Men – How often do you get a response to your messages?

[LondonMan]

Just wondering because I’m getting left on read lately which is rather frustrating 🥴

[Michael_Admin]

It must be frustrating, definitely.

I’m not sure anything could ever be done about it though. ABFheaven is not like a speed-dating environment where you are “expected” to engage/respond to other users, it’s more akin to a cafe where your can sit and watch and maybe converse with other users, at your own pace and at your own discretion. You are free to ignore every single message sent to you, no obligation to even reply.

[LondonMan]

Oh I agree, no one’s obligated to reply. I just used to get responses to most of my messages but more recently I’ve received none 😅

[Sam]

One of the ways I guage a lady’s interest is by looking at her profile page. It tells the time and date when she was on the site last and it says when she joined. So, if she hasn’t been on the site since you sent your last message, she hasn’t seen or read your message at all (so you still have a chance). If she has been on the site since you sent your message, she is most likely ignoring your message or hasn’t gotten to it yet (some of our women get MANY messages each week and it takes time to respond).

I have had women that I’ve sent messages, and she finally responded after 3 months because she was taking a break from the site. She was the exception though. Some don’t use the site anymore ever. Some just want to know when someone interested message her. The site sends an email to each recipient every time a message is sent (unless they respond to it w/in 15 minutes). So, the email address she uses is the email she registered withbthe ABFH site. She checks it regularly SO if she gets a message… it will be there inbher inbox. This way she doesn’t have to stay on the site waiting for messages that may not come at all. And she can respond from the site (I believe). Some grow less enamored with the site over time. They just want to know if there is an interested person. Hope this helps someone.

[Ste]

The problem is girls get bombarded with emails, lots containing sexual content, so they get annoyed and fed up quickly. Messages then tend to be ignored.
This site is far better for getting a response than other sites I have found

[steve]

Not only what has been already said, I am aware there are male ( & pos. Female ) imposters, trying to pretend who they are with false Profiles.
Only to ask for a photo.

[Jim]

I’d say I get a response about 10% of the time. And it seems like I’m more likely to get a response if we’re on opposite ends of the country

[Cremosa78]

Just my point of view.. I do not respond to messages if it clearly shows they did bother to read my profile.. I think this is rude and doesn’t warrant the time and energy it takes to reply..

[ChaoticMiss]

There is a huge male to female ratio on ABF Heaven. So many women just get inundated with messages! The gamut runs from unsolicited pictures to requests for pictures. To just down right degrading comments. Most women prefer that the men read our profiles before messaging.
Just be you. Open and honest. Try leading into a hello with a comment or two about your interests before popping in with a question about our boobs!

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