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Has anybody else ever noticed that every social place, every dating site, the bar scene, is always like 90% men. I have studied this. You know women get like 20 times more messages than men do on dating site. It is so frustrating. I wish I was a girl my life would be so much easier. Does anybody else find it extremely annoying that everywhere we go there is just literally no women basically?
Quantity doesn’t equal quality. Ask any woman they’ll tell you that they get sick of the masses of disrespectful and entitled men. For a decent guy, it’s actually become way easier to meet and engage meaningfully with women because you stand out from the crowd of wasters. Be decent, be respectful and be curious about a woman as a human being first, and you’ll find that you’re far better received. Women have raised their standards and that’s a good thing.
Your life as a woman would not be easier. Men are born with privileges they take for granted.
Women are EVEN MORE selective with age. Since men are not mature (at least not most of them) at young age they don’t settle, stay single or go through relationships that crash. Then only those older ones happen to be in bars looking for someone. Not all cases, but many.
As for women, it is an era where women don’t give a damn about bar scene no more, especially when they hit 35. I personally prefer some good exercise over a party. Most women at that age start signing up for activities to stay fit and mentally stimulated and to take care if themselves. Can’t speak for all. But definitely a lot, especially hitting on 40. So, we don’t have a whole lot time no more to be sitting in bars. We also select whom to respond to, imagine chatting with those 20 guys simultaneously. No way. So, if men want a good first impression- write a good, comprehensive messages (and send 1 face picture) about yourself to give an image of who you are and what you want from meeting another lady. Your expectations. You will find the right lady if you are honest.
Someone out there is right for everyone. Just make an effort, not a “how are you?”, etc…generic messages get deleted.
Who is the keeper? Who is the lucky one? Someone that is truly themselves and honest. We detect b.s., yes, we do. We sense it and we are gone.
The love story is a happy story. If you truly care to put an effort in a real relationship then you can put an effort in learning how to write messages to ladies you like.
That would be very basic skill, yet, so many are lacking it.
Also, read a profile, please. Many ladies have certain wishes and structure of messages you need to follow & if you really think you would be a good fit to get to know her (considering you can travel and see her in person) then follow the instructions on “do and dont’s”, those come from folks annoying us with requests or unrealistic expectations. We want people to read and have a guide of how to address the message. I just deleted my very long profile because only 2 people followed my wishes. 2. I will write a long profile again, just a different one that maybe is more hostile, haha…
So, here were my constructive thoughts that can help men improve maybe how they interact with women. If we lose interest or motivation in replying, that is it.
Good luck!
Yeh as if all women are quality
@instinctdriven so true! Well said!
@mikeswivel2024 if you take that approach you’ll not even get a look in the door, so pointless bleating about it. No-one suggested you as a man can’t be selective, in fact being selective as a man is good too. Trouble is too many men are just desperate thirsty little boys and quality women can smell it a mile off and won’t come anywhere near such a man. If you want to attract quality women you’ve got to do the work on yourself to be a quality man. Otherwise you’re wandering around the online world like a wounded soul picking up the the riff-raff. Can’t soar with the eagles if you’re running with turkeys.
Really not that hard to work out the more productive approach.
The message from some women today is confusing to unevolved men. When a woman says she doesn’t need a man, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t want a man, she just doesn’t want a weak man with no emotional intelligence or ability to hold masculine frame. Almost every one of those women would happily have a man who is evolved, sharp and knows how to lead in a manner that makes her feel safe, seen, heard and cherished. It’s not rocket science really it’s not. But some men are so deep in their weak feminine simping energy that they don’t have a clue how to be a man that can give a woman that safe space to be in her feminine energy. Just like there are some women that have very toxic views of all men, there are equally some men that wander around bleating about how hard it is to find a good woman. That screams entitlement. No man is entitled to any woman. If he wants her, he better be able to walk his talk, be consistent and be cool and calm under pressure. Women generally find that combo to be irresistibly attractive.
You’re a man, you better learn to lead like a real man does.
It’s not actually dissimilar to the job market. If a man is the same as hordes of other men, he’s got low value. If he stands head and shoulders above the rest, his perceived value by women, is far higher
This is backed up by statistical research which shows that 80% of women are chasing 4% of men, whereas men are shown to have very much less selective behaviour, swiping right on almost every woman. Good luck with that tactic, because it’s weak, desperate, needy and is never going to make any woman feel special if she knows you’d have taken the first woman to say yes.
Have standards for yourself as a man, hold healthy boundaries, and have self respect. That will automatically set you on a better path to meeting a woman you best match with, because you’ll attract what you are.
A very simple strategy to keep a man on the path of respect and decency, is if honestly asks himself if he’d like any man to talk to, or treat his daughter, sister or mother with entitled attitude and disrespect. If he answers yes, he’s got big issues. If he answers no, then that’s the standard he must hold himself to, regardless of what type of women he encounters in life, and how he treats them. Anything less is hypocritical weak male behaviour
Sorry @mikeswivel2024 this advice is not meant as a bashing exercise but rather to encourage you to change your perspective. It’ll help you to navigate this world, inifinitely better.
I personally think too many men in the ABF arena make terrible assumptions that it’s ok to treat women with low respect, because ‘well we know they like their boobs sucked’. That has to be the height of male entitled thinking and downtright stupidity. If you want a beautiful woman to share her breasts with you, you have to demonstrate that you’re worthy of that privilege.
I’ve said more than enough now. The rest is over to you.
@instinctdriven excellent commentary! Thank you. So lovely to see a man that truly understands.
@starbreast you also make some good points. I cannot express how frustrating it is when men ignore what you’ve clearly stated on your profile. Mine has sadly evolved into a warning, practically, as a result.
I haven’t got much to say that hasn’t already been said by the other ladies who have commented on this thread. Just wanted to add that you’re not doing yourself any favours with your attitude and you’re coming across as a misogynistic incel who rarely ventures out of his mother’s basement. I’d be very surprised if any women on here give you the time of day after reading this. I probably sound like I’m not a very nice person for saying that, but I’m an empath, so I reflect the vibe of the person I’m interacting with, as you’ll see if you read my other comments and conversations on other posts. Do better.
Literally no women huh? They’re literally all around us! I dont mind, I like the extra competition. It encourages me to act accordingly in order to set myself apart from the others. Besides.. I know what I’m looking for 😁 good luck on your search.
@mikeswivel2024 There are plenty of ladies around. Quite a few in Ohio, Pennsylvania, Kentucky, Indiana, etc… Give it a chance.
Many folks say just be yourself. I say don’t do that if you’re an A**hole. Be better than that. 😉
If your desire is still to become a woman, I know a doctor… 😜😂🤣
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