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@juicyboobies if you read my earlier posts on this thread you’ll see that I don’t agree with the original poster’s theory either. But I equally feel that women labelling all men as unnecessary for life, are equally toxic and nonsensical.
For context I’m a widower of 10 yrs and haven’t remarried so that doesn’t fit with your stat. I may well be the exception to the rule but I managed just fine to raise two young kids to young adulthood on my own while running home and my businesses. Didn’t need a woman to do that, but would I have preferred my late wife to still be part of that of course I would. She was an incredibly beautiful and strong woman with a femininity that was radiant and nurturing. She was without doubt the most powerful woman I’ve ever known in my life and she enriched my world in ways that I’ll forever be grateful for. I too gave her everything and although I provided for and protected her always, I sadly couldn’t save her from cancer that took her from this world.
Do I hope to find another woman of that calibre, absolutely I do, and I know she’s out there somewhere, just got to find her. I could so very easily fall into the toxic pattern of a man ruled by what’s between his legs and have endless copious numbers of women throw themselves at me, and take advantage of them sexually but that’s never been me, nor will it ever be me. I don’t believe in the modern instant gratification society we live in today, where transactional relationships seem the norm, and few want to delve below the superficial to find the beauty of what’s within a partner.
If that makes me toxic as a man in your eyes, that’s fine for you to have that view, it will never define me as a man.
Instinct no where in any of my messages have i referred to anyone as toxic so I’m not sure where your getting that. Im speaking as a woman in her 40s who has zero interest in a relationship nor a casual one at that.
Nor have i labelled all men unnecessary for life. I wouldnt be here without my father nor would my child without his. My opinion is and thats all it is, is that a lot of women like me in their 40s have done the whole relationship thing and have no interest in a repeat. Im beyond happy in my life with the best friends and family and do not see what a man can bring to the table for me a woman in her 40s. Nor do i see what i would bring to the table for him.
I have worked in a predominantly male job for the guts of 18 years and have seen first hand the amount of married men who think nothing of fucking behind their wives back. It wasnt a few men it was a hell of a lot of them.
In terms of evolution i believe men are still hardwired to spread their seed and women are the homemakers. We both only really need each other for a very short period of time and by the time women hit their 40s or 50s that time has gone.
Mansplaining femininity. Nice. Sit over there next to the OP where you belong. What a pair 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
I know, right? And people ask me why I prefer younger men 🤦🏼♀️
Better to stay in my corner on this one 🤣🤣
Looks like we need a second shovel.
I am happy with my female overlords. Really I am.🤗😜😂🤣
I second that 🍼🍼🍼
Well you two enjoy your simp positions.
As for you ladies that seek to diminish, you really have zero effect on a real man. You can stay in your lane and do you, I’ll do me. Neither of us need each other.
As soon as a woman uses that word mansplaining I know instantly she’s triggered.
Hahaha Rachy you blocked me so I can’t tag you. What a sad move that it is. I suggest the only reason you like younger men is because they’ll simp on you and leave you dominating them. You do you all good.
Unlike my approach which seeks to uplift femininity, some of you seem to only feel empowered when you bash masculinity. Sad really but hey ho such is life. I’ll never have any attraction to any woman that seeks to bash masculinity and I’m totally at peace with that.
Lol I blocked you because I don’t want you sliding into my DMs…again.
Thankyou for speaking for me, as any self respecting sexist man would in a desperate attempt to control the conversation to suit his rhetoric, but I prefer younger men because they generally are less controlling, misogynistic and disrespectful than older men. Thankyou for illustrating my point so perfectly.
Be honest now Rachy did my message ti you show any sign whatsoever of making advances on you? No they didn’t. It was actually discussing this very thread.
I’m quite ok with not being in your favour. Has absolutely swirl effect on me.
Enjoy your life, I’ll enjoy mine
I have been honest, I never said you were making advances. I just realised as soon as I saw the kinds of things you were saying here, that I no longer wished to converse with you in private.
That’s absolutely fine. The sentiment is very mutual. All good
To clarify, at least for myself, and I would think for many others, when a woman says she doesn’t “need” a man, we are often saying we are capable and independent on our own, able to fulfill the tasks in life that are necessary and may have been considered traditionally male. This does not mean we don’t want a man in our life, it just means we are making that choice based on love, connection, and appreciation of his character rather than whether he can mow the lawn for us. We can appreciate masculine energy, but only choose the energy that enhances our own. I can be fully aware of and empowered in my feminine energy, nurturing, comforting, loving… and still repair my car and fix the plumbing. My choosing to perform a task does not diminish who I am as a woman. We are complex and multifaceted, and I am comfortable in many roles. Also, many of the world’s armies have women on the front line, and we can be very fierce protectors. Furthermore, even if a woman, or anyone, chooses to not be in a a relationship with a man, it doesn’t mean we can’t utilize a service such as a mechanic or plumber. Respecting someone’s craftsmanship or trade and paying for a service has nothing to do with whether we choose to allow another person, whether male or female, into our lives romantically. Initially, I really liked your responses to the original poster, but then you seemed to almost argue against yourself, when women seem to me to just be trying to say that they are CHOOSING when and if they want a relationship with another person, being selective about who we choose, because we are independent and empowered in our own lives. Which seems to be what you are choosing to do as well, until you find a partner that suits your requirements, instead of just a warm body, so I don’t know why you are having an issue with us stating that as well. I think that is really all anyone is trying to say, we are capable of functioning well, without “needing” another person, or male, to the point where we accept a relationship that doesn’t suit our requirements with someone we love and truly connect with… anyway, that is my perception of the matter.
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