You just dodged a bullet! If she is that jaded do you really want to try a relationship with her? You will always be suspect and have to watch everything you say or do.
I’ve been blocked by a few. No loss for me. I just move on with life. I spent 28 years with the most awesome wife anyone could ask for. So I know that I know how to treat a lady right. I don’t want someone who is always suspicious.
Move on! Or as the Eagles said, “Get over it!”
It seems like you want everyone to feel sorry for you, I’m sorry but this is not the place for that. It’s absolutely no use getting butt hurt about it, just move on. Don’t make arrangements unless you can keep them. I have a lot of respect for the women who choose to join sites like this. They take a lot of crap from guys who treat them as kink dispensers. many women become jaded, because they are sick of being treated this way. If you can’t handle the heat stay out of the fire.
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