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Ladies please join me on describing what kind of replies are you annoyed with, for me the biggest turn offs are
1. How much milk can you make(I did not know I was an industrial production machine that had to give those stats).
2. Size, surely if I liked you, I would probably share it on my own.
3. Barely a conversation and then they ask for pictures
4. Immediately telling you they are successful with induction or how much their ex girlfriends made milk.Reading bios instead of sending random messages would surely help with this as many people wrote bios saying what they are willing to take and what they are not, and what they are looking for, or if they are OK just being your 2 am horny message dumpster.
For me the 2 most annoying questions are what got you into anr, and how long have you been into anr.
For me, the greatest annoyances are the comments- the you look like you have big boobs, or the immediate sexualization sharing etc… but these are still helpful ways to partially determine levels of emotional maturity. Even the annoying questions can help with this, so as annoying as some things are (and yes, they are) it’s still often helpful for me to conclude this isn’t it and I can move on etc.
The most annoying question to me is asking for pics from a profile with no photo, no name, no info- easy delete there. 🙄😂Isla, I get surprised about how much they want from one, when often they give little information in return. ” I can suckle for hours” well thanks for that information, so can a pump, what else is there to you? I wonder if some do not realize that we know what bra size we buy and indeed we are aware of their size. 🙂
Moonlight, Right?! It’s such a tell though so at least there’s that lol
I totally agree- there’s very rarely any true value offered in exchanges; I’ve found that it’s usually the older men (60+) that have developed maturity levels that layer effects bringing high value to the chat/ connection/ space; this leads to the essence of whatever one is craving from this.You would be surprised about the number of older men that still wrote the same teenage fantasies, I wonder if this is because of porn instead of connection making them think that most women like to be just objects, Ok we are here because we have a preference, but that does not mean that is the only thing there is to us, specially if we expressly wrote that in our bios. For some people sessions are OK, great, but if one wrote one is not a vacation spot, may be that should be considered.
Oh I completely agree; I e just had the best luck within that older age- but still a widespread issue. If the personality is right and it’s balanced with respect then sometimes can see past it, but usually not worth my energy.
Also what about the messages that are void of any actual conversation and contain just “I want to suck on you so bad,” seriously (it’s like no sh*t Sherlock lol- but I’m kind so I just move on). 😜Side note- any of the avatars that have teeth… I’m so turned off (lowkey way) lol
Scary teeth 😱Some responses here could be automatized with small shell scripts, then people get surprised they get blocked. Also I noticed that if at some point the conversation goes well but we refuse to be simple fantasies and might have some objection, like I can’t cross the world right away and change my plans for someone who just wants a thrill, it all dies off quite quickly. I wish everyone very fulfilling interactions, not generalizing this but for women this is something very intimate and offers a lot of vulnerabilities and of course dangers so we might have to do a little more thinking.
Thank you for your answer, I am seeing is a general complain seeing some of the adds of other women.
The dangers/ safety is are things we never go without considering. The shoes we walk in carry us from plotting escape, fight, or how to get help- every hour at least. This is how we walk through life sadly.
Men (generally/ often) do not walk in these shoes- they get to live with thinking about what they want, how they’ll get it, rather than how to run and survive. So it’s fair to recognize this as the reality of most women in this kink world too as we navigate finding our match/es.This is quite sad to read ladies. Men who message about How much milk, Size, Pictures or How successful with induction they were (so successful that their partner became their ex-girlfriend!) are simply showing you that they are only interested in milk, size, pictures etc and they are not interested in you as a person. I am not surprised those people would get a thumbs down (at least on this website – there are plenty of other websites for that kind of approach).
Related to the topic, I’d like to ask you ladies a question that’s been bugging me for a while.
When exactly is it okay to make jokes and comments about your body in chats and/or private messages? Is there even an acceptable way to do so?
I ask because I see more than a handful of jokes or slightly horny/thirsty comments on pretty much all female members who are somewhat active in chats. With you in particular, Isla, the fact that your profile pic is your very large breast must attract way more of those comments than even I realise.
Outside of the Spicy Chat, I tend not to contribute any of my own, or at least keep such comments to an absolute minimum (like, say, posting one jokey comment max on a topic a woman started herself) because I’m TERRIFIED of making an unwelcome comment or offending a woman/making them uncomfortable in any way. Even in the Spicy Chat, I’m usually a 1-comment-per-pic guy for the same reason.
Do those comments put you off or annoy you to receive? Are they less welcome than some of the chats would make them appear?
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