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A friend of mine who is 6’5, 27, and a medical doctor with no children said he is pickier than most not because he is a picky guy but because he can be.
Women do you feel you have greater expectations than you would on a regular dating site because you have more options here?
Men do you find that this site is hard to find a match due to the various factors women require like age, location, attraction, time etc. than a regular site ?
Dating in and of itself is difficult. If you join a “normal” dating site, finding someone with all of the characteristics you are looking for is no easy task to begin with. When you join this site, you’re adding in one MORE characteristic (and one that’s not very common, to boot) into the mix. Distance, age, and mutual attraction are compounded on this site simply because there’s a far smaller “pool” of potential matches than there is on a regular dating site. I don’t think most women on this site have any different “expectations” than they would on a regular dating site. Too many men on here seem to think that a woman should be ready and willing to bare her breasts for you to suckle simply because you are both on this site. A lot of people (men) don’t seem to realize that the key part of the acronym “ANR” is the “R,” which stands for RELATIONSHIP. For the majority of the women on here, in order for a relationship to develop, there has to be more (a LOT more) than just a shared interest in nursing. Doesn’t matter if you live in the same state or city or even the same street if you don’t share common interests and desires outside of nursing… Unless you’re just looking for random encounters with any person who comes along. I’m pretty sure there aren’t many women on here who want random drive-by sucklers dropping in.
For me, no I don’t have greater expectations and honestly don’t feel like there are so many options like is always referenced…
I still value connection/chemistry, kindness, and yes physical attraction does matter. I’ve decided though that alot of the superficial things I have always considered priorities are not as important as true kindness, honesty, understanding, and patience…
Being on here, I know that we at least have a common interest in suckling breasts which makes it easier than regular dating sites.
The challenge is finding guys who will actually meet in person and are actually looking for a relationship. Not, just a fantasy to live out in messages or a body to do with what their wives won’t or don’t like…
Too many men on here seem to think that a woman should be ready and willing to bare her breasts??
– how did you come to this conclusion?Just curious
Well, that’s the vibe of the site… between many women using their breasts in some form as their profile pic which in my opinion condoning that thought process and creating the environment that we are breasts. Then the forum posts of guys traveling trying to find breasts in any city they are in…
So far from this site I’ve only came across one offs which is fine I’d be down to link up whenever we free I’d be open to even dating if we vibing like that. But here in Michigan I still feel ABF/ANR is still very taboo. The selection here in this site in Michigan is only a few pages worth and majority of them haven’t logged onto the account since forever the other ones either not interested or block you when you send a message lol
Come on ladies, lower your standards. I really want to make it with a gal who lives too far away and is repulsed by me.
Seriously though, I don’t think the women here are any pickier than you’d encounter on a typical dating site. We all have our preferences – appropriate age, reasonable distance, and mutual attraction are very reasonable minimum requirements for a match.
I think it must be 90 percent men on on this site and lots of woman just want to talk about abf and not actually meet so the chances of actually meeting someone are very very low, and to meet someone you click with is a needle in a haystack. Women will have more chance as they have more opportunity. You are much better dating in real life and finding a part who is okay with anr
While joining a breastfeeding dating site does narrow your tastes for certain qualities in a person, you do still have to factor in the physical and mental attraction to others. Some women will always be pick me girls with their behavior and actions. That is unavoidable anywhere you go. Others are extremely picky in who they interact with.
We all have certain standards that need to be met. You also have to take into account the life experience others have had that develop and characterize their tastes and preferences.
Some have morals and some do not. Some are here just to test the waters and others are here to be foot loose and fancy free and some are here to step out on their significant others. There is a whole slew of possibilities. Then there are a select few who are completely honest in their desires and dealings. But it is safe to saythat everyone is struggling to weed through the “crap” to find something worthwhile on this site.
It truly would be nice if people made honest profiles and dealt with others honestly. But that is not going to happen. So many are here not for the right reasons and the actions of the few unsavory have left lasting impact on others impression of the site.@chaoticmiss469 I couldn’t agree more!!!
It is just as difficult for us. @chaoticmiss469 is correct. Everyone on here is looking for something and in some cases nothing.
I made a forum post that said “ I was Struggling “ nothing against men ! I was struggling. The avatar assigned to a person , extremely popular and common names like Tom , Brian, Mike etc made it difficult for me to know to whom I was talking. All I wanted was for men but people to think about changing their avatar to anything that they liked. A 🌖 🌅 🌺 🐶 anything that helped facilitate conversation. Wow was that not well received and some were rude. Ok , life went on. I ( for me) want to know if men are available actually (married , single, healed from the previous relationship) I will absolutely be their friend and answer questions. It also helps if both parties end their texts ( pm) with questions so we can keep the conversation going and learning more about each other. The good morning, ( how are you?) I am fine…. Makes it difficult. If I had a magic wand and could wish for one thing is that under media ( locked down ) there was a photo of your face. You put it on other dating sites but the one beautiful thing you are seeking most in a relationship, you’re anonymous. We talk about the stigma , kink, shame, whatever word that is anything but beautiful and nurturing but then you hide behind the avatar. This isn’t meant to pick on anyone or be disrespectful at all. I was just My own reasons why I might be construed as picky when in fact, I really would like to know someone. Good luck to everyone who is searching for the beauty and the community.My experience has been, having met a couple of folks here and engaged with conversations with others, that everyone is looking for something different, and that it’s actually easier to get connected here than via traditional dating sites. I think it’s fairly obvious why, in that there’s a shared passion going in. The main issue that I have run into, is simply that there’s a very small local pool of folks who you can legitimately interact with. I’ve gotten messages from several people halfway across the country wishing I was closer, which is so not helpful.
Additionally, as others like @milkme22 said, is that you run into refusal to meet based on spurious grounds, or someone deletes their account surreptitiously after agreeing to a meet, etc. For whatever reason, people are terrified to actually engage in our kink. I haven’t been able to unpack why. I will continue seeking because every time I’ve engaged in ANR is reinforces how much I need it as a part of my life.
When I see men complaining they can’t “find” anyone it feels to me they simply have no interest in putting in the work to find one of these relationships, or that they are likely acting like creeps in DMs.
@pleasedontdeleteme You really have hit the nail on the head with your comments. I wish more men thought like you. ❤️
And @anrlover your comments are also some of the best I’ve read. It really is about the “r” bit in anr for most.
I don’t think they have greater expectations necessarily but there are less of them so just finding a match from a smaller pool than a regular site is of course going to be difficult. You may not even want the same thing here some just want to suckle some want a relationship some are on here and not looking for anything at all and just enjoy the conversations and friendships and the puzzles
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